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To want to confess?

446 replies

TeenageCentaurMortificado · 12/04/2017 18:36

AIBU to want a secret confessions thread?

I'll start.

I am stupidly in luuuuuuuurrrvvvvvveeee with a man from work almost 10 years younger than me. He's so lovely, and funny and clever and handsome and I just want to lick him. We get on so well. He'd probably die of shame if he realised and on occasion I feel like I'm old enough to be his mum even though clearly I'm not lol.

But gahhhh, I get the fanny gallops....

NOONE CAN KNOW! I can do nothing about this. No telling on me!

Spill your secrets people!

OP posts:
JustMyLuck84 · 14/04/2017 23:32

Uhtred of Bebbanburg from The Last Kingdom... I'm bloody obsessed!!!! Thursday night can't come quick enough! Shock My husband just thinks I'm fascinated by the Viking era! Grin

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TeenageCentaurMortificado · 14/04/2017 23:43

Um no, no kisses.

BUT. I neglected to mention he's away on holiday today with his mates. And messaged me from the airport. and as soon as he landed and some more

Fucking hell, you lot are making me believe it! Blush Blush

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DreamingOfAFullNightsSleep · 14/04/2017 23:56

teenager I'm believing it!

catswithbowties · 14/04/2017 23:57

OP he sounds like he's on it!!

Another confession: I lost my virginity through a one night stand in my first year of uni. I've no regrets but I've never ever told anyone.

LowMaintenance101 · 15/04/2017 00:02

OP - you are definitely in there!
pinkiepie1 😂😂😂 this is so me! DH used to refer to me as Auntie Social. I have to build myself up to socialising. Cannot abide it when visitors show up unannounced. and that they NEVER turn up when you've just finished cleaning the house top to bottom. Always when it's a hole.

Mummyoflittledragon · 15/04/2017 05:43

Definitely catch a coffee or lunch one day - not in works canteen - so he can tell you about his holiday when he comes back. Keep it casual and see what happens.

HanShootsFirst · 15/04/2017 06:46

OP, he is def into you. If he spent this much time messaging other people from work he would never get anything done!

Suggest getting together to catch up when he gets back and watch how fast he jumps!

My confession is right now I'm on a ski holiday and every time I get off the lift I think I'm going to get seriously injured on the next run.

Ladymadness · 15/04/2017 11:00

Op I'm getting teenage girly butterflies with each of your updates Grin
Ask him out !!
Even if it's just for a coffee Brew

MusicToMyEars800 · 15/04/2017 11:14

GO FOR IT OP!!! it sounds like he likes you as much as you like him, what have you got to lose? let us all know how it goes Smile

Justkeepleft · 15/04/2017 12:16

Had my fist sexy dream not staring dh ever.
It was Rhyan Renolds......he was a dud.
I fail at sexy dreaming

caz323 · 15/04/2017 17:40

justkeepleft unfortunate typo there??!!

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TeenageCentaurMortificado · 15/04/2017 17:44

Ooh Ryan Reynolds 😍

I'm still here people! I'm now away on Easter hols with my son too. I was going to chill and just get on with my hols but I landed to a message or several

So. He either likes me. Or he's lonely (he has tons of friends) or feels weirdly sorry for me (possible) Grin

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hadtoncforthis · 15/04/2017 18:37

Had to NC for this, since people know me in RL.

The night I first met my now DH I'd already had (safe) sex with two people earlier that day at festival. Poor DH had to wait a few months!

Justkeepleft · 15/04/2017 20:11

**Caz- no typo dudiest of dud dreams ever

xmaspost · 15/04/2017 20:55

Many many years ago while in Uni, at a graduation party, I had a hot drunken fumble, grope, etc with another student I'd met for the first time that evening. Never saw him again, forgot about it.

Forward 12 years, I meet DSis new BF, it's him! They are married now, I've never said a word, he never mentioned it to me. I'm fairly sure DSis does not know. We live different parts of the country, and only see each other once, maybe twice a year.

My DH knows.

Everydamnusernametaken · 15/04/2017 23:38

I think I'm still in love with my first love...the one who got away (well I pushed away and ended it!) Keep getting the urge to add him on Facebook but I'm scared (long, complicated story...)

Goingtobeawesome · 16/04/2017 10:59

Everydamn, unless you're both single don't do it..

Justkeepleft · 16/04/2017 13:59

User. Omg whatva horrible situation. It is hard enough living away from familybwithout someone working against you. I hope dh sees the situation for what it was.
All the best for getting your emotional strength back. You deserve the fresh start.

Everydamnusernametaken · 16/04/2017 16:06

Goingtobeawesome I'm single and think he is.. oddly he popped up on my 'see your memories' on Facebook today!

Goingtobeawesome · 16/04/2017 16:14

Then go for it if you still have a place in your life for him.

Chunkychocfest · 16/04/2017 18:04

What is he finding to text you about if you're on hols too teenage? He definitely sounds into you.

My crush on the other hand seems to have gone off the boil. We had a very natural magnetism building over a long time, but either he's now not interested or I pushed him away as I wanted to put my project first (I'm independent, he's a more senior but informal advisor to me from another company). He's been a total gent, massively supportive and I'll be completely lost without him. So much so I've realised I'm in love with him, to the point that I need some kind of closure, as it's affecting my work. He's gone quiet and hasn't replied to work stuff lately Sad. I'm single, and suspect he is too from things he has/hasn't said. Or perhaps he was, and I've taken too long.

HanShootsFirst · 16/04/2017 20:47

Chunky can you ask him to coffee on some work pretext? Or just say you appreciate his work input. Don't just let it disappear without giving it a fighting chance!

Chunkychocfest · 16/04/2017 21:13

Thanks Han, I expect we will have some contact soon, because of work things that are going on, so I intend to do/say something then no idea what, have turned into a gibbering wreck round him! I'm just hideously caught up in paranoia that the attraction is all in my head/one sided and I'll just make a great tit of myself, or just make things really awkward work-wise from now on. But it's awkward for me now any way so I've nothing to lose I guess!

user1492110385 · 17/04/2017 19:28

Chunk, sounds like your blaming yourself for the way things have gone, but dont because you have to remember it works both ways, why must you do all the work? (Approaching, conversations ect.) being hard working and independent is a powerful thing in today's society. Dont let it affect your work, stay above it, independent women rely on nobody but themselves so dont fail yourself for aomebody else!... here dear Wine

Chunkychocfest · 18/04/2017 10:15

Aw that's sweet, thanks user1492 I didn't see your gift of wine last night but I'll have that later Grin. (It's ok, I had gin!).

It's really tricky as it's kind of down to me to initiate, as I think I may have thwarted an advance of sorts in the past and possibly gave the impression I wasn't interested. I can also see it's difficult for him (don't want to out myself saying too much) but I kind of need it out in the open so I can deal with it and move on, because I'm tying myself in knots now over every communication and it's not healthy!

Sorry to hijac your thread teenage. I'll just fill in for a bit while you holiday! Grin