WWUD? Random puking teenager in our kitchen

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We were out this eve, but not esp late (home by 10:30). DD has brought mates back. We know some not all.

They've been drinking booze I've provided (but was supposed to be more than one evening).

DD is 15, yr 10.

One of the kids chucked up. She's fine. She was here on a sleepover,m her parents aware. I know where she lives (20 mins away) but don't know her parents or how to contact them.

I've put her to bed, on her front. Sick bucket and water easily to hand.

What should I do?

I agree dingdong. It is just not true that buying kids alcohol will reduce the likelihood of irresponsible/excessive drinking.

That is observable, has been studied and is bleeding obvious

OFFS every time I come back on here we are back on this cider being OK thing a couple of cans of cider each is a hell of a lot of alcohol!!

At any age really.

7% cider is not lightweight. Is this really what makes the difference ? Cider is fine, just not vodka or something??

And the after prom party thing is so not relevant. Besides which, that's a big one off event a whole year later. And a proper party.

This was 5 - 9 girls (14 and 15 years old) around a house at an impromptu gathering...in whose world does that actually require any supply of alcohol.

It feels very much like OP's DD waited for her parents to go out and then invited some mates round because she had alcohol in the house. I think OP should be livid at her daughter taking advantage really. However, without the stock of alcohol in the house the girls would have had as much (more?) fun singing, eating pizzas and all the other things they did.

Buy booze for teenagers that tastes a bit like fizzy pop and they will drink it like fizzy pop.

Some people seem to think there wasn't enough alcohol consumed to get a girl sick : she may have drunk the lion's share. She may already have been drinking. She may never have drunk before.

To some teens drinking at parties is quite commonplace. But this really wasn't a party. It was a typical teenage night in with pizzas and music. That does not mean alcohol is needed if it ever is

I don't agree with alcohol at 16th parties, as it goes, but at least I can understand that that's a special occasion!

Brass brass bi they were god knows where they were at her house. Big difference you smart arse

I don't agree with alcohol at 16th parties, as it goes, but at least I can understand that that's a special occasion!

Exactly. Having an alcoholic drink on a special occasion such as a prom or 16th birthday party is one thing. Providing a child with alcoholic drinks for their and their friends consumption just because it is a school holiday is totally different especially if you then leave the children in the house unsupervised.

Weren't god knows where they should have read

What colour is the sky in your world - you are out of your mind buying alcohol for underage children and them leaving them to their own devices.

What colour is the sky in your world where you presumably think no-one under 18 ever drinks alcohol at parties or tries to get served in pubs etc?

you're not making any sense sorry

Sorry in back garden and wife intermittent as well as typing skills. No I'm not pissed.
You said she'd ended on with that scenario . I said no she hadn't as the kids weren't in some nightclub or pub they were at least in one of the parent's homes. That is a big difference.

Jesus wifi not wife

No DingDong you're just an epic self righteous twat.

to me if my child was puking up because of unsupervised drinking due to some irresponsible adult it wouldn't make any difference whether it was in their house or a pub. The irresponsible adult would be the common denominator not the location.

So yes she did end up with that scenario and she was the cause of it.

I'm astounded how many are surprised by teenagers having alcohol supplied by parents. I've barely been to any house parties since Year 9 where this hasn't been done, and I don't know anyone remotely rebellious. The worst state I've ever seen anyone in was a boy whose parents banned alcohol at a party, prompting him and his friends to encourage guests to bring as much as possible from wherever they could and him to seemingly think he could drink the lot (he couldn't).

That's a pretty low bar you have there. Not illegally giving providing intoxicating substances to children until they can't even use their one phones makes one a self righteous twat to you?

Well fuck me sideways, glad I don't live on your planet.

I have heard of parents buying their own children booze, but not for other children to consume. If I was one of the other parents I would be ringing the police.

You cant even by wine at ASDA if you have a teenager with you.

IAmAmy define party please.

I think lots of us do agree there may well be alcohol at parties - provided or otherwise. At what point does something become a party?

Lots of us are really surprised this alcohol was bought in a supplies for low key 'socialising' over the holiday period. Or have you not RTFT?

Oh God Anon this definitely means you haven't RTFT! There was a five page row about this ages ago!

Because I am a teacher on holiday avoiding my marking I have read the whole thing and we've been through this...

DingDong : I just think you are self right eous

DingDong yes it does make you self righteous. You and all these other people pretending you're part of the perfect parent brigade.

Some of the comments on here are both risible and so disproportionately unkind it's untrue.
Do you some of you like kicking a dog when it's down?

I'd rather have a parent that made the odd mistake which might result in my mate getting pissed in my living room at 15 then some ascetic sour puss who got a kick out of castigating another parents well intentioned but unfortunate course of action.

If I was this random puking teenager and my parents called the police on my friends mother I'd be a lot more ashamed of them than myself.

And her making no real or sustained attempt to contact the parents of the puking girl was all right how, exactly?

I think people on MN are holier than thou about stuff like orange squash and junk food. This, however, is alcohol and 14 and 15 year olds.

I'm sorry ginliness but I don't get which bit is well intentioned.

I do agree that calling the police is very disproportionate - DingDong hasn't said she would.

And there are perfect parents and just responsible ones who don't model alcohol drinking as a necessary addendum to a small social gathering.

ILikeBeansWithKetchup I've admittedly not read the full thread but feel I have the gist from the first couple of pages and last three or so. At the age of 15 I had friends round and was round at houses many times where alcohol was not present or permitted but there were also many "gatherings" which weren't at the level of a party where alcohol was provided by the parents (my parents always used to lecture me on drinking if they knew it would be but they had/have no issue with responsible drinking). On a Saturday night in the holidays doesn't surprise me at all and is pretty commonplace from what I know of.

I don't think the dog is down. I am sure OP has gone away while we continue to debate I choose to do so without using words like twat

She did not reflect at all and said she learnt nothing. So there you go. She's hardly down / quaking in a corner.

Thanks for the definition. I only ever had alcohol at proper parties from what I recall. But that was last century (literally). It seems it has been normalised a s a social thing to some teenagers now and I do know how much some of the drink.

I still absolutely think it was not necessary - but , that aside, the girls took it without checking or asking that it was OK to because it was available and there and they weren't under supervision at that point in time. OP needed to lay down some ground rules. She expected the booze to last the entire holiday! It suggest no discussions were held beforehand about how to responsibly drink! (Not that I think you can at 15 in truth)

If - big if -I bought alcohol for my 15 yo DS , I would tell him he could only ever drink it in the house with me present and asking first and that would be that.

The girl was fine.
Stop making such a big deal of it. Have some of you never lived? Were you all teenagers in the Enid Blyton years? Did you spend your Saturday evenings with mates quaffing gold top and ham sandwiches.

Honestly it's absolutely pathetic.

Some of you who pride yourselves on being responsible parents aren't coming across as very realistic or kind people I have to say.

If this happens to my kids when they're that age I'll just say well I hope that's taught you a lesson. I certainly won't be on the warpath with whichever friend's parents it is.

Some of you will have children this has happened to. Fact. You're probably just so rigid and unapproachable it's escaped your attention.

It IS a big deal. stop looking at it from the point of view of a child and try acting like a parent.

It is realistic not to poison other peoples children. It is not kind to do so.

Some of us will have children that this will happen to. Because idiots like you will give booze to our children behind our backs. If you could not do that, it would help a lot.