To think 41 is v v young for a granny??

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I'm 44. Recently I have been back in touch with some people I was at school with on Facebook - haven't seen these people for over 20 years, nearer 25 probably. I'm quite surprised at the number who are already grandparents - I saw a picture of a toddler on one of their FB pages, assumed it was their child but no, a grandchild having their third birthday. Granny is the same age as me.

My mum was 27 when she had me and became a grandparent at 58. My inlaws were the same age. My eldest is 14 and I am not expecting to be a granny much before I'm 60, so that's my "normal". Cannot imagine being a granny by 41 and may be a bit unreasonable thinking it's nothing to aspire to?

Im 30 and my son is nearly 8 so if he had a baby at 18 i could be a granny at 38...

I know what you mean. I would be too embarrassed to admit it that age, to be honest.

Young in my book.
I gave birth to my daughter at age 41.
The women who was my best friend at school became a grandmother at age 29.

It really does depend on where you live, who is normal in your social circle.

All of my friends are in their 40s and 50s and not one of them is a grandparent yet. Most still have dependent children living at home.

One of my closest friends is 55. She had her dd at 26/27 and her dd is about the same age now and getting married next year. I said "oh friend, you could be a grandma soon!" and she was horrified .

Big difference between 16 and 20!

Here's one for you. Because of the age range between us, my oldest sister became a grandma at 45 before I'd even had kids!

If I'd had a child at the same age as my mum had me, my mum would've been a granny at 36!

As it was, she was 53.

I had DD1 at 21, I was married. I could have been a granny at 40, I'm not. Must admit I did feel too young to be a granny.

It is young now, but when many young people got married at 18-20 it wouldnt be at all unusual to be a granny by the time you were 40. My great grandma became a grandma and a 6th and 7th time mother (twins) in the same year when she was 43!

The mother of a school mate of DD's became a grandma the day after her 31st birthday. Her and her eldest DD both became mothers at 15.

My mum will be 54 this year and has 15 grandchildren. She doesn't help with childcare at all as she works full time, but she is very involved and loves them all. She doesn't see being a nan as a negative in any way. She says it's like having the best bits of your own all over again.

My mum had me at 22, I had dd1 at 22 and dd2 at 23 both my mother and I got our degrees, I think it was a shock for mum to become a nan at 44 but then my bf from school is about to become a granny at 36 so it's horses for courses really.

I have an old school friend on Facebook who's eldest is currently pregnant

I'm 36!

My Mum was 45 when my eldest was born, she felt young but not too bad

I agree with you op, in my personal experience 41 would be considered an exceptionally young age to be grandparent. The vast majority of my family and aquaintences have been in their late twenties and thirties before they started their families, having spent their earlier adult years in education and establishing careers.

Yes, I agree with you PyongyangKipperbang

People are amazed when my sister has grandkids almost as old as my kids, but she got married in the mid 70s when she was 20 and it was fairly normal to have a child at 21/22 in those days.

I'm 44 and about to have DC4, my friend is 45 and will become a granny in 2 weeks. Quite frankly I'd rather be a younger granny, I might not even be alive by the time DC4 has DC, or may be too decrepit to help out

Oh gosh I'm so glad I had babies late. I would hate to have spent my 20s and 30s raising children. I'm perfectly happy to spend nights in drinking tea and watching Pottery Throw Down at my age :)

I am in my 50s. It's nice. It means you aren't over the hill when they arrive. My parents didn't have children until their 30s. My grandfather was 49 by the time he had my father so it just varies depending on when you have your own children.

And I just realised that my mum was 39 when I made her a grandmother. She had me at 22 and I was 17 when I had eldest DC. I am 43 and frankly cant imagine anything worse than being a grandma now, but then youngest DD is 5!

My GP's were in their mid 60's and not in the best physical health when I was born (eldest gc) and they seemed much older than my peers' GP at primary school. My DM became a GM at 48 and my dc (eldest 18) say that she isn't a "proper" granny as she doesn't have white hair

My great grandma became a granny at 38 and both my mum and Nan became grannies at 35.

Great grandma was 19 when she had my Nan, my Nan was 19 when she had my mum, my mum was 16 when she had me, I was 19 when I had dc1.

My school friend became a gran on the day I became a first time mum, made me feel old!

In one social group it's so young as to be practically a child. In the other it's about normal

Most of the mums I met at toddler groups and through ante natal groups were between 27 and 35 I reckon, I know I felt very average at almost 31. I only know two people who have had babies in their 40s, but then again only know 2 people who were teenage mums. I don't know if there are figures published showing the spread of mums' ages, to see if there are lots in the 40 age group and not much in between.

One of my dearest friends said (when her DD announced she was pg at 17) 'it isn't how I imagined celebrating my 40th birthday!' But she now has 5 grandchildren (across two DDs) and she is 49. She is a brilliant, involved grandma - and can send them home when she has had enough.

My mum became a Grandma at 65. My Dad never became a Grandad as he died before we had any children.

If Dd had a child at the age I had her I would be a gran at 34!
I like to hope that won't happen!,