To think people can afford holidays/nice things if they just save?

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I have a friend who constantly complains that she wished she could go on holiday, buy this, have money for that etc.

She has a decent job, a nice house, doesn't need/want for anything, she probably eats takeaway 2 times a week (maybe 3) I see this as a waste of money

let's say that's 15 each go, 30/45 euros a week.... lately she's really been complaining and wishing for a holiday, surely if she just stopped having takeaways she'd be able to afford it.. a week in the sun isn't that expensive; book out of season, her and 1 young child possibly 500 total IF even for a week!..

I've said to her before, in a nice way, if you cut down on unnecessary costs you'll have extra in no time.

She's not unhealthy, she just loves pigging out!
Aibu to be annoyed by her constant giving out when I've told her?

There would be a huge market for Sunday childminders or nurseries.

This is what I am actually in the process of doing. I currently work retail and keep having to turn down weekend work because I have no childcare. I am technically unable to fulfill the role I was hired for as I am not "fully flexible" (I said I was so I could get the job, shoot me if you like but I need to work) but my manager has been very forgiving and has worked round it with other staff. I'm now registering as a CMer and will be providing weekend care and possibly overnight care if I am allowed to. For exactly the reasons described in this thread. Weekend childcare is now an essential. So many jobs require weekend availability.

user you have no family or caring commitments, of course you were able to walk from one job into the other. You are young free and single. Try thinking of it from someone elses point of view. Someone who has children or a sick partner to care for, or someone who has a disability or limited mobility.

points Do you read the papers? Do you know what happens if you're on jsa and don't apply for jobs?

User my carer's allowance pays me approximately £1.77 per hour for a 35 hour week. I obviously work more than that. The government doesn't give me more though.
Most people, in Ireland as well as in England are not sat on their arses. Most folks are trying to get jobs. It's been clearly demonstrated time and again that those who are on benefits long term are in the minority. Apart from which, it's so hard not to fulfil the criteria, there are even fewer trying to manage on 73 quid a week.

Do you know what happens if you're on jsa and don't apply for jobs?

Honestly, no, I have not kept up to date with everything. However, I could apply now for 25 jobs a day if I had to, and still made sure I did not get any of them. Applying for a job means nothing.
It's actually hard work to do it properly.

I am not "fully flexible" (I said I was so I could get the job, shoot me if you like but I need to work)
I do sympathize and applaud your efforts. You can understand the problems you can create for the team, it's not fair either. Being a weekend childminder is a fantastic idea, I hope you will prioritise people who do need it, but good luck.

There are plenty of people applying for jobs properly and still being threatened with sanctions. Some advisors are keen to home in on people they perceive to be easy targets.

Of course I understand the problem. That's why I'm leaving so I'm not being that problem anymore. But at the time i needed a job and it was the first that was offered to me. I'm really not going to beat myself up about accepting a job I wasn't 100% perfect for when the alternative is "sitting on my ass getting benefits handed to me" and made to feel like shite for it by some on this thread. Talk about rock and a fucking hard place. damned if you do, damned if you don't.

Points, you're also sanctioned if the prospective employer feels that you weren't taking the interview seriously.
I don't know what field you're in, but sometimes there are a dearth of folk in particular fields, that's just the way it is. It's not always a case of taking any job that comes. I could, were I available for work, do admin work, (I'm a retired lecturer) I couldn't be a hairdresser, nor could I pick fruit or do anything involving lifting. Apart from which, there are always going to be more jobs in London. I live rurally, we have a factory in a town nearby. It's just lost a contract so will be losing around 300 staff. That's a huge hit in a local area and there is no possible way that 300 jobs are going to appear.

So basically the inference is that I wasn't applying properly for the jobs I was applying for?

Not all of us live in high employment areas like London.

I hope you will prioritise people who do need it, but good luck.

I can't imagine anyone paying for weekend childcare they don't need! However if someone who doesn't need it asks for a place and I have one I'll prioritise my own need for income first and foremost to be truthfully honest with you.

I hope you will prioritise people who do need it, but good luck

Oh, I just meant that people working shifts would need it more obviously, but I wouldn't dream of regulating anything. I do know more than a few parents who would be more than happy to have a child free Sunday and would be happy to pay for the privilege.

Dawndonnaagain as a retired lecturer, you would be a great candidate for many many companies, but I am in London (and I don't know how much salary you would demand).

Annesmyth I'm quite happy to pay taxes so that people can get out of abusive relationships and find their feet, look after their children and build a life for themselves. I believe in the welfare state. I'd rather pay taxes and make sure that those less fortunate than I am do not go without. I'm happy and proud to support people who need sickness benefits. Neil Kinnock warned us once not to be ordinary or ill or young or old. As far as I'm concerned, those people deserve sympathy and help, not condemnation.

You weren't scrounging or on handouts. You were given what you needed, which is as it should be. I'm only sorry that this system is being eroded and that you were given so little.