To want to confess?

[TeenageCentaurMortificado]

AIBU to want a secret confessions thread?

I'll start.

I am stupidly in luuuuuuuurrrvvvvvveeee with a man from work almost 10 years younger than me. He's so lovely, and funny and clever and handsome and I just want to lick him. We get on so well. He'd probably die of shame if he realised and on occasion I feel like I'm old enough to be his mum even though clearly I'm not lol.

But gahhhh, I get the fanny gallops....

NOONE CAN KNOW! I can do nothing about this. No telling on me!

Spill your secrets people!

Op-he soooo likes you...go for it!
My confession is that yesterday I kind of talked my elderly parents into going home (they have been staying since Thursday last week and tentatively asked about staying til this morning and I put them off), because I just wanted to get the house straight before going back to work today, (they are the two most untidy people in the known universe and it makes me twitchy), and watch telly on my own (kids gone to their dads for the night).
I had a lovely evening in my clean tidy house, eating the last of the cheese board and watching Broadchurch.But I do feel bad as they live a long way away and my dad is showing signs of dementia which I know my mum is struggling with.Actually now I feel really bad!

Chunk if it's interfering with your work then take the bull by the horns and initiate something. The dreading and the what ifs are far worse than knowing one way or the other. At least with resolution you can move on. And strong men find women who initiate sexy! Do something today and come back and update, otherwise we will keep hounding you!

Nigel no need to feel bad, houseguests since Thursday is a nice long visit and you're entitled to want your house straightened up after a holiday.

I have a crush on a much much older man.

It goes without saying that I love my dh and our family and would never stray, but I get butterflies whenever I see this guy, he's a proper gentleman and a really cool dude, plus he's in excellent shape which must really take dedication at his age.

You're right Han.

There has been work communication and will be more soon. Plan is to get back on a level with him, then go for the kill no idea what I'm going to say. He's so lovely I think we'd get through it with minimal impact, even if I've read it all wrong.

Dying to spill details but really can't as identifiable. Frustrating!

I don't think you should feel bad either nigel. Just arrange to see/contact them again soon.

I don't know what to say Toast - no harm in a mild crush, there's a lot of it about!

Thanks-I just spoke to mum now and she didn't seem too annoyed so hopefully all well...

The only motivation I have for dieting and the gym is my imaginary relationship with a minor celeb. I have developed story in my head about how wonderful he thinks I am and imagine him doing interviews telling the world. I dont fancy him IRL, am a shy and private person who would never want this IRL but it has motivated me to loose nearly 8kg.

Teenage , The fact that he messaged you before going on hoilday with the lads says a lot in its self. And like you said, many more times after that. Honestly go for it. Easy said then done i know

Chunkychocfest, no problem

Well if you feel that its your responsibility to make the first move then i'd suggest doing that, because i think if you left it how it is now and tried to forget about it , a couple years down the line your going to wonder what would of happened if you had told him, your going to wonder for the rest of your life actually, trust me i know!

Exactly User. I can't forget about it (I've been trying!) and it's permanently on my mind, which is no good at all and just adding extra pressure to everything. I'm going round and round in circles so I need to do something to either kill it or cure it!

And sorry to hear there might have been one that passed you by

I'm supposed to be doing house stuff but I'm sat here RTFT. I've given up smoking as I was really ill recently and so has hubby. We're on the e cigs and he's doing really well. BUT....... there's some tobacco in the car and I keep having sneaky roll ups, not every day just when I have the car. When I don't have the car I don't smoke! Gonna have to get rid of the tobacco but they taste so good!

Yesterday I ate dd & ds last Easter egg while they were out. They haven't noticed yet and I don't feel the slightest bit guilty!

Last night I invited a lovely guy over I've been chatting to on OLD we had hot sweaty sex then when my ex came over to drop the kids off today we had ok sex... I'm disgusted in myself this is so unlike me.

Chunkychocfest,
I'm sorry to be the bad guy and break the bad news to you but it wont go away until something is done, but i wish you the best of luck!, and keep those gins coming!

So Chunk what's the plan?

I farted inadvertently and blamed the baby

Applebite, i'm just pleased it wasn't one of those farts that followed you, no escaping the truth in that one

I may have had to clamp the (screaming wriggling) toddler to my hip and walk around with her, proclaiming loudly about her nappy for a few minutes...

Applybite, nice one 😂

Plan Han??? Do I really have to have one? You mean I can't just promise myself I'll say something, then pretend it's the wrong time? That's not what's happened a hundred times already

Well we're due to speak soon, and to be honest, I've no idea what's going to happen. He's going to be quizzing me on a project direction that I hope will get his support going forward. And this is where it's tricky, as he may not think I'm ready for this particular move, because he's not daft and will sense I'm nervous about something!

So in my mind I'm going to start by feeling like a fraud with an agenda because I'm feeling utterly useless and thinking I can't do any of this until I know where I am with him.

This is why I then end up switching my feelings off and just focussing on the work we're doing, it's too much pressure!

Someone pass me a grip.

I met a guy on OLD in January who ended up exclusive with another girl shortly after...except we were still talking and had an amazing connection. He cheated on her with me.

Now they've broken up and we are together. He says he's not a player, it's just the few months of rebounding after his divorce he did silly things.

I love him and I'm terrified he is a player but I'm hoping it was just a one off thing he did.

chunky maybe you need to tackle hopefully pleasure before business on this occasion?! Oh gosh x, it's been a while. Or it feels like that to me... and lead into it**

** I'm absolutely rubbish at this so you might not want to take my advice! I am most glad about not having to go on dates any more, now I'm stuck with dh

And when do we get the next installment of teenagers tale?!

Yes teenager has gone very quiet!

Ex-dp and I split just over a year ago Dreaming and it's been 17 years since I was last dealing with these kinds of shenanigans

So you reckon I jump straight in? OMG that's scary!!!

I had a massive all-consuming crush on my English teacher as a teen from 13 to 18 when I left school and even now many years later I daydream of him and indulge in thinking about him once in a blue moon something about your first crush never leaves you! I met my OH in an English class at the same school actually the irony makes me smile.