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about birthday cake

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NotInMyBackYard1 · 04/04/2017 22:36

I might be being totally precious about this - but here goes. Family and I were away for the weekend, DM joined us for the day, when she went to leave I asked her to take home DS's birthday cake which we had taken with us and not opened/put candles on/sung over/cut/eaten
(it was a Colin the Caterpillar cake if that affects the outcome of this AIBU! Grin) and save it as its not his actual birthday until this weekend coming.
DM brought said cake round to me today, with the box open, cake covered in foil and with a slice missing off the end - she says 'oh its my favourite cake, I just couldn't resist it'
I'm still slightly gobsmacked that DS's grandmother would think it ok to slice up and eat his birthday cake - before he had even seen it or blown the candles out. AIBU?

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NotInMyBackYard1 · 04/04/2017 23:19

She came in with it and said 'oh I have a confession, I've eaten a slice as its my favourite cake' I said 'oh right' Shock and made clear I wasn't that impressed. She then said 'oh I'll buy another if you want me to' in hindsight I should have said 'don't you think you ought to?' I was too stunned to say anything else and she left. Very very odd indeed.

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highinthesky · 04/04/2017 23:31

To an adult it's no biggie. To a child that knows this is their birthday cake it is a very big deal. So I don't really understand why you're mithering over what amounts to a few quid. If you want to make your point, buy a replacement and send the original back to MIL with your best wishes.

PS Floggingmolly you need to charge your iPad

PPS MIL can't have liked it that much if she only ate a slice Grin

ChasedByBees · 04/04/2017 23:41

Test her back in He morning and tell her yes, you need a new cake as DS will be very upset.

chastenedButStillSmiling · 04/04/2017 23:43

No disrespect, but I find this whole thread a tadd odd... You intend to celebrate birthday a week early (why??)

You end up not doing so

You try to recycle party but DGM has sabotaged.

None of it sounds that much like a glorious celebration.

Whatevs. I hope your DS has a lovely birthday.

As to your AIBU, depends on the age of the child. If he's less than 3 he won't notice. 3+ and it's probably quite crap of her to have done it.

I'm trying, but don't think I'm helping, sorry!

Crumbs1 · 04/04/2017 23:43

Did she realise it was a birthday cake?

5OBalesofHay · 05/04/2017 23:59

Just get another and get over it Confused

Teatowelfairy · 06/04/2017 00:13

It's a bit odd and she probably thought she could get away with taking a slice from the back but if it was a typical round cake would she have just cut a slice before giving it to the birthday boy/girl? Tell her she needs to buy him a new cake!

ForTheSakeOfFuck · 06/04/2017 15:56

Wow. That's pretty mean-spirited of your DM. She was BVVVU. You don't eat a child's birthday cake before they've seen/sung over it and blown out the candles, no matter what the circumstances are leading up to the birthday. And even then, birthday child gets the first slice. Without a question, in my mind, she needs to replace it, quietly, before the big day.

Hercules12 · 06/04/2017 15:59

I can understand how she was tempted and had to eat a piece. They are yummy cakes! But she should have bought you another and kept it as a secret.

lazytuesday · 06/04/2017 16:01

Id have told her that she should keep it if she craved chocolate enough to cut into it before her grandchild had even blown the candles out on it. Say that you are sorry that she has this issue and it must be very hard for her but you are happy to buy a new cake for your son and will keep her addiction problems to yourself.

That should get the point across.

IhadsexwithanelfinIceland · 06/04/2017 17:22

It is absolutely and without question a very strange thing to open and start eating a birthday cake that belongs to a small child. I honestly don't know what the rest of you are on, crazy Mumsnet bubble.

SapphireStrange · 06/04/2017 17:29

Pretty shitty behaviour. I wouldn't do that with anyone's birthday cake, child or adult.

Branleuse · 06/04/2017 17:34

also a bit weird that colin the caterpillar is an adults favourite cake

expatinscotland · 06/04/2017 17:38

What is she, 5? I'd tell her to take it back and buy him another cake. That's super shitty behaviour and fucking rude.

whomovedmychocolate · 06/04/2017 17:38

My ex-MiL ate the chocolates bought FOR ME by MY DM to celebrate our child's birthday because I had to stay in hospital and she 'couldn't wait' till I could get home to open them.

OP I feel your pain and your MiL is a weirdo.

Next time you serve her a Sunday dinner, take a bite out of every roast potato and say 'ahhh sorry I just loooove potatoes'

OvariesBeforeBrovaries · 06/04/2017 17:39

also a bit weird that colin the caterpillar is an adults favourite cake

You take that back Angry

BuntyFigglesworthSpiffington · 06/04/2017 17:40

Well that's certainly one well travelled Colin the Caterpillar cake.

She was of course tight not to buy a new cake.

Birdsgottaf1y · 06/04/2017 17:43

""also a bit weird that colin the caterpillar is an adults favourite cake""

You can get a Wedding version. I love shop bought Birthday Cake. But I would have never owned up, I would have bought a new cake. That may have been influenced by me not stopping at one piece, mind you.

Awful behaviour.

about birthday cake
SootSprite · 06/04/2017 17:44

Colin the caterpillar rocks!

OrangeIsTheNewPop · 06/04/2017 17:45

Or...you could text the following...

Oh Mother, dear, you joined us all
For the birthday of DS
We asked you then to take back home
The cake, and you said "yes"
The restaurant did drag their feet
They forgot us- what a farce
Then to top it all, we find out
You have scoffed poor Colin's arse!

Zaphodsotherhead · 06/04/2017 17:47

Colin is chocolate covered swiss roll! How can anybody be expected to resist?

But she should have replaced the cake. And then eaten the whole of the original. And kept quiet.

BuntyFigglesworthSpiffington · 06/04/2017 17:47

Perhaps MIL and Colin had built up a special bond. They had certainly spent a lot of time together. Maybe Colin wanted her to nibble on his ass.

brickinitIam · 06/04/2017 17:48

Is there any chance you could make some icing up in the same colour and ice over Colin's bum?
He would still be Colin, but would be Short Colin.

HollywoodStunt · 06/04/2017 17:50

Next time you serve her a Sunday dinner, take a bite out of every roast potato and say 'ahhh sorry I just loooove potatoes'

Nearly pissed myself reading that Grin

Aimeeandbaby1 · 06/04/2017 17:50

I'd be really narked! At least it wasn't a super expensive hand made one I guess and can be replaced. I'd ask her to get another.

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