should I apologize? (warning trans thread!)

[startrek90]

I have come to AIBU because people don't hold back.

The other day I posted on fb asking if anyone could recommend where I could get a toy kitchen cheap for my little boy. A friend and I were talking in the comments and I mentioned that my ds loves playing in the house at kindergarten and he apparently spends lots of time there. His teachers joked that they knew when I was weaning his brother because he was 'weaning' the baby doll at nursery. My friend and I were doing a general aww thing and then another acquaintance who was female but is now 'trans masculine gender queer' (I still have no idea what that is exactly, I assumed transgender) commented that my 2 year old was obviously identifying as a girl and sent me a link to mermaids?

I disagreed and just said he is a two year old and playing out what he sees. Since then I have benn inundated with stuff talking about trans children and their high risk of suicide.

We are talking everyday there was something else sent to me, I was tagged in etc..

I'll be honest I got pissed off with this as I don't believe in gender anyway so sent a pm very politely saying to stop it. My son is not trans he is 2.

Then there was a very public fb status about ignorant parents and how their kids will grow up to hate them. I know I should have ignored it but I commented again laying out my opinion about gender. I got accused of being a terf, that I was transphobic and my 'daughter' would grow up and either kill himself because of me or cut me out.

I admit I lost it and told this person to do one and fuck off. I blocked them (should have done it straight away) but now I have a mutual friend (who is also transgender but not so political with it) who contaced me in private saying how upset and worried our mutual acquaintance is and that I should unblock them, apologize for telling them to fuck off and make things up.

I don't think I should but was I out of order?

Dame I don't agree with you but you are entitled to hold any opinion you like.

Interesting to see the anger from others about your views, are we forgetting some of our views on here would also inspire anger in others?

Dame if you are for real, I'd really encourage you to be careful how you speak about homosexuality around your children.

There is only a small chance they will grow up to be gay (percentage-wise) but I think you may alienate them if you share your views too forcefully with them.

That was not to you DameDeDoubtance.

damewithaname Just so you know I have been a Christian for years and part of the evangelical churches, where often people seem to be against same sex marriage. I'm not sure I've ever really held that view but I know I was really forced to make a choice and to decide that I wanted to be openly supportive of same sex marriage a few years back.

The thing that pushed me to become aware of this issue was my own kids. They were very young and I had no real reason to believe they would be gay, still don't. But I began to think how I would feel if one of them was gay and others were making judgement on their life.

This website is very moving. I hope it helps to show a different side to the 'debate'. Although it is not really relevant on this thread!

justbecausehebreathes.com/

Sorry for derailing, OP.

I can never get my head around why people dislike homosexuals when it has no impact on them whatsoever. I hate that trans has been wrapped up with lesbian and gay when they are not alike at all. One is all about accepting who you are and loving who you love the other is about stereotypes and being uncomfortable with who you are.

How many gay kids are transing? Who the hell is behind all this? Why are people accepting groups like mermaids without applying an ounce of critical thinking? Mermaids lie about suicide stats and push children towards transition even though we know most kids will grow out of it if they are left alone.

Dd is going down a baby goth route, shall I take her off and get her pierced and tattooed or let her grow up and make those decisions when she is old enough?

So true.

Your little boy is a toddler, my male cousin regularly wore my dresses as a child and I his Super Hero costumes. It didn't matter to a child there are no genders. The solution is simple, your little boy is your business don't apologise if you have nothing apologise for and cut anyone out who say anything different. The boy is still a baby fo goodness sake. Why are we so obsessed with the minutiae of natural childhood games. Crack on I say😀

Absolutely nuts. I had no idea that chefs could only be female.

Quite relieved with most of these responses. What's happening now OP?