To be annoyed at my brother and SIL?

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My brother and his fiancé are getting married in June. The wedding has been in the planning for a couple of years now and they have been full on all the time so some us will be pleased when the constant pressure stops. I'm a bridesmaid and so am trying to be positive but yesterday all people did was complain about me!

My first crime was that I'm going home the day after the wedding (it's abroad) on the Sunday because I have school on the Monday. My family told me to just tell school that I'll be in later that week so I can stay longer. They don't seem to understand that as a teacher I can't just put in holiday and have to go during term time.

My second is not going to the first hen do (there's three) because it's going to be nearly £400 and that's a lot for one weekend when we are already paying £1100 to attend the wedding.

Third is saying I don't want to lose weight. We are ttc right now so it's not an ideal time to go on a crash diet and I'm not overweight (size 8). She wants us all to "look our best" because she has to "look at the wedding pictures forever" given I'm buying my own bridesmaids dress I don't see what it matters.

I think I'm just being over sensitive because they called our wedding boring so feel free to call me out on it.

PDA's are grim at the best of times, they are taking it to an uber level

The more you write about them OP, the funnier they get. It really isn't you

I'm laughing to myself that they've convinced themselves that this is a 'laid back wedding'. I'd describe it as pretty much vertical from what you've written so far. .

Can you please be pregnant and then be a little bit sick on her dress?

I've changed my mind - you should go to the wedding - its going to be hilarious.

I don't like weddings anyway, just putting it out there. Especially ones that involve paying to go abroad. This one sounds like an extra special kind of horror. All three of your 'crimes' are ridiculous. The losing weight one annoys me more than anything. Even if you were the fattest person on earth, it's not their place to tell you to lose weight for their bloody wedding photos! And three hen parties?! Are they also doing three stags?

@iamastonished I cared for my wedding because I did it traditionally all from the bridal bouquet so all the colours continued through the wedding and the 2 bridesmaids and 2 page boys wore matching outfits with the silver and white theme. They were 6,4,2 and 1yr old so it was me buying them and I thought they would be pretty all the same. I had my sister as MoH and her dress matched theirs in colour (not style as she's 24) and her flowers matched mine. I just think if we all wear different then it'll make us just one of the other guests. Great because then I can disappear but it seems pointless if we don't all agree on a type. Especially as we all have to be the same size 😆

Sorry, I didn't mean it to sound snippy.

Ooooooh I so hope this one ends up in the Daily Mail and the bridge and groom get to read about what MN thinks of them and their fuckwittery.

Errrrr I don't 😆 they'll kill me!

Nice family OP! You invited them to share the most important day of your life, fed them and watered them and that was boring? FM! Stick to your guns. Having responsibilities is not boring. Size 8 is tiny. Three hen nights is ridiculous. You are real. FSIL is being a tit.

Also be inclined to say loudly to the photographer "do you have a wide angled lens so you can fit in my huge bulk"?

"Stop forgiving and focus on the fucking."

The last wedding I went to with a similar bride & groom, the marriage lasted...3 weeks!! I shit you not!

Glad you're going to get counselling, sounds like you need the support though your dh sounds switched on too.

They sound like utter arses! Definitely do the teeth in at least one photo!

I'm back! So last month was a bust on the ttc front and things have taken a shady turn in that I might have the clap! Bloody just my luck because I must have had it about 6/7yrs because my DH and I have been together since 2013 and my last serious relationship was 2012 but due to a pregnancy scare in 2010 (irony) we were super careful after that.

Anyway news in the wedding front... she has decided that she can't have my DC wearing the suit we have for him that is left over from my wedding because it will be too similar to what he has worn before (errrrr it's not similar; it's identical) and has bought him one already that we owe the money for. It's £85 and in a size 2-3yrs because he's now 2. She has had it personalised for him hence the added cost and so can't return it. He's currently in 9-12 and 12-18 clothes so I'm hoping it's a really small 2-3 because I'm not paying for it. Also it better not be hideous.

Back to cosmic ordering. I'm cd11 tonight so we are ignoring the potential sti situation because it MIGHT not be a problem if I test negative. NB I've only found out last Wednesday due to an antibody test so we've both had it for years if that's the case and one more week isn't going to change that. Neither of us have had any symptoms at all so it's not my fault I didn't know. What I need is anyone reading this to wish really hard that this month is the month! Come on baby xxxxxxx

"Dear SIL to be
Since my weight /size is clearly a problem to you, I've thought the easiest way to drop a few pounds is to cut out fancy meals out and booze from now until the wedding. Obviously if I am to stick to this weight loss program, I can't come to ANY of your hen dos"

Job done

Yeah. Also DH said we can't really afford to go to the wedding unless we sell the house asap. We need to apply for a mortgage so are saving every penny we can towards a deposit and the almost £2000 this wedding will cost us is not ideal. OBVIOUSLY we are going but it's not ideal.

We don't need money for the new baby you all wish I would conceive because babies live for free for the first year at least and we have everything still from DC1 that the next one will use- pram, clothes, toys, car seat. As I bf like a pro now after 2years their food is free too! Zero cost for the new baby!