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God forbid I ask for a favour from DH (and don't even get me started on Mother's Day!)

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Zhan · 26/03/2017 12:08

So yesterday I spoke to DH about furniture restoration - something I would like to do as a hobby and something that could generate us a bit of extra cash. He was all up for it. I spoke about how excited I was about the project and told him I'd found an old bookcase for sale for £10 which I had great ideas for. Again, he was all up for it. I said I needed one favour and that was that he come with me to pick it up as I wouldn't be able to lift it into the car on my own (plus it's a new car which I've not driven yet). 5 minute drive. He said "no problem" and again, seemed all up for it.

So still dead excited, confirmed with seller they still had it, double checked again with DH that he would come with (said he would, no problem) - I agree a time with seller and suddenly DH says "I don't want to, can't be arsed". He goes on to say that my hobby shouldn't involve him "messing around" and it's not my hobby at all if he's the one running around doing everything!! I'd asked him to help me get it home, that's it! Fuming and just feel so deflated and sad that he can't be arsed to do a 5 minute drive with me for something I've been excited about all weekend.

On top on this my eldest son (18) has "misplaced" my Mother's Day present (read - drank it) and I have received no cards from either of my kids (got a box of after eights from youngest). Eldest greeted me this morning with "why do you weigh your cereal? Why are you so weird? Is it because you want to look like a 20 year old like them?" (I was looking through catalogue).

Fucked off, fed up and feel like telling them all to do one.

OP posts:
DameDeDoubtance · 26/03/2017 15:40

Fab thread! Time to start putting yourself first methinks!

ThePiglet59 · 26/03/2017 15:46

Well the men in your family are obviously arses, but if you are serious about the furniture restoration you need to make arrangements for the moving of heavy furniture.
Unless your OH or son is interested (which they aren't) they are unlikely to want to lump furniture around.
Oh, and why are you still with the odious twat?

bignamechangeroonie · 26/03/2017 16:12

And stop DOING favours for those fuckers.

Well done you Flowers We are all stronger than we realise.

MopedManiac · 26/03/2017 16:27

Oh well done Zhan! I did a air punch (in my head) when i saw that you had got the shelf! You are awesome.

Guitargirl is spot on - this stinks of classic gas-lighting / narcissistic behaviour.

I really hope you spoil yourself (or put aside in separate savings) with the profits!!

Flowers and a gold Star!

InSpaceNooneCanHearYouScream · 26/03/2017 16:45

Well done for doing it! Now you need to tell that cunt of a husband to do one, and your kids to buck their selfish ideas up!

Clnz4fun · 26/03/2017 17:07

Op just as a side note maybe get yourself one of those two wheeled trolleys and some tight rope or so that you don't end up breaking your back if you are gonna keep it up.Smile

JustDanceAddict · 26/03/2017 17:12

Good on you, OP!

ChrisYoungFuckingRocks · 26/03/2017 17:17

Just for you Grin.

God forbid I ask for a favour from DH (and don't even get me started on Mother's Day!)
KatieScarlett · 26/03/2017 17:18

I can't imagine a world where DH would behave in such a cruel way. Even my sloth like DS (only moves for sport, food, beer or women) would instantly have got up to help.
Your menfolk are awful. This needs to change.

Janey50 · 26/03/2017 17:20

Next time he wants to get his leg over,say 'Nah,I can't be arsed'. That'll larn him. Grin

Janey50 · 26/03/2017 17:29

Just seen your update OP. Well done you. Smile

Etymology23 · 26/03/2017 17:34

Yes to a sack barrow/porters trolley. This, plus an old curtain/blanket for the back of the car to make sliding over the lumps easier and some cheap bungies and rope . (Too many self move house moves here I think..)

offblackeggshell · 26/03/2017 17:42

Well done OP! Flowers

mrswishywashy1 · 26/03/2017 17:45

Well done OP and don't forget to post a pic when it's finished Smile

twattymctwatterson · 26/03/2017 18:26

Well done op. Seriously though this is just the tip of the iceberg isn't it? He didn't want you to do something you would enjoy so sabotaged you. The way your son speaks to you sounds like DH's behaviour is wearing off on him. Have a think about your marriage.

Foldedtshirt · 26/03/2017 18:31

Well done! Today is a turning point for you Flowers

ifyoulikepinacolada · 26/03/2017 18:39

Yayyyyy!!!! Well done OP. Is it weird to say I'm proud of you?! StarGinGrinFlowersCake

Foxysoxy01 · 26/03/2017 19:02

Well done OP! Star

Hope your DH is pissed off that you actually managed to do as you wanted Grin

Do you think a big talking to might be in order for DH and kids?

GCHQMonitoring · 26/03/2017 19:54

Well done.☺

I can't believe your husband didn't come out to help you get it out of the car and into the shed. That's beyond petty and selfish. The arse

MumW · 26/03/2017 20:20

Way to go OP.
Today is the beginning of a whole new you.
Can't wait to see the finished article and what your next project will be.

Naicehamshop · 26/03/2017 20:21

Well done op!!! WineCakeGin

carteblah · 26/03/2017 20:24

Love your attitude, OP. Nice one!

DesertSky · 26/03/2017 20:29

Pah. Who needs men!
Good luck with decorating your bookcase OP! x

FireSquirrel · 26/03/2017 20:33

Don't turn it into a bookcase, turn it into a giant cupboard - put some doors on it, big wheels on the bottom, then put all his stuff inside and tell him to get pushing. Seriously, he sounds like a massive waste of space.

PickAChew · 26/03/2017 21:00

That's one solid looking piece of furniture!

And probably about the right size to hide a body in.

Seriously, though, you need to hang onto that "me, before us" feeling and do everything you can to help it to grow. You have clearly spent too long feeling increasingly downtrodden.