... for those who are devastated about Brexit, how are you dealing with the fear and depression and anxiety?

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Has anyone got any strategies? I am genuinely not one for melodrama, but I am devastated, angry, terrified, depressed, and I feel so utterly helpless. Nothing in my lifetime has made me feel like this, and I just can't imagine feeling like this for the next two years and beyond. I can hardly bear to listen to the news, but I feel compelled to anyway. How are other remainers dealing with this, what are your coping strategies? And what, if anything, can we DO?

We will manage, because we have to.

Also, I think that as well as being more politically aware and active, we must be more commercially active and more community-minded, in a 'Be The Change You Want To See' kind of way.

I'm sure the leave people would have not kicked up this much fuss if the vote went the other way

well of course they wouldn't because everything would have stayed the same

We've voted for massive change. Change is scary. People don't like it especially if they think it's in the wrong direction.

Melodramatic? Well, when both me and my DH are faced with losing our jobs, I don't think so. If any of you leavers would like to help me out with the mortgage, just let me know!

Gallows humour
Joining the lib dems
Trying hard to make financial decisions that will be reasonably robust whatever the future brings (diversifying risk etc)

If both you and your husband are faced with losing your jobs, would it not be a better idea to focus on retraining and/or looking for alternative work.

That way, you at least are not powerless over your own lives. Otherwise you are just going to get more anxious and depressed, as national events are out of your individual control.

I agree with.sleepfreezone How the hell would some people have coped living through a war? How have we changed so much within a few generations?

Moping and feeling vulnerable here.

I voted remain (but still think you're being melodramatic).

If any of you leavers

Glad you know how people voted.

I am not going to judge you on your reaction as each to their own, but in the nicest possible way, it does seem rather extreme. Dissapointment and sad resignation I can understand and accept, but devastation, depression and severe anxiety might signal that you could benefit from some additional help with regaining perspective, like talking therapy OP. Perhaps see the GP if you are genuinely all over the place like this.

Why would you lose your job because the UK is leaving the European Union?

How the hell would some people have coped living through a war? How have we changed so much within a few generations?

We haven't changed all that much.

People who went through WWI and WWII, or at least their parents, had the experience of other relatively recent wars to draw on: conflict was much more of a constant in the late C19 and early C20. They had different expectations of life as a consequence of that and of the social norms of the time.

One of my great-aunt's earliest memories was people celebrating the end of the Boer War. She lived through WWI and Spanish Flu, so she was pretty used to gritting her teeth and coping by the time WWII rolled around.

Plus, the whole wartime experience was and is cloaked in a lot of comforting propaganda. People traded on the black market, dodged the call-up, committed rape during the blackout and in bomb shelters, stole stuff, etc. etc. These things were suppressed during wartime to maintain morale and conveniently forgotten afterwards.

I'm with you op. Also angry, terrified and thoroughly dismayed by it all.

My European colleagues are tip toeing around dh and I today - they have a look of bewilderment and pity on their faces - we can't provide any enlightenment.

The most depressing thing though is that I really don't want to put my daughter's future in to the hands of David Davis.

So no answers here I'm afraid except wait and see.

What a very unkind post MontePulciana

Badly. Sometimes I have a good few hours and then I hear or read sneering brexiteer bullshit and reality crashes back in.

MontePulciana's "You're losing your job because you're a whining negative moaner. Jees. Always everyone's fault but your own I bet? The world owes you something?" being an excellent example of what I mean. It's quite hard to be positive and upbeat when faced with the reality that attitudes like that, people like that, abound.

I feel very sad about it. I think it's a mistake.

However, I don't think humanity will collapse. We'll carry on, changes will be made incrementally and we'll plod along. It's just, in my opinion, we will be all the poorer culturally and politically for not being in the EU.

Norland there are many ways this could happen (and I believe many more incidences of this to come in manufacturing, agriculture as well as financial services).

To take one example, have you not read about the firms leaving the city to set up their hqs elsewhere in Europe post-Brexit?

here

here and

here

Of course I've read about them daringGermanSausageDog

I've also read about the massive trade imbalance between the UK and the rest of the EU.

It's very bad for the rest of the EU to not trade with the UK, so trade will continue. On that, rest assured.

As for allowing the unelected Herr Juncker et al to rule me from afar, I rather like the idea of my overlords being sackable (after a fashion) by me and my vote.

I spent years watching the corruption in Brussels; time the whole stinking, rotten, faux-communist state was brought down. Glad we're having our Berlin Wall moment.

We're coping by getting the mortgage paid off with some USD shares we had, while the pound is nice and low.
No idea what's to come, but I seriously doubt it's the shining new dawn TM was espousing, or the foreigner-free sovereign state Farage dreams of.
It'll be mostly like this, but a bit more shit, and shittest of all for the poor.

I am genuinely not one for melodrama, but I am devastated, angry, terrified, depressed

Well, there's an oxymoron if ever there was one.
Seriously, I know how crap it is to suffer from anxiety - but you really should get that looked at and checked out as that's not a normal mindset to have.

You can go back less than 100 years to a time where people were being bombed out of their homes and they managed to deal with scary, unstable times whilst still being positive and hopeful.

You reckon? You don't think that quite a lot of them were terrified, traumatised and numb? Or have you bought into the rosy-tinted nostalgia of Blitz Spirit?

"devastated" OP? Really. You have NO idea what devastation means obviously.

I'm going to do a lot of hollow laughing

For example about how this time in two years £350 is going to start being ploughed into the NHS on a weekly basis I'm sort is it only us remainers who have remembered that "pledge"?

Apparently I am no longer a "person" anymore. But we should all just come together and keep calm and Carry on. Bullfuckingshit.

By taking a deep breath and saying what will be will be. The country has survived a lot worse than this and still carried on. Personally I think the EU is finished anyway, I see a domino effect happening once we leave.

The most depressing thing though is that I really don't want to put my daughter's future in to the hands of David Davis

I don't know why, but I find this hilarious.