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about birthday cake

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NotInMyBackYard1 · 04/04/2017 22:36

I might be being totally precious about this - but here goes. Family and I were away for the weekend, DM joined us for the day, when she went to leave I asked her to take home DS's birthday cake which we had taken with us and not opened/put candles on/sung over/cut/eaten
(it was a Colin the Caterpillar cake if that affects the outcome of this AIBU! Grin) and save it as its not his actual birthday until this weekend coming.
DM brought said cake round to me today, with the box open, cake covered in foil and with a slice missing off the end - she says 'oh its my favourite cake, I just couldn't resist it'
I'm still slightly gobsmacked that DS's grandmother would think it ok to slice up and eat his birthday cake - before he had even seen it or blown the candles out. AIBU?

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GotToGetMyFingerOut · 07/04/2017 18:29

That's actually so ridiculous it's comical! What age is he? If it's an age he'd noticed I'd just buy a new one.

GeekyWombat · 07/04/2017 19:02

Oh my God. Wedding Colin the Caterpillars?! If DH and I had known about this we'd have totally had them when we got married.

Have a sudden desperate urge for a big slice of Colin the Caterpillar, warmed in the microwave with double cream (what? After DD's birthday party we decided we deserved a treat). Unfortunately no Colin here. I think there's a mini roll in the back of the fridge. I'm going to have to eat that slowly. And squint.

nannygoat50 · 07/04/2017 19:31

Glad it's not just me that thinks it's odd to take cake on holiday with you and sendcit back with someone else uneaten 😜

Lovelymess · 07/04/2017 19:37

V rude and bizzare!!

TheMysteriousJackelope · 07/04/2017 20:30

AnnabelC The OP was planning on keeping the cake for a few more days before serving it. Now it has been opened and sliced it is liable to go stale or moldy before she can do that.

No, not the crime of the century (and nobody said it was) but still inconsiderate. Now the OP has to make an extra shopping trip to buy another cake.

KeepYourPowderDry · 07/04/2017 20:48

WTAF?! Haven't read any of the replies but would literally cut my nipples off if anyone though you were BU. I mean, if I had the cake in my cupboard for a week (a day) I'd have eaten more than the arse end but I would have hotfooted it to M&S to replace. I am a gluttonous cow and even I wouldn't do what she did lol

NotACompleterFinis · 07/04/2017 20:51

DM is probably sugar sensitive - or completely insensitive. Send her a link to the Radiant Recovery website.

thenewaveragebear1983 · 07/04/2017 20:59

I'd keep the original cake, do the candles etc on ds's birthday- then when you cut the cake and hand it around to your guests, say in a very loud and sing song voice:
"Oooooh none for granny, granny's already had her slice!"
And then all sit around eating yours. Try and get chocolate all round your mouth and make mmmmmm noises.

Stealing cake from a baby. Outrageous!

ProlificPoster · 07/04/2017 21:59

It disgusts me when people just indulge their greed as if it doesnt matter. I wonder how many Easter eggs have been eaten by greedy parents who just cant have chocolate in the house without filling their gluttonous faces with it and post "ooh naughty me, better buy a new one for the DC!" No, disgusting greedy you, grow the fuck up!

Blush. Well that's me told Grin 🍫🍫🍫

HappyFlappy · 07/04/2017 22:15

I wonder how many Easter eggs have been eaten by greedy parents who just cant have chocolate in the house without filling their gluttonous faces with it

Look - eating the Easter eggs is for the benefit of the child. With childhood obesity levels rising and Type II diabetes through the roof, any thoughtful mother is prepared - nay, obliged - to sacrifice herself for her little ones.

The fact that Easter eggs are delicious is neither here nor there.

Anyway, if they aren't eaten within a day they attract ants.

HappyFlappy · 07/04/2017 22:20

Alex

YES!!!

bbismad · 07/04/2017 22:22

Bloody old people...think they can get away with anything!!

Yes that was rude... could she not have bought him a new one!!??

Housemum · 07/04/2017 22:52

Totally missing the point - that face of Colon is just a bit creepy isn't it? Think it would have freaked me out as a kid!

PyongyangKipperbang · 07/04/2017 23:05

I was the child who couldnt leave any easter egg in the fridge because it would be eaten. Who would be lucky to get 1 bar out of a selection pack. It was taken either by my mother or my younger sister and it pissed me off that because I didnt need to throw it all down my throat in one go, it was as if it was a free for all.

Yes it would be replaced but it was never the same. I have strong feelings about that, as you may have noticed!

And I do think that it is slightly pathetic about a grown adult that cant just do without to the point where they take a childs treats. Go and buy some or do without, its not that hard surely?!

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NotInMyBackYard1 · 07/04/2017 23:12

As I said upthread, we took the cake away with us, planning to put candles on cake and sing happy birthday after our evening meal. However, the meal took ages, the kids were really tired after a very busy day and they were past the point of it being enjoyable for anyone. You know, arching backs, rolling on the floor, sliding off the chairs and crawling around on the floor sort of behaviour that makes you want to get the hell out of a restaurant pronto?! and that was just DH ;)
DM was leaving that evening and we were staying over. Instead of keeping the chocolate cake sweltering in my car all day (we had 10am checkout & to load luggage for 5 of us into the car) I asked DM to take it home for me - she lives across the road, hardly an inconvenience to return it once we were home too. I expected an entire Colin to be returned - not assless Colin!

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ForTheSakeOfFuck · 07/04/2017 23:26

Did you get a new cake out of her, OP?

CountessWindyBottom · 08/04/2017 02:31

Genuine question but is this typical behaviour for your Mum? Or entirely atypical? If the latter have there been other strange goings on of late? It just strikes me as a really rather bizarre and inappropriate thing to do, it's a particularly strange thing for a grown woman to do don't you agree?

Leeloo2 · 08/04/2017 07:12

Will do be invited back to see the cake cutting for real OP?

If so (and if you've replaced dear Colin), is she not going to be slightly bemused that he's grown himself a new arse?

KitKats28 · 08/04/2017 07:36

Yeah I guess we all missed the bit where you said she lived over the road. It's not quite so weird in that case. Why didn't you just pop over and get it the next day?

ohidoliketobebesidethecoast · 08/04/2017 07:59

Woman Stanley
so tight that I'd buy a cake and bring it away on holiday and not eat it at that point in a bid to save it for the actual day and candles
But that's not what happened at all, you've assumed a reason, and you're mistaken ( and mean) should have read the thread really.

LostMyDotBrain · 08/04/2017 08:38

Quite shitty of her to not realise that wasn't on. Strip away the fact that it's a Colin cake and all of the holiday malarkey and she's just an adult who's eaten a slice of a kid's birthday cake before they've done the singing and candles. Which is really shitty.

I'd buy a new one for the day and present her with a half eaten Colin for her birthday because you know she loves it but you (and DH and the DC) simply couldn't resist and knew she wouldn't mind.

diddl · 08/04/2017 08:51

"that face of Colon is just a bit creepy isn't it? "

Hahaha! Fabulous.

Sounds like an old style horror movieGrin

ProlificPoster · 08/04/2017 09:38

OP, Are you angry or annoyed about this or are you just a little bemused?

I think it may get warrent bbemused'ness but nothing more.

How is you MIL generally? Do you like her?

HappyFlappy · 08/04/2017 11:55

I was the child who couldnt leave any easter egg in the fridge because it would be eaten. Who would be lucky to get 1 bar out of a selection pack. It was taken either by my mother or my younger sister and it pissed me off that because I didnt need to throw it all down my throat in one go, it was as if it was a free for all.

SNAP! Pyong

Even now I eat as though someone is going to steal the peas off my plate . . . Sad

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 08/04/2017 12:03

I guess if she was about to have a hypoglycaemic attack and desperately needed sugar that'd be ok, otherwise it's strangely rude.

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