To not really get why folk have threesomes

[PetallyTyrants]

It just seems like a lot of work

I'd rather Mumsnet.

Am I right or am I missing out?

Verybutchyrestingface made me laugh out loud with I can't be bothered with a onesome. Loved it.

Two blokes tried to have a threesome with me one time! We got as far as the bed before I got scared and ran away

I had a friend who, with her husband, hired a prostitute for a threesome. Apparently the husband got very into it and my friend got left out.. It was pretty much the beginning of the end of her marriage. I never got the chance when I was young free and single sadly, but could never do it with my husband. It would be horrible ☹️

Never had a threesome, never wanted to and never will.

Each to their own but I only want sex with my OH. The thought of sex with another man makes me feel slightly sick. The thought of sex with another woman makes me feel really sick.

I have known a few couples over the years who have been into swinging although in every case it was the man who wanted to do it and the woman went along with it. I don't think any of the couples are still together and, in one case, the woman went off with one of the other men and they have been together for quite a few years.

Oh I do like camping though

Actually, non-monogamy takes lots of trust and great communication as well as honesty... all ingredients for a successful loving and commited relationship.
^ This.
I have sometimes wondered about this. I would love to hear from someone who is BOTH a Mumsnetter and in an open relationship (can't bring myself up to go on the relevant forums elsewhere).

I haven't done it but I would.
I'm intrigued with FFF. I reckon it would solve any jealousy issues too. Not that I'd have them anyway.
I wouldn't be interested in MMF at all.

haveacupoftea that would very likely be my reaction too.

Agree with what others have said that it's a great way to explore bisexuality. I've had a few FFM, never me and 2 blokes (don't think I'd want that..too many things being put in places).

I gotta say though as someone who is bi and has had relationships with women, the worst thing is horny men assuming 2 girls want a threesome like we all live in a porno The amount of times I'd be out with my ex and we'd be invited back with some bloke. She was beautiful though- a double of Kate Beckisale so I couldn't blame the dues.

Oh and I'm currently watching a series on Netflix called You Me Her about a couple who both fall in love with a girl and they start a polyamorous relationship. It's a whole other topic of conversation but I find the whole monogamy vs polygamy really interesting and sometimes do think not everyone is wired for monogamy

well @choclover27 if you are going to suggest a MM one with you that might depend on if you think he likes choc too!

I've never had one but I've always wanted one, I'm happy with me and another girl and guy, or even two guys. Can't now as I'm in a relationship and think I would get jealous lol

My partner though, he lost his virginity in a threesome, two girls. He said he was bitten everywhere and smiles fondly 😂
Each to their own isn't it really, whatever makes you happy and doesn't upset the person you are with then go for it, I'm gutted I've lost my chance lol.

I love the idea and would definitely be up for it as long as a) DH didn't so much as notice the body or bits of another female and b) I was about 2 stone lighter and c) it was all about me. I basically wouldn't want to do too much work but I would want all the focus on me and me to get all the joy and I'd definitely be up for a double stuffing or whatever it's called! Also would never want to see the man or woman ever again!

Why do people assume a MMF threesome involves double penetration of the female? Now I haven't had one, but have had sex with several bi-men who had had them and they involved the two men getting off on each other (numerous ways of doing that same as with any other couple) and then one or both of the men copping off with the female but no DP of the female.

One of these men, I'll call him Mike, explained that, for him personally, when he went with a man he wanted only sex with him, although wasn't adverse to watching that man have sex with a woman after he'd 'got his' as he put it .

I think ppl assume it because it appears in porn a lot. I dont watch porn but i have read womens erotic fiction in the past and it appeared there a bit too. Not my thing at all..............neither is anal............ugh.

I guess that's it, Helena. Just a bit narrow-minded and unimaginative, though. There's plenty to be done besides DP or anal, from what I understand of it all. Not my cup of tea but I did ask, not just Mike but um, Jay and Andre, too. They'd had a MMM threesome themselves but only one was the 'taker'. All were exceptional in bed, FWIW, lots of stuff besides penetration, took their time. All about enjoying the whole thing not just going for the home run.

Mike had actually lived with a couple of guys.

Another, 'Scott', had also had long-term live in relationships with other men. He was a bit older than I was, by about 14 years, so had been part of the whole 'free love' stuff in the 70s. Bi guys are hot in bed, IME.

MMF threesomes can also involve each male taking turns with the female and the other watching rather than it always having to involve DP.

Some people need to get out more .

YY expat Not all gay men are into anal There was a Channel 4 drama called Cucumber a couple of years ago which smashed a few myths.

expat they sound great

send them over here

They were, Helena. Ah, back in the day! This was many years ago back in my not misspent youth.

Threesomes certainly don't have to include DP, or all-on-all action as such.
Might be worth pointing out that I write erotic fiction, including a short series on a threesome (married couple with a male friend) which becomes polyamory, and they have tried many positions and combinations. One involved double penetration, but others have included anal between the guys while one guy is going down on the girl, spitroasting, and one where both guys just give the girl all their attention. They're very uh... flexible, especially because they know it's not their 'only opportunity' and can just try another combination next time :P

DH is fully aware of my pastime and doesn't complain one bit about how I put my imagination to use, haha!

I had to Google 'spitroasting' and here I thought I was pretty liberal , just never knew it had a name. It's sex, big deal. Some people like to have sex with lots of people, some don't want to have sex with anyone at all, some like it with themselves, some like it with both men and women, some like it with just males or females, some like polyamory, some like monogamy, some are situationally homosexual, some aren't. Takes all kinds.

Late to this thread.

Had an MmM when I was at college with two older guys who picked me up at a club.

Totally illegal back then as I was 17 and the minimum age was 21! Kept going back for a few weeks.

Never told the DW, she would walk!

I had a threesome with my female friend and her partner. It was clearly towards the end of their relationship and I must admit, with him looking like an Adonis, I fancied him like hell. I wasn't really into girl on girl action but boy, did I enjoy him fucking going back and forth between the two of us. Makes me smile when I think of it. After they separated he did track me down for just the two of us to continue where we left off but I declined as it just didn't feel right.

" fucking going back and forth between the two of us"

Known as double dipping.

'Never told the DW, she would walk!'

That's quite sad. It's only love.