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WWUD? Random puking teenager in our kitchen

809 replies

chastenedButStillSmiling · 09/04/2017 01:03

We were out this eve, but not esp late (home by 10:30). DD has brought mates back. We know some not all.

They've been drinking booze I've provided (but was supposed to be more than one evening).

DD is 15, yr 10.

One of the kids chucked up. She's fine. She was here on a sleepover,m her parents aware. I know where she lives (20 mins away) but don't know her parents or how to contact them.

I've put her to bed, on her front. Sick bucket and water easily to hand.

What should I do?

OP posts:
Orlantina · 09/04/2017 11:35

One thing I know I would not be doing if I came home after leaving my DS with a load of alcohol I had brought and finding a drunk, random puking teenager in my kitchen would be posting on MN for advice - especially given the fact that the OP ran parenting classes where she gives advice.

That's kind of asking for a flaming.

ILikeBeansWithKetchup · 09/04/2017 11:36

So Nojelly saying 'I'll see if I can find it for you' is rude.

Goodness.

Seems we'll never agree on anything!

Whether the sample is small, large or huge , it still makes for interesting reading.

StealthPolarBear · 09/04/2017 11:36

If he really is a statistician then ask him seriously. He should confirm that actually the sample size is appropriate for conclusions to be drawn.

StealthPolarBear · 09/04/2017 11:37

And if there's a long term mners who is fairly neutral on this thread I'm willing to out myself. I can prove I am who I say I am.

StealthPolarBear · 09/04/2017 11:38

Calling me a liar and trying to trump my knowledge with what she thinks her statistician dh might say is very rude

Nojellyintrifle · 09/04/2017 11:38

Yes, I think I am. No statistician would pull quotes without a link to the origin of the stats or whether it was self reporting or not.

It's a pretty big sample size but self reporting which isn't particularly accurate.

One of mine doesn't drink alcohol at all, one does rarely and one does a lot (at uni).

I know a few parents who claim that their dc don't drink at all, they do.

I wouldn't be happy at 15 year olds drinking but there is a lot of self righteousness on this thread.

ILikeBeansWithKetchup · 09/04/2017 11:39

Oh ! Nojelly , I juts read what you said t SPB.

And I'M the one who's rude??!!?

Orlantina · 09/04/2017 11:39

Anyway, if someone is puking up, the best advice is to sit with them. Help them be sick. Give them water. Make sure they don't choke on their vomit. Keep an eye on them.

Then try and contact their parents. Or keep them safe till the morning. Then contact their parents.

I would hope someone would do the same for her DD if / when she ends up in a similar situation at someone's house where alchohol is freely available and no parents are around.

MsJamieFraser · 09/04/2017 11:39

And yet your the one whose saying I am patronising Hmm

I also done nothing but quote the law, and I have also not said this is about the law. just highlighting the misconception that many had on here regarding the law.

SPB is a statistician, been a member on here for years, shes very good at it as well.

Nojellyintrifle · 09/04/2017 11:39

I have been here since 2003.Confused

ILikeBeansWithKetchup · 09/04/2017 11:40

Typos caused by shock! Grin

mowgeli · 09/04/2017 11:40

Jeez ladies can you all calm down its very normal teenager behaviour.
I have definitely had my share of teenage drunkenness at my friends houses and I always just prayed I never got ratted out.
I would always apologise the next day.
Just drop the girl home and give her a fry up for breakfast.
There are worse things on the planet!
Well done you for being concerned though OP.
I hope I can have a relationship with my son where they know I am invested in them and there for them and their friends through the good times and the bad.
Who supplied the alcohol is kind of irrelevant. It's more to do with self discipline. E.g. Do we now blame alcohol companies for alcoholism? Do we blame shops for selling us cigarettes? The food we eat for making us fat? The homework not being done because it was given out? NO it's all down to our own response to situations and rest of you can stfu if you think it's the mums fault!

Orlantina · 09/04/2017 11:40

And if there's a long term mners who is fairly neutral on this thread I'm willing to out myself. I can prove I am who I say I am

Stealth doesn't need outing. I'm surprised certain people are reacting to her posting of a study on teenage drinking.

StealthPolarBear · 09/04/2017 11:40

Fine. Not sure how to prove it to you, unless anyone is willing to verify me.

Nojellyintrifle · 09/04/2017 11:41

Yes, very rude ILikeBeansWithKetchup.

Nojellyintrifle · 09/04/2017 11:42

I am afraid that I know of no well respected statisticians who would quote without source, sample size and how the study is reported.

ILikeBeansWithKetchup · 09/04/2017 11:42

I don't think this is about self righteousness. I said my DS doesn't drink just to prove they don't all drink.

But I know he will one day and that's fine. And he'll probably get very drunk and stupid etc. But not under my roof. With alcohol bought by me. That's not self righteous in my book

And if one of his mates threw up in my house I would mop it all up, look after him and phone his parents. Common sense.

StealthPolarBear · 09/04/2017 11:42

Name someone ill recognise and trust and you'll believe.

mowgeli · 09/04/2017 11:42

Also jelly did your username used gobbe frog because she likes accusing people of lying too!!
Why are we all so bloody nasty to each other?

MsJamieFraser · 09/04/2017 11:42

I know Grin

Think I joined in 2007/8.. before than I was on askamum and bounty.... then I got dragged alone to the dark side Wink

Nojellyintrifle · 09/04/2017 11:43

Depends on whether you think the comments that call her a shit parent are self righteous or not.

I think that they are.

StealthPolarBear · 09/04/2017 11:43

I'm on a chat forum. I quoted the results from the main page. AsI have said it is considered he most authoritative and recent view of young people's behaviours and health attitudes. It's not just some little survey.

Orlantina · 09/04/2017 11:43

NO it's all down to our own response to situations and rest of you can stfu if you think it's the mums fault

So the mum has no responsibility whatsoever? She can just wash her hands of the situation. Despite supplying alcohol to teenagers who aren't known for sensible behaviour and aren't susceptible to peer pressure? Despite going out leaving them unsupervised?

No responsibilty at all?

SmileEachDay · 09/04/2017 11:43

Stealth I've been around a long time, under a variety of names. For sure you've mentioned your job before.

You really don't have to "prove" yourself.

StealthPolarBear · 09/04/2017 11:44

Never heard of Askamum,

did bad mothers club close down?

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