Can't believe this is still going on.
Graphista, the alcohol was brought in for general use by DD for the holidays and maybe beyond. I'd expected her to share it, but not had conversations with the other parents. I don't think it's my business to do so. I didn't think it would be drunk here, as mostly they've had afternoons in parks or evenings in each others houses.
They've drunk most of it and I'm not rushing out to restock. I posted earlier today about how none of the evening was pre-arranged other than me and DH being out. I'm sorry your angry with me, but I'm only a stranger on the internet.
For those saying "drip feed", I'm very sorry. That wasn't intentional. My title isn't AIBU it's a typo'd WWYD.... In my other thread, I was accused of "drop feeding" (rather than drip feeding). A phrase I'd never seen here before. And there were posts saying things like 'I feel like I know OP's DD better than my own child'. I actually didn't think you'd all think it was relevant that our night out was prearranged and DD's friends over was spontaneous.... The important thing was that a child had been sick in my kitchen. I said that we'd been out but not very late.
We'd come home early because the kids were round. We dealt with it as best as we thought we could given that we'd been out drinking ourselves. We did all we could to make sure all the kids were ok, not traumatised and got home safe. We spent a good hour chatting to DD after the others went and puker was in bed. I then sat up for a while to monitor her and make sure she was ok, and thought I'd spend that time on MN and here was a potential thread that could give me advice. Other than "use the recovery position rather than putting her on her front", it wasn't a great deal of use. But I did do that after reading it on here.
Before DD and I put her to bed, I asked sick girl if she wanted me to call her parents. If she'd said yes, I'd have used her phone. She said no and we put her to bed, which i thought was the best place for her. After I'd put her to bed, I couldn't call her parents as I don't have their number and didn't know her phone code.
DD has stayed over at hers maybe 4 times. She's stayed here twice before yesterday. I don't know and haven't spoken to her parents, but i know where she lives. I couldn't have driven her last night because I'd been drinking.
Sorry if there are any other points I haven't answered. I posted this because I was hoping for advice, but basically got slaughtered. And most (to be fair, not all) slaughterings were based on assumptions wrongly made.
I don't have an issue with MN making assumptions.... You're only told what you're told with an OP, and you have to fill in the gaps. But I was worried about a child last night and was looking for advice and basically just got ripped a new one. I didn't find it especially helpful.
And saying "well, the OP dripfed" as an excuse for not backing down/now understanding/changing position/saying sorry is quite ungracious.
I understand why this thread was angry. But I could have really used your help and advice last night, and didn't really get that. I think that's a shame.