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about birthday cake

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NotInMyBackYard1 · 04/04/2017 22:36

I might be being totally precious about this - but here goes. Family and I were away for the weekend, DM joined us for the day, when she went to leave I asked her to take home DS's birthday cake which we had taken with us and not opened/put candles on/sung over/cut/eaten
(it was a Colin the Caterpillar cake if that affects the outcome of this AIBU! ) and save it as its not his actual birthday until this weekend coming.
DM brought said cake round to me today, with the box open, cake covered in foil and with a slice missing off the end - she says 'oh its my favourite cake, I just couldn't resist it'
I'm still slightly gobsmacked that DS's grandmother would think it ok to slice up and eat his birthday cake - before he had even seen it or blown the candles out. AIBU?

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SapphireStrange · 07/04/2017 10:10

You turned up at her house with cake and then took it home uneaten. She was probably looking forward to a bit all day.

The thing about being an adult, as opposed to a five-year-old, is that you can handle things like that without having to eat a bit of someone else's cake. You also understand that, if something SHOULD happen to the cake, the obvious and decent thing to do is buy a replacement.

Well, most adults anyway.

Alexandra87 · 07/04/2017 10:39

I'm in the north east flappy so chances are the drive wouldn't be worth it even for a Colin with 70% off

HappyFlappy · 07/04/2017 11:02

As it happens Alex I too am a Geordie lass! Is this the Team Valley Sainsbury's? Any particular time of day?

Maybe we could have a secret sign so that if we unwittingly meet at the reduced stand we can acknowledge each other, a bit like masons but without the silly handshake. Perhaps the Miss Jolly Words Of Pass: "Now Bugger Off, And Good Day To You!"

(Though with my luck there will have been a run on Colin cakes and people will be fighting over the last one - perhaps I could just step over the corpses and grab it?)

Alexandra87 · 07/04/2017 15:14

Would you believe it is the team valley one. The coop at wrekenton used to be a good bet for a cheap Colin as well but it has closed down now

Pigface1 · 07/04/2017 15:28

YANBU. That was really rude and greedy.

Lovewineandchocs · 07/04/2017 15:39

also a bit weird that Colin the caterpillar is an adults favourite cake

I remember this because my DHs 41st birthday was the same day and he also had a Colin the Caterpillar cake

ProlificPoster · 07/04/2017 15:47

Meh, I honestly couldn't get worked up about it. It's only a cake 🤷🏻‍♀️ I just could attribute so much meaning to a shop bought Colin the. Caterpillar cake especially as it wasn't bought for his actual birthday. It's a £6 cake. I wonder what your DS would think about it. I suspect that your DS might be surprisingly sympathetic to his granny's cake craving.

BTW I think as you had opened the cake and stuck candles in then I'm not sure it would have lasted that long. Isn't the use by or sell by date (forget which) only apply as long as the cake is still in the sealed bag?

Lovewineandchocs · 07/04/2017 15:49

*same day as David Beckham's I mean, not that David Beckham is my DH

MackerelOfFact · 07/04/2017 16:00

SWBU! She should have taken a slice from the middle and then stuck the two ends together and nobody would have known!

Seriously though, that was a bit weird of her. She should have kept the whole thing and bought him another one if she was really unable to resist it.

MackerelOfFact · 07/04/2017 16:01

Oh, just seen that Deploycharitygoats posted the same thing!

Sparklyglitter · 07/04/2017 17:45

How weird! Some people are just soooo odd!! Xx

carlight · 07/04/2017 17:58

YANBU
For my DD1 birthday last year we had a cake, we were at my DMs house. My DD just got too tired and we didn't do the cake that day. (We did the day after). But I wouldn't expect anyone to have opened the cake and eaten some just because my child was too tired to do it that day.

AnnabelC · 07/04/2017 18:02

Why begrudge her a tiny slice. He won't notice and I am sure she does and buys loads for your children. Let it go. It's not going to hurt him. Her sweet tooth got the better of her. Not the crime of the century!

UnbornMortificado · 07/04/2017 18:10

There should be a reduced cake klaxon.

I would of probably ate a slice or five but I would of replaced it and not told you.

Pretty sure that's the grown-up thing to do.

WhereYouLeftIt · 07/04/2017 18:12

"Why begrudge her a tiny slice. He won't notice"
My DS would have noticed. That is the slice he wants, the one with the extra chocolate.

PyongyangKipperbang · 07/04/2017 18:15

Because, as has been posted above, she is an adult who knew that it wasnt hers to take not a 5 year old with zero impulse control. Unless a person is genuinely addicted to a genuinely addictive substance then is such a thing as self control and being an adult.

It disgusts me when people just indulge their greed as if it doesnt matter. I wonder how many Easter eggs have been eaten by greedy parents who just cant have chocolate in the house without filling their gluttonous faces with it and post "ooh naughty me, better buy a new one for the DC!" No, disgusting greedy you, grow the fuck up!

WomanStanley · 07/04/2017 18:16

This is YOUR mum and not partner's mum?

If so:
A) I'd just tell her straight out and make her get another.
B) I'm poor. Pretty poor. But I can't imagine being so tight that I'd buy a cake and bring it away on holiday and not eat it at that point in a bid to save it for the actual day and candles. The hassle, the sheer bother of making someone drive home with it and store it for a week so that I could reopen said stale cake and light candles on top of it a week later- for the sake of a tenner- is something so inherently alien to me that I find it hard to empathise with any of this post whatsoever.

PyongyangKipperbang · 07/04/2017 18:17

I would of probably ate a slice or five but I would of replaced it and not told you. Pretty sure that's the grown-up thing to do.

No, the grown up thing to do would be to not eat something that doesnt belong to you.

pucelleauxblanchesmains · 07/04/2017 18:21

"He won't notice" I realise that this isn't the main point here anyway, but surely it'd be relatively noticeable that Colin is lacking a bum?

KitKats28 · 07/04/2017 18:21

It's really funny and yet totally bizarre. I mean why would she actually do that?

OP, why did you give her the cake to take home? That's just as bizarre to me.

As someone else said, a cake that would last over a week is worryingly full of gross things, and I'm the furthest from a healthy eater possible!

User1635974 · 07/04/2017 18:23

I needed something to keep me away from the chocolate. I am going to print this out and stick it in my fridge.

UnbornMortificado · 07/04/2017 18:24

Sorry should I of added fucking lighthearted

AllMyBestFriendsAreMetalheads · 07/04/2017 18:25

Well it's clearly ruined, so buy another for DC and scoff the rest yourself. You're welcome

CauliflowerSqueeze · 07/04/2017 18:26

Wait till it's her birthday. Eat the entire cake with the family and leave her a slice. Stick a candle in it and say "oh you don't mind do you, it's our favourite cake".

Watch her face drop half a mile.

UnbornMortificado · 07/04/2017 18:27

*AllMy
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It doesn't belong to her or another such wankery comment. Delete as applicable.

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