To be fuming with school.....

[Inthebathtub]

DD is 13 and as teenagers do, filling out in all the areas you'd expect a girl to. She has 2 pairs of school trousers that were bought in line with the school policy of no leggings or skinny leg trousers.
I've noticed they've become a bit snug around her bottom and thighs recently and as I literally live in a small village, don't drive, and nearest major shopping town is an hour away by bus, we've planned on a shopping outing in easter hols. I would go sooner but there's not enough time after school on the evenings I'm off and I work every sat and sun in the villiage. Had the hols not been so close I'd have ordered online but the couple of weeks also means I can put a bit aside each week and get a couple of decent pairs for her.
I get a snotty call from the teacher today complaining that DD's uniform isn't conforming to regulations as her trousers are skinny type. I explained that yes, they've got a bit snug however she's not uncomfortable and I am planning on new ones, and they're not skinny trousers, they're the same ones she's worn this school year and she is developing, and that they will be replaced asap.
Snotty teach then informs me that she must be in correct uniform by Monday or face discipline procedure for having incorrect uniform.
I once again tried to explain the above but basically they're not interested, and my daughter now faces discipline for developing and filling her trousers a little more than they'd like and for basically being from a family that doesn't have the ready cash to go straight out and replace stuff at their whim!
I am astounded, they are the same trousers that have conformed all bloody year and yes, she's put on a bit of weight developing and due to that the trousers will be replaced - when I can damned well afford it!

I eventually said I wanted to speak to someone else as this was ridiculous, and am ringing the deputy head tomorrow.

AIBU?

[Trifleorbust]

I thought that but these are established posters.

[carefreeeee]

Don't agree with school uniforms and the school sounds like they are being completely stupid about this. Of course kids can understand that not talking in exams is important but clothing is less important. They are not stupid - a few years ago they'd be all out at work by this age.

However you can definitely manage to get your daughter a new pair of trousers somehow, and I'd do that to avoid embarrassing her.

[Emmageddon]

Please don't post photos of the offending trousers - for those that have asked for a photo, go get your jollies somewhere else ffs.

OP, you can get stuff from Very (for example) on a buy now pay later scheme, or maybe have a look in a charity shop? Ours has a pound rail which quite often has school uniform items on it.

[MissGoggins]

Could you order one pair online and forward the order confirmation to the school? That way she might be given a couple of extra days grace while they are delivered?

I agree that the school is being quite unreasonable but you know what some of them are like - a bit little bit of authority over children can go to ones head!

[ThePiglet59]

Can't you get a leaflet online that explains puberty and what happens to a young girl then?
It sounds like they are struggling to understand it.

[PennyPickle]

At the last 'school uniform inspection' dd (14) was passed over. Her "friend" was pulled up about her trousers being too "skinny". She immediately said, "Penny's dd has exactly the same trousers. How can her's be ok but mine are not?" Consequently I had a note home to say dd's trousers are inappropriate. They are straight legged - as school recommends. Not "skinny". Meh! How many pairs of trousers do schools expect parents to buy in a term??

Baggy trousers would be more apt at this age - But probably won't look good :D

[supermoon100]

Children dont grow that quicky. Surely you could have preempted this

[catkind]

Lally, to be fair i think people just want to be able to go you should have replaced them months ago - or on the flip side that's fine what's the problem. Not best thought through obvs.

[SquinkiesRule]

Do you have any teens supermoon They can grow seemingly overnight.
I had the same with my older boys, suddenly trousers would be above the ankles and look ridiculous. Yet seemed fine only the week before.

[RandomDent]

I'm sure I just read this story on Angry People in Local Newspapers.

[NapQueen]

for those that have asked for a photo, go get your jollies somewhere else ffs

Its a leg in a trouser. Stop being so ridiculous.

[placemarking]

I don't think it's very nice that you're sending your daughter to school in clothes that clearly don't fit her anymore. The school shouldn't really have to point that out to you. You must have noticed it previously.

[ChrisYoungFuckingRocks]

Do you have any teens supermoon They can grow seemingly overnight.

Not just teens! I drop my DTDs off with their dad on a Friday, and when he brings them back on Sunday they've grown an inch!!!

[Inthebathtub]

Right, can I point the people that are shouting about me sending dd to school in clothes about to burst their seems to the op - I have said snug and not tight. If left another 3/4 weeks and growth continues then they will be tight hence the plan for new ones. The school are not saying I'm sending my child to school in I'll fitting clothes they said they are skinny trousers and therefore not uniform standard - they are not skinny trousers they are uniform standard and have been passed as such until today.
Again they have become snug, not tight, she's not about to burst out of them, did everyone miss the bit where I said they're comfortable??? Where they were loose on bottom/thigh they are not loose but snug, I don't think they give the appearance of skinny trousers, they are not tight over the whole leg nor too short.
My 'list of excuses' happens to be my life, it's the way it is and I appreciate that others may not fully understand the limitations it presents.
DD is developing, her body shape is changing and as I have a fat arse and fat thighs she seems to be following in my footsteps, it would seem I was expected to anticipate exactly when this would occur and pre empt by buying the size and shape she needs before knowing what size and shape she needs. I have trouble getting comfortable and well fitted trousers because of my body shape looks like she's going the same way.
And no, I'm not going to post a pic, not because I think anyone will use it in any way other than intended but because I don't feel it would help the situation, it seems some of you have skipped over the bits you want and decided to condemn me for being an awful parent and sending my child to school in clothes she is about to explode from, I assure you this is not the case at all.
I appreciate and support the school upholding their uniform policy, and as such bought the clothes that conform, as many have pointed out, it doesn't happen overnight, therefore how have trousers that were considered to be uniform standard last weds at inspection, 7 days later be deemed not uniform standard?
There will be new trousers at easter, and rest assured all the amateur social workers out there, she will not burst out the ones she has before then!

[Corporately]

This is exactly why uniform is such bollocks. I bet your daughter has other clothes that still fit her, but because they are not the special clothes she has to wear in order to access the education that is supposed to be her birthright, she can't wear them.

The slavish and at times fetishistic attitude that this country has to uniform - as though it is a panacea for everything from ingrained class divisions to pupils assaulting each other - is baffling. Tell them you'll get the trousers in the holidays and that you can't until then. And no yanbu at all.

[Catherinebee85]

Is she in child or adult sizes? Asda do a pair of work trousers for £6 that might be worth ordering online to tide her over.

A Monday deadline is harsh and inflexible I do agree. After the easter holidays would be fair. Could you send her in with a note?

[sashh]

I have had a similar conversation with a head teacher, as a supply teacher not a parent. I was having a bad day and was not holding back.

One thing I said was that if you see soldiers in uniform then the women have trousers that are tight over the bum. They are exactly the same trousers as the men but women have a different shape.

You have provided your dd with suitable uniform that she has been wearing for months so she is about to be punished for being female.

[harderandharder2breathe]

Yabu for writing a daily mail article sounding post, all that's missing is the sad face holding up the offending trousers

They've been too small for a while. Order a pair online

[BarbarianMum]

Don't blame you for not posting a picture

But - you noticed that they're snug and a teacher's notice they are snug. I'd order a pair on line ( then keep her off til they arrive and keep passive aggressively telling the school their on the way - they'll backtrack pretty quickly )

[Inthebathtub]

I have no idea what is being referred to regarding the daily mail comment....the trousers have been too tight for a while - please read what's actually been written instead of making assumptions that aren't correct.

[gabsdot]

Ridiculous, some adult has been looking very closely at your 13 year old DDs bum. How dare they.

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

I can't understand why you haven't just ordered one pair online, as suggested by several of us on here. It's not a perfect solution, but will get the school off your back, and you can buy another pair or pairs at Easter.

[FairytalesAreBullshit]

OP to pay it forward I'd be happy to buy a pair for her online and get the delivered to you, if that helps at all.

[FairytalesAreBullshit]

I think M&S or Next deliver Saturday's. So they'll be good quality that should last.

[Gileswithachainsaw]

What a load of bollocks. Ffs. Not everyone can instantly go out and get a pair of trousers and what's the point so close to holidays when they could grow more and then you have to replace them again shortly after. Why not just buy ones before she goes back as planned.

If schools cared as much about keeping their premises safe and the children well educated as they do about fucking shoes and trousers then alot of people would he alot better off...

Takes the piss.