To be annoyed at my brother and SIL?

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My brother and his fiancé are getting married in June. The wedding has been in the planning for a couple of years now and they have been full on all the time so some us will be pleased when the constant pressure stops. I'm a bridesmaid and so am trying to be positive but yesterday all people did was complain about me!

My first crime was that I'm going home the day after the wedding (it's abroad) on the Sunday because I have school on the Monday. My family told me to just tell school that I'll be in later that week so I can stay longer. They don't seem to understand that as a teacher I can't just put in holiday and have to go during term time.

My second is not going to the first hen do (there's three) because it's going to be nearly £400 and that's a lot for one weekend when we are already paying £1100 to attend the wedding.

Third is saying I don't want to lose weight. We are ttc right now so it's not an ideal time to go on a crash diet and I'm not overweight (size 8). She wants us all to "look our best" because she has to "look at the wedding pictures forever" given I'm buying my own bridesmaids dress I don't see what it matters.

I think I'm just being over sensitive because they called our wedding boring so feel free to call me out on it.

Btw, punch her in the face for even daring to suggest your body weight. How fucking dare she!

My sister was a size 10-12. Lovely enviable figure. She was being bridesmaid for a friend who bought all the bridesmaids size 8 wedding dresses without consulting them and told them to slim into them. My sister starved herself for weeks and went to the gym every day to loose the weight as it was her best friend's wedding but she looked ill on the day. It was ridiculous.

Wtf!?

Absolute bridezilla.

Or maybe that's just because if I was her soon to be SIL I can imagine her taking me on one side to have a very kind chat about how "you must understand that we can't have your size 20 presence offending us at our wedding because we have to look at the pictures...."

I refuse to believe this is real.

I'm surprised they have anyone left going to their wedding. They told you to lose weight - that would be outrageous if you were clinically obese let alone when you're already slim. I don't think I could carry on being bridesmaid. Getting married doesn't entitle you to act like a total inconsiderate arse for two entire years. It's meant to be a nice family day to celebrate the couple not a photoshoot for vogue. What has your DB said about all of this?

The poor brother chose his bride and inflicted her on op and the rest of the family. Maybe he's an arsehole too?

Made me laugh!

It does sound as if the family in general have been having a go too.

Poor OP - looks like a lot of "interesting" times ahead for your family.

I want to run away just reading this!

Just seen the comment regarding your wedding. Seriously you and your dh are adults and you know you can refuse to do things as adults like not attending weddings etc

What do your parents think of her?

I hope you haven't told her your ttc. That might send her over the edge.

Or saying that tell her and she may be so fearful that you'll be pg at her wedding she won't want you as a bridesmaid and you can just go to the wedding as a mere petal and chill

It wouldn't matter if you were a size 28 - your body is not her fucking business.

Seriously??!! I'd just cancel the trip and tell her you're not going. If you're ttc too, with any luck, you might be pregnant by then ... tell her you're going to get a maternity bridesmaids dress just in case!!!!!!

No-one who is a size 8 needs to go on a diet!!! Stick to your guns.

YADNBU!

"Smile and wave!"

Wear a fat suit under your dress.

Sounds horrendous. Try to just smile and ignore and stick to your plans and don't even think about losing weight. MY bet is the marriage won't last as it sounds like the wedding is the focus and the attention that comes with it. Feel sorry for her , keep calm and carry on.

What's ttc mean?

There are so far into unreasonableness. I'm amazed you haven't cracked OP. They are so rude. As a size 8, asking you to lose weight - do they want you to look like you're ill so you make SIL look better?

TTC - Trying to Conceive.

I would refuse to be bridesmaid after that.

what a shame they sound terrible .i could.nt have cared less the size of my bridesmaid i think she was a 14 the shame of her .she was and still is my best friend i would,nt have cared if she had been a size 24 .tell them to get lost and spend the money else where

'Annoyed' is a milder choice of adjective than I would select.

So you are going to 2 hen do's, why ?

I would resign as bridesmaid and think seriously about missing the wedding.

She is nuts! How can being unnaturally thin mean "looking our best" FFS?

I'd be thinking of not going tbh.

bonkers

@bluntness100 I'm quite short so size 8 is big on me and she's a size 6 and taller. Apparently she's told everyone the same so as not to single people out...

@agrigclucky31 they were together ages before getting engaged. The reason they got engaged was because I had a baby and the spotlight blinked off them for a second.