Aibu to be really harsh with my mum about smoking even though it's her house.

[Toby123321]

I have a 5 month old boy who has chest infections almost every 3 weeks. He has been admitted to hospital twice now for servere infections. The doctor at the hospital asked who smokes DH and i live with my mum. She's the only person who smokes she smokes outside never in the house however the Dr said that this is still affecting my son and basically said he won't improve untill she stops or he grows out of it.
I honestly thought seeing how poorly he was last time would shock her into trying to give up but she won't.

She does so much for us and loves our son her only grand child so much but obviously not enough to stop smoking.
I'd like your advice on what I can do or say to help her to quit. Short of moving out (which we cant afford to do) I'm at a loss as to what to do and my son is my priority!

A dressing gown seems largely laughable given that they're not exactly designed to bundle you up from head to toe, and smoke permeates clothing very easily so regardless, the chemicals and irritants will be all over her face, neck, hair, forearms, whatever she's wearing underneath etc. anyway.

Unless she literally quarantines herself from the baby in her own house or showers after every cigarette there's no way he won't breathe in some of it.

Ponco! Much easier to get on and off. Put a couple of pockets on it to hold her fags and a lighter. Trytomake it easy for her.

I am really sorry for you. You are stuck in a situation which is hard to solve. My mum was a smoker all her life, and at one point we did have to live with her too. The difference between you and me is that my dd was a robust little thing.

May I just let you know that some doctors see smoking as almost the most wicked thing people can do, and are almost rabid in their dislike/disgust of it and will blame it for anything they can.

Some doctors are less immoderate, and might have said something a bit different to you. Try not to worry so much - easy to say, I know- but you don't want to look back and remember only that; worry can suck the joy out of life.

First word should be Poncho ffs!

It sounds like he has an underlying problem or probability towards them and that's making him really sensitive. I am link that. Even if I spend a while with a smoker I can feel it in my throat and chest. That's not me being fussy I genuinely can feel it. And when I am bad and in hosp a nurse who smokes then deals with me can trigger me.

I am sometimes around friends who smoke.but that's my choice and they never smoke around me.

I think you need to move out and limit time.