To be hurt by my dh comment about my weight

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Getting ready this morning I commented to dh that he was still as slim as he was when we meet 18 years ago. He laughed and said, "well you've put on enough for both of us". While it might be true (probably about 3 stone since we met) I have carried two babies who are still young (3 and 18 months). I'm fully aware that I've put on a lot of weight and so while his comment is true it's still hurtful. When I told him I was upset by what he had said his response was, "well you have" (put on weight enough for two). Am I being too sensitive or is this a shitty thing to say even if it is true?

Yorick yes he does pull his weight with the kids and around the house although he isn't usually home from work until 7 by which time all the hard graft with the kids is done so I have to find the motivation to exercise when it's my own time in the evening. If I had the option to go out for a run instead of doing the bath and bed routine a couple of nights a week I reckon I would be much fitter by now

Helena far from it, my children are 3 and 18 months.

OP the fact you are looking after the DC is what enables him to do those hours.

Is his job flexible If so is he willing to adjust his hours.

Could he come home an hour earlier or you keep the DC up just one hour later.

Theres being intimidated and then theres thinking one seems a bit of an arse.

He does the morning shift. So I leave for work at 7.30 and he gets kids ready and off to nursery so he does do his fair share. This means he doesnt get in to work until 10 so he cant really get home earlier. Then I'm home to pick them up and do dinner and bed. We don't have family nearby so we are a bit of a tag team.

He is generally supportive though so will do what he can to let me get out a run or go to an exercise class which I enjoy doing.

It was a thread by a woman looking for support. She didnt really need to read your manly opinion about how women shouldn't let themselves go, on her thread.

No, LouKout. This thread is all about Joey's penis. Everything is all about Joey's penis, didn't you know that? That's why, when nobody laughs at his tedious joke about women who don't do their duty to his hard on, it's oppression of his penis. And if you laugh at him, it's because you are intimidated by his penis.

He has a girlfriend too.

When a man turns out to be a nasty so and so who is insensitive and controlling it makes me feel way less attracted to him.

Joey you're very shallow - people change, as will you, weight, skin, health, hair loss and hair gain in random places - if you love a person you see through it. At the moment OP doesn't seem to have sufficient time or energy but even do the last thing anyone who wants to lose weight is some crappy comments from loved ones

I'm new to mumsnet guys! But I thought it was to cheer people up not upset or piss people off. ☹️

I'm not a guy.

and no, its not just here to cheer people up.

I've just read your OP to my dh. He looked genuinely shocked and said "that's disgusting, what a dick". Sums up my thoughts too.

Try harder, "Alice ".

Just trying to stick up for mums who feel uncomfortable about themselves have some respect!

Just trying to stick up for mums who feel uncomfortable about themselves have some respect!

Yes, "Alice", I'm quite sure that's why you're here and how you found us.

Anyway intelegance is superior to muscle !

I think that's horrible. He could have not responded, there was no need for that

Christ, Punch and Judy's got more convincing characters than this.

is intelligence about being able to spell intelligence?