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about birthday cake

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NotInMyBackYard1 · 04/04/2017 22:36

I might be being totally precious about this - but here goes. Family and I were away for the weekend, DM joined us for the day, when she went to leave I asked her to take home DS's birthday cake which we had taken with us and not opened/put candles on/sung over/cut/eaten
(it was a Colin the Caterpillar cake if that affects the outcome of this AIBU! Grin) and save it as its not his actual birthday until this weekend coming.
DM brought said cake round to me today, with the box open, cake covered in foil and with a slice missing off the end - she says 'oh its my favourite cake, I just couldn't resist it'
I'm still slightly gobsmacked that DS's grandmother would think it ok to slice up and eat his birthday cake - before he had even seen it or blown the candles out. AIBU?

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DedicationToSparkleMotion · 04/04/2017 22:38

That's ridiculously rude of her.

Sirzy · 04/04/2017 22:39

Bizzare for her to do but you are planning on keeping the cake for a week before even starting it? I find that a bit odd to surely even shop cakes like that won't be particularly fresh after over a week?

clairethewitch70 · 04/04/2017 22:39

Tell her to buy a new one and she can eat all of the one she has opened. I am gobsmacked. YANBU

Chocolatecake12 · 04/04/2017 22:41

Well basically she's just eaten the caterpillars bum!
But HOW RUDE!
I too would be gobsmacked but wouldn't want a scene so would say nothing and learn for the next time - she cannot be trusted around cake.

mynachos · 04/04/2017 22:41

Yes rude of her....... but why did you have it a week early while on holiday?

BillyButtfuck · 04/04/2017 22:45

The fucking cheek of her Shock

HeddaGarbled · 04/04/2017 22:47

You are both being unreasonable, her for sneaking a slice, you for taking a cake on holiday and then sending it home early, like a schoolchild who'd misbehaved.

Bubbinsmakesthree · 04/04/2017 22:48

Shock outrageous!

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NotInMyBackYard1 · 04/04/2017 22:48

We were away as DS birthday treat so thought cake & balloons would make a nice occasion of it - as it was kids were tired and irritable and it was way past bedtime so we veto'ed the cake and took them off to hotel room for bed. Cake had use by date of middle of April so was fine to eat either this weekend or next weekend. However I'd normally expect the birthday child to have at least blown the candles out before cake was cut!

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5OBalesofHay · 04/04/2017 22:49

You could just get another

Pastaagain78 · 04/04/2017 22:52

She was very rude. But I don't understand... why did Colin come on holiday with you? Why did she take Colin home with her? At least it wasn't Colin's face!

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NotInMyBackYard1 · 04/04/2017 22:53

She ate Colin's bum Grin

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wictional · 04/04/2017 22:54

I'd put that question to her!
"DM, why have you cut and eaten DS's birthday cake when he hasn't even had the candles out on yet?"

LagunaBubbles · 04/04/2017 22:55

Sirzy supermarket cakes have so many preservatives in them they usually have a use by category a few weeks.

LagunaBubbles · 04/04/2017 22:56

Category?? Date!

LagunaBubbles · 04/04/2017 22:57

And no OP that's really odd behaviour from her!

TheWitTank · 04/04/2017 23:02

I would have told her to enjoy the rest and replace the cake for next weekend so it will be fresh and look nice with the candles on. She ate it, she replaces it. It is really rude, she could have asked first.

Floggingmolly · 04/04/2017 23:07

Very odd of her, it it was odd of you to take the cake away with you and then decide to send it home uneaten.
Buy this fella next time and there'll be enough for everyone

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chugging · 04/04/2017 23:08

I think that's bad!

Also, I find it weird that an adult would have such a specific favourite cake to the extent they couldn't have it in their home without eating it.

chugging · 04/04/2017 23:09

And if you wanted a slightly less confrontational way of raising it with her, tell her the cake has gone stale because she opened it and cut the end off so she'll need to replace it.

JW13 · 04/04/2017 23:09

That's outrageous!

When I was a child I had a Colin the Caterpillar cake and a family friend ate the head. I was distraught.

I'm still scarred. My husband got me one a few years ago as I still bang on about it (I'm 34 now). I'll never get over it! Blush

TheWitTank · 04/04/2017 23:11

JW13Flowers
I get you. The rule is the birthday boy or girl eats the head. Shockingly bad cake behaviour! Grin

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NotInMyBackYard1 · 04/04/2017 23:11

Giant Colin looks amazing - I might text her the link and see if she gets the hint!
Flogging my eldest DD has SEN and is pretty uncontrollable when tired and her medication wears off, the younger two are 5 and almost 3 - it was approaching 9pm and after a very busy day they were just past it. I'd asked the restaurant to bring Colin out after our main course (I supplied the candles too!) but they clearly forgot all about it and after waiting 45mins - I admit I lost patience and just wanted to pay and leave!

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ChasedByBees · 04/04/2017 23:15

What did you say to her? Surely you pointed out that was a horrible/rude thing to do and she needs to replace it?

ChicRock · 04/04/2017 23:18

Ridiculous of you to ask your DM to take it home for you in the first place, if it was that precious why didn't you take it home yourself?

It's a six quid (if that) supermarket cake, not a made to order, hand designed, sculpted fondant masterpiece.

Eat it and buy another.