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To confront these so called friends?

310 replies

YouKnowNothingJS · 26/03/2017 20:57

Arranged to see Beauty and the Beast with 3 friends. In a group chat, two cancelled as they couldn't afford it and the third cancelled as we should do it instead when everyone is free.

Flat mate who is also friends with one of them saw on snapchat that they'd all gone this afternoon. They'd blocked me from seeing this Snapchat.

Aibu to confront them? Tempted to leave a message in our group chat.

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InvisibleKittenAttack · 26/03/2017 22:02

They aren't going to tell you. Even if you get an answer, it'll be a lie.

Don't try to contact them again. They aren't your friends.

AnxiousOne22 · 26/03/2017 22:02

What a big group of shit-stained, fart-breathed, hairy-arsed wankerbitches 😡😡

Some friends 😠

Foggymist · 26/03/2017 22:03

Surely you can text them, don't have to contact through Snapchat only?

noitsnotme · 26/03/2017 22:03

OP, is there anything at all that has happened before now that they could be using as a reason to do this? I'm not saying there is any justification, but I'm wondering how they are going to explain the abrupt end to your friendship to other people??

Imaginingdragonsagain · 26/03/2017 22:03

I'm so sorry, being left out sucks. Please try to forget about them (easier said than done) and focus on finding some nice friends.

cafesociety · 26/03/2017 22:04

Bullies. I have been a victim of social media and it has caused a lot of hurt but I will have nothing to do with the person now and know it rattles her.
Radio silence now, because one way or another you will find out somehow, in time, what the hell this appalling behaviour is all about. There could be one person in the group with a conscience which is niggling them...doubt it but wait and see. I think your flatmate could be a help finding out a bit more and hopefully give you support. I hope so.

BellonaBelladonna · 26/03/2017 22:05

Rise above them and make some new friends.
Do not look back. Bitches

Gabilan · 26/03/2017 22:05

I really want to know why

They've been underhand and nasty, so I'm betting it's them, not you. They could either have come right out and told you what the issue was. Or they could have gone to see the film without telling the whole of the internet. But instead they chose to do this.

My bet is there is something about you that makes one or more of them jealous. They've then stirred things up to turn the others against you. Possibly you're skinnier and/ or prettier. When something similar happened to me it was because one of the group was after a man who clearly fancied me rather than her, and it pissed her off.

I know this isn't painting them in a good light but really, this is just how some people act unfortunately.

TheWhiteRoseOfYork · 26/03/2017 22:05

Is your flat mate still in contact with them? Can she intervene on your behalf and find out why? Not that it should make any difference, they have behaved awfully.

titianlove · 26/03/2017 22:06

Fuck OP that's harsh.

I hope you're ok. Try not to dwell on it too much. They're like silly school girls

Falafelings · 26/03/2017 22:06

You're better of out of the group. They sound like a right load of bitches.

noitsnotme · 26/03/2017 22:06

And what age are you all, out of interest?

HecateAntaia · 26/03/2017 22:07

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InvisibleKittenAttack · 26/03/2017 22:07

Oh and if you ask individuals, I bet they'll each blame one of the others/the other two, they wanted you to come along, honestly, it was only when they turned up they realised the other two had cut you out. Or honestly, it was a mix up, we each thought the other one had asked you, then we blocked you from snapchat because it was too late to contact you and thought you'd be upset...

It will be not be that they decided they didnt want you there. It won't be that they all agreed, even if that's what's happened, you'll get an answer that you're crazy to think it was deliberate. Big mix up, one of those things, don't be so bloody touchy...

Leave it. They aren't your friends.

User543212345 · 26/03/2017 22:08

It's no consolation but expect one of them to attempt to worm their way back in with you in a few months time when they become the target of the bitching and backstabbing, and think about how you'll be the one with the power to block them then. Situations like this hurt like hell but are normally the result of one person being cunty and everyone else being sheep and jumping on the hate-wagon. All of them are as bad as each other and you're best off without them.

Chin up, OP. You're worth far more than all of them combined. Find some friends who see that.

cafesociety · 26/03/2017 22:08

I agree, usually at the bottom of cruel behaviour is some sort of jealousy. Bunch of fecking insecure inadequates.

HashiAsLarry · 26/03/2017 22:09

They're arses. No more reason. You'll be better off without them in your life.

If it makes you feel better, take a bet on which on will be the next victim. You'll probably be able to call it, and when you do you'll get your answer anyway.

Falafelings · 26/03/2017 22:09

They're not really your friends. Awful women. And cowards too.

Edballsisoneniftydancer · 26/03/2017 22:09

And what age are you all, out of interest?

Why do you find this interesting. It would be bad behaviour at any age, and the OP doesn't appear to be taking part in it.

Love EBIOND (aged 61)

TheGirlWithAPrince · 26/03/2017 22:10

They definitely planned to go without :S otherwise they would have said something seem as they waited til everyone was free and you couldnt see the snap

Pentapus · 26/03/2017 22:12

There's no point asking them. Whatever they say will not be the truth, even if they think it is. This is far more about them than you.

Beeziekn33ze · 26/03/2017 22:13

You're better than they are. I can imagine how their behaviour hurts but there are nicer people around, I hope you find them soon. 💐

Hissy · 26/03/2017 22:13

What utter bitches! I know it hurts, but you really are better off without them in your lives.

Crashbangwhatausername · 26/03/2017 22:13

I find it quite shocking that presumably adult women behave in this way? You can quite clearly do better op, what shits

cordeliavorkosigan · 26/03/2017 22:14

Age is relevant because they sound 12! Even at 12 it's shitty and they are not friends, and I agree, they'll either turn on each other now or find someone new. Nothing to do with you op, but you've dodged a bullet in terms of continued time wasted on them!

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