about birthday cake

[NotInMyBackYard1]

I might be being totally precious about this - but here goes. Family and I were away for the weekend, DM joined us for the day, when she went to leave I asked her to take home DS's birthday cake which we had taken with us and not opened/put candles on/sung over/cut/eaten
(it was a Colin the Caterpillar cake if that affects the outcome of this AIBU! ) and save it as its not his actual birthday until this weekend coming.
DM brought said cake round to me today, with the box open, cake covered in foil and with a slice missing off the end - she says 'oh its my favourite cake, I just couldn't resist it'
I'm still slightly gobsmacked that DS's grandmother would think it ok to slice up and eat his birthday cake - before he had even seen it or blown the candles out. AIBU?

pyong that's so sad. Nothing's bloody sacred to some people!

If I was absolutely desperate for a bit of chocolate, I might ask one of the kids if I could borrow a bit of theirs, but I'd replace it next time I went to the shop (probably with an extra bit too). I would never steal it from them without asking.

I have stolen it from them without asking but as soon as they were old enough to notice then I asked or resisted.

That is utterly selfish of her - ruining a child's birthday cake before the child has even set eyes on it!!!! What a greedy cow. What is the matter with some people!!!

It's a 7 pound birthday cake from a supermarket. It's not like the OP spent days slaving in the kitchen baking an elaborate cake. If it happened to us, we'd just make a joke about it.

Of course it's a weird, greedy thing to do but I just couldn't care.

Thanks for explaining Colin's movements OP I was imagining him being taken on holiday with you, complete with photos uploaded to FB of Colin and the kids enjoying an ice cream.

Yes, it's wierd, very wierd. It was clearly a birthday cake and you don't break into a birthday cake until the candles have been blown out.

Its very very out of character for her. Aside from this thread and having a bit of a giggle about my DM chomping on Colin's bottom, I am a little concerned about something else going on in the background. Keeping an eye on her for any further odd and uncharacteristic behaviour. In the meantime, I am off to buy a new birthday cake tomorrow morning - so its fresh! For all the posters worrying about the shortened, stale Colin - he's long since gone!

Did she have a good childhood, OP, or were things like presents and birthday cakes lacking?

I think some people try and compensate for what they didn't have as children.

I suspect that she just really fancied cake.

I probably would have eaten it. All of it.

And bought a new one and not told anyone because I was ashamed.

Hope your DM is OK op. Is she in the age range for dementia? Just a thought. She may be secretly mortified by what she did but just ignoring it if she doesn't understand what made her do it. Please don't follow any advice along the lines of showing her up for it.

YANBU she was bang out of order to eat your DS's cake like that when he hadn't even seen it or got to blow out the candles tell her that she needs to replace the cake. What kind of person eats some of a child's cake that's just cheeky and rude.

Why does stealing devouring nibbling cake signal dementia?

I often do things like this, though I replace what I have scoffed before anyone is aware of my uncontrollable greed. Except for the year I are all the kids' Halloween sweeties and told them that mice had got into their bedrooms

(Not really)