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about birthday cake

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NotInMyBackYard1 · 04/04/2017 22:36

I might be being totally precious about this - but here goes. Family and I were away for the weekend, DM joined us for the day, when she went to leave I asked her to take home DS's birthday cake which we had taken with us and not opened/put candles on/sung over/cut/eaten
(it was a Colin the Caterpillar cake if that affects the outcome of this AIBU! Grin) and save it as its not his actual birthday until this weekend coming.
DM brought said cake round to me today, with the box open, cake covered in foil and with a slice missing off the end - she says 'oh its my favourite cake, I just couldn't resist it'
I'm still slightly gobsmacked that DS's grandmother would think it ok to slice up and eat his birthday cake - before he had even seen it or blown the candles out. AIBU?

OP posts:
SisterMoonshine · 06/04/2017 20:10

Will she be there for the candles and singing?

WhereYouLeftIt · 06/04/2017 20:11

Fuck that was rude of your mother Shock!

(Orange you are brilliant)

ForTheSakeOfFuck · 06/04/2017 20:19

Oblomov I just googled a bit ago and discovered the same thing. Bloody hell, OP, if she ate the arse off a £40 cake you damn well march her right back out to M&S and stand over her till she buys a replacement. Then she can eat the rest of Arseless Colin by herself.

ForTheSakeOfFuck · 06/04/2017 20:20

Okay £7 isn't so bad. It's still the principle though.

diddl · 06/04/2017 20:23

Why did you give her the cake to take?

If I was her I'd be so embarrassed that I'd have bought a new one!

What a wierd thing to do.

Especially as it hadn't even been his birthday & it could still obviously be used as a birthday cake.

It must be tempting to give her a cake & slice some off or a box of chocs with a bit missing from each!

EC22 · 06/04/2017 20:24

Hilarious!

ForTheSakeOfFuck · 06/04/2017 20:31

Next time it's your DM's birthday, OP, make sure you give her a nice box/bottle of something she loves, but make sure you have a bit of it first because you "just couldn't resist".

"Lovely vintage whisky for you mother dearest! Oh yes I know it's open and a glassful is missing. I just love that whisky! And yes, I'm afraid I did eat some of the chocolates out of the selection box first. You know how I just can't resist a nice truffle."

WhereYouLeftIt · 06/04/2017 20:40

"Next time it's your DM's birthday, OP, make sure you give her a nice box/bottle of something she loves, but make sure you have a bit of it first because you "just couldn't resist". "
^^ This! Grin

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NotInMyBackYard1 · 06/04/2017 20:49

Orange you have given us a good giggle Grin

It isn't really the money that is the issue, as you say I will just buy another. It was more the principle - she knew it was his birthday cake and still helped herself to a piece. Its very out of character - she's normally a fab Granny and dotes on her GC. Bizarre indeed.

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OrangeIsTheNewPop · 06/04/2017 21:06
Wingdingingit · 06/04/2017 21:23

Is she an only child? This is the sort of thing my mother would do in her old age and it seems to be getting worse . It's a bit selfish and yes she was BVU.

BurningViolin · 06/04/2017 21:28

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buntingqueen · 06/04/2017 21:36

It is incredibly rude of her, but thank goodness it is something which can be easily replaced at least! Although, what would be more embarrassing for her on your DS's birthday, you serving up a Colin without his arse, or a completely new one?!!

OrangeIsTheNewPop · 06/04/2017 21:38

Oh where, oh where has my little butt gone?
Oh where oh where can it be?There it is, in the mouth of a sweet-craving lass!
Oh woe is bottomless meeeee!

Love

Assless Colin

OrangeIsTheNewPop · 06/04/2017 21:39

Um...that WAS formatted- honesty!

FairytalesAreBullshit · 06/04/2017 21:48

I'm not sure as I'm in two minds. In one sense she's only eaten Colin's bum, in another sense it's going to look odd for photos that he's missing his bum.

If you're that way inclined, ask her to buy a new one. Otherwise try and take a photo from an angle where it can't be noticed.

ErrrrrNo · 06/04/2017 22:16

After my wedding reception we sent about half the cake home with SIL for cutting up and sorting out later, she forgot to take it out of her BFs car who was heading home to a different city. By the time they got back a day later and asked about it, he had eaten it, all of it. Thought it was all for him apparently. Some people can't be trusted around cake...

GoodDayToYou · 06/04/2017 22:39

Am I the only one wondering if she made a wish when she cut it? DM needs to replace the cake to ensure DS gets his wish, as is only right and proper.

(YADNBU.)

Alexandra87 · 06/04/2017 23:08

Yabu for buying a full price colin the caterpillar cake in the first place. There are at least 5 in the yellow sticker bakery section of Sainsbury's every time I go. You could have gotten one for dc and one for mil and a spare for less than you paid for one Wink

WheresYouWheelieBin · 06/04/2017 23:17

Why would she even tell you...why wouldn't she just buy another cake and hand it over at the appropriate moment?

Jojofjo44 · 06/04/2017 23:25

Not gonna lie, I'd have eaten me that cake and had to replace it. It's cake ffs! There's no willpower where cake (and especially delicious caterpillar cake) is concerned.

I'd have eaten his face first.

NightWanderer · 06/04/2017 23:32

I can sort of see it from granny's point of view too. You turned up at her house with cake and then took it home uneaten. That's a bit rude too. She was probably looking forward to a bit all day. I mean, I wouldn't have eaten it myself, but I can see my mum doing something like this. I'd just think it was funny and tell my DC that we left a bit with granny. They wouldn't mind at all. I don't think it's a big deal.

driveninsanebythehubby · 07/04/2017 01:03

highinthesky why does the iPad battery need charging? The screenshot said 22%....

Nightwanderer Theg were away and the DM joined them for a day it said - not that they were at DM's house (or else why would DM have been leaving to go home and they ask her to take the cake with her?)

YANBU sure there are a few people that can't be trusted around cake.... but you do not ever start someone else's cake (adult or child) without their permission OR you make sure you replace it without them ever knowing. Why on earth did she not just go and buy herself one if it was that urgent (plus it couldn't have been as no-one has just one slice of cake when you need it that badly).

Tell her that you think she needs to go to the Drs for a review and that you are concerned she's losing her marbles a bit because any sane person would not have done that!

Hope his birthday goes well, complete with an intact cake!

HappyFlappy · 07/04/2017 08:03

There are at least 5 in the yellow sticker bakery section of Sainsbury's every time I go.

Ahem (koff) - er, which Sainsbury's would this be Alexandra.Just, you know . . . curious . . . certainly not intending to shoot down and buy them all up or anything. Oh, no, nononononono. Nothing like that.

Imamouseduh · 07/04/2017 08:06

either way, the idea of a cake that stays 'fresh' for weeks is minging.