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Original poster

To confront these so called friends?

310 replies

YouKnowNothingJS · 26/03/2017 20:57

Arranged to see Beauty and the Beast with 3 friends. In a group chat, two cancelled as they couldn't afford it and the third cancelled as we should do it instead when everyone is free.

Flat mate who is also friends with one of them saw on snapchat that they'd all gone this afternoon. They'd blocked me from seeing this Snapchat.

Aibu to confront them? Tempted to leave a message in our group chat.

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UnicornButtplug · 26/03/2017 21:22

Would you be likely to sing really loudly?

Seriously though they are so childish. Concentrate on making new friends and leave this silly bunch of bitches behind.

CoffeeBreakIn5 · 26/03/2017 21:22

I'd ask them outright, definitely ask the question and then don't bother with them again. You don't need people like that in your life.

MooPointCowsOpinion · 26/03/2017 21:23

I think I'd have to ask why, but in reality the friendship is probably dead now, even if they apologise. There's not really any coming back from something so underhand and nasty is there.

FreeNiki · 26/03/2017 21:23

I wouldnt dignify any of them with asking about it.

They deliberately excluded you from something, they were childish enough to snapchat other people about it?!

Who snapchats friends about seeing a childs disney film other than 10 year olds?

They'd get deleted and blocked without a single word said.

they didnt want you to come with them. they dont give a shit about you dont give them a chance to reject you again.

SorrelSoup · 26/03/2017 21:23

Yes I think I'd go for, why did you all go to the cinema without me? I didn't get invited to a friend's party once, and after much agonising just sent, why didn't you invite me to your party?

Original poster
YouKnowNothingJS · 26/03/2017 21:23

Was your FM invited on this excursion?

No, she's only friends with one of them through me.

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Capricorn76 · 26/03/2017 21:23

You must let them know you know then watch them squirm. Then drop them.

expatinscotland · 26/03/2017 21:23

X-post. If you don't want or need to see them again, then I'd go with what Thora wrote. Send the screenshot to them, with a message, 'Bunch of two-faced twats. Fuck the lot of you, bitches!' and then block them.

GeekyWombat · 26/03/2017 21:23

This is really horrible. I'm sorry OP.

MadMags · 26/03/2017 21:25

Sorrel did you get an answer??

Original poster
YouKnowNothingJS · 26/03/2017 21:25

I've messaged and said

Really hurt that you would all go to the cinema without me. Obviously we aren't the friends I thought we all were.

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HecateAntaia · 26/03/2017 21:25

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ReginaGeorgeinSheepsClothing · 26/03/2017 21:25

Agree with paxillan I'd move away from their drama and ignore them- I think that however you 'confronted' them from their behaviour they seem quite childish and would prob make it twisted that you are the one in the wrong!

Miserylovescompany2 · 26/03/2017 21:26

I wouldn't give any of them the time of day. Delete the lot of them...good bloody riddance!

FreeNiki · 26/03/2017 21:26

Really hurt that you would all go to the cinema without me. Obviously we aren't the friends I thought we all were.

They didnt care enough about you to invite you and now you've given them the means to laugh at you too.

VeryButchyRestingFace · 26/03/2017 21:26

They deliberately excluded you from something, they were childish enough to snapchat other people about it?!

Yes, exactly - who does that??

Do you absolutely trust FM, OP?

Newtothis2017 · 26/03/2017 21:27

Good for you op. Glad you stuck up for yourself. What horrible friends

Aeroflotgirl · 26/03/2017 21:28

How shitty of them. They dident want you there, the money thing was just bull, just an excuse. They aren't your friends, nasty playground behaviour. Hope you meet some nice, mAture friends.

Original poster
YouKnowNothingJS · 26/03/2017 21:28

They didnt care enough about you to invite you and now you've given them the means to laugh at you too.

What's funny about that?

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JustSpeakSense · 26/03/2017 21:29

Take the Moral high ground.

Don't retaliate with bitchiness, it will give them reason to defend themselves and blame you and go on the defensive.

Just a simple question will make them squirm.

Glossolalia · 26/03/2017 21:29

Oh OP Sad

I hate reading threads like this. They always remind me of Secondary school bullying. Sad

They really aren't your friends...

Scrumptiousbears · 26/03/2017 21:29

I disagree. I think they'd be gutted at the very least because they have been caught out.

Original poster
YouKnowNothingJS · 26/03/2017 21:30

Do you absolutely trust FM, OP?

I have no reason to think she would lie.

Regardless I've seen it with my own eyes anyway.

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ClopySow · 26/03/2017 21:30

They didnt care enough about you to invite you and now you've given them the means to laugh at you too

Way to stick the knife in Niki

ChasedByBees · 26/03/2017 21:30

They didnt care enough about you to invite you and now you've given them the means to laugh at you too.

I think that's really unfair. What they did was hurtful, they knew it was hurtful and OP was indeed hurt. What's the problem acknowledging that she's hurt? It's a fairly mature way to deal with it from my perspective.

Good reply OP.