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Oh fucking hell its a parking one..

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Emster58 · 19/03/2017 14:59

Tell me please what fresh hell is this?

Of course there is a backstory but it culminated with dh being threatened today Sad

We live on a new housing estate, we share the entrance to our driveway with two other families....
We have owned the house for 8 years but it has been rented out while we've been abroad. We just recently moved back and discovered that no one now living here is aware that it is in fact a shared entrance but not a shared drive. The parking has been pretty bad and I've had to knock on my ndn1's about 5 times to be able to leave my property as she was parked on it. Interestingly enough this seems to piss my neighbor off Confused
I had been getting some building work done, it took about 6 weeks. I informed my neighbors beforehand and wouldn't allow work after 6pm in order to not put the neighbors out to much.
A truck dented my neighbours (2) fence i got it fixed immediately and was mortified and apologetic.
A delivery truck was blocking the exit once by about 5 inches and my neighbor 1 went batshit at me in the street. It was the same neighbor who was consistently blocking me in and i was only ever nice & polite to her when she was on my propertyHmm
My ndn2 stood out on the drive with her dh and dm and shouted over to my gardeners that i was a disgrace for having building materials on ndn1's drive.

Still with me?

When the work was finished i took round wine and a card to both neightbours (i also arranged to get their windows washed to clean any builders dust)and thanked them for their patience. In the card i attached a photo copy of the property boundaries for their information and so they would realise that they were in fact parking on my drive and that I wasn't storing property on ndn1's drive that it was in fact my
property.

So that's the back story ... now this is where it starts to get nasty.
Just to make things better we live opposite a school.
Sometimes a random blocks the drive entrance and uses it as a parking space. Last week i lost my rag and put a note on the windscreen with Pratt stick saying RUDE - this isn't a parking space. (Fucking bastarding mumsnet giving me these ideas)..anyway turns out it was ndn2's visitor...I didn't know Blush ...it made no sense, why would he park blocking when the neighbor had 2 spaces on his drive???
Anyway the ndn 2 stopped speaking to us (which really is ok because they were never very nice to us anyway), but unfortunately they added in talking about us loudly so we overhear , stink eyeing us, ignoring us when we greet them....sort of a pack mentality when they have. Visitors...sort of low level intimidation but very unpleasant.
The council put in keep clear signs at our drive entrance yesterday - i requested them about 6 months ago. The ndn2 has gone apoplectic. Now they don't park on their drive at all, they are parking both cars at the entrance to make it difficult for us to leave.
They've now set up toys for their D.C. On the entrance so we would have to ask the D.C. To move them temporarily while we exit.which we did, politely of course...
This has resulted in non dh going mental 'squaring up" pointing in my dh's face calling him names, taunting him, telling him hit me hit me go on...my chest just kept very calm with his hands behind his back....ndn's poor poor ds was crying terribly it was awful begging him to "leave it dad please"....when people walked by the ndn doh cuddled his boy and said to my dh...look what you've done to my poor boy you're scaring him Shock....
I have no idea how to deal with this situation.

Any help please?

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blueskyinmarch · 19/03/2017 16:23

Gosh that was fast response from the police! Ndn2 will go ballistic when they visit him!

Groovee · 19/03/2017 16:28

That's shocking. The police hopefully will make them see they cannot intimidate you in such a way.

IamFriedSpam · 19/03/2017 16:28

I'd definitely log the abuse with the police. I might get CCTV too as it'll be your word against yours.

Emster58 · 19/03/2017 16:30

The note on the car was a mistake... I didn't know it was his visitor ..I was pissed off, hungover and sick of knocking on my neighbors door to get in & out.. I regret it because it's given them cartblanch to go to town on me though I think they would have just found something else anyway.

Riff raff?

On the contrary she is a Chelsea boot, padded joules striped wearing mummy around town. Unfortunately for us though how she presents and who she really is are very different. Her dh is some sort of professional not sure what though.

How do I attach a photo from the iPad?

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LakieLady · 19/03/2017 16:33

I'd definitely get cctv, just in case it ends up in threats (or worse) that could be a police matter.

They sound utterly vile, and I totally get how the comments etc can be upsetting (had similar from one of my ndn's).

My friend had a problem with moron neighbours who thought that it was cool to park their car right outside their front door, even though this meant blocking the shared drive. A few occasions of getting them out of bed so they could park when arriving home in the small hours, and very early in the morning when they had early starts had no effect.

The final straw came when they got a phone call at 2am to say that my friend's SiL was in hospital with a brain haemorrhage and not expected to last the night, and her husband was desperate to go and be with her to say his goodbyes.

When the neighbour eventually came to the door, very bleary eyed, and asked my friend why she hadn't asked him to move his car the previous night, she lost it and said "Because H's sister didn't know she was going to die in the next few hours last night. Now move your fucking car, please".

He hasn't done it since.

Glossolalia · 19/03/2017 16:34

Use the little bit paper clip icon near the text box l, OP

upthegardenpath · 19/03/2017 16:35

How horrible, intimidating and downright bloody unnecessary, porro OP - I feel for you and echo the sentiment that anything share is potentially hellish.
No idea why you need to post a diagram...we get the drift.
Trunkis idea sounds like a good first plan of action.

There was a Nightmare Neighbours on the other night about a very similar situation.
Good luck OP. Some people really can be vile twats Angry

picklemepopcorn · 19/03/2017 16:35

When you write a new post, is there a smiley, T and paperclip below the box? the paperclip lets you attach.

BillyButtfuck · 19/03/2017 16:39

Definitely need a diagram to explain this one Confused

Emster58 · 19/03/2017 16:42

Ok...here it is

Oh fucking hell its a parking one..
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Emster58 · 19/03/2017 16:43

We can't move.
We've just spent a fortune renovating, we will be here for at least the next 5 years.

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Peachesandcream15 · 19/03/2017 16:44

Slightly off topic but this seems such a common problem with new build houses. They never allow enough room for cars, either on drives or on the road. It is guaranteed to cause problems and shouldn't be allowed when planning permission is granted.

dailystuck71 · 19/03/2017 16:46

Diagram hasn't appeared OP.

colourmylife · 19/03/2017 16:46

I can see it but I don't understand where the parking spaces are for each house?

Emster58 · 19/03/2017 16:50

The dotty area is parking...ndn1 has parking down the side for 2 at a push 3
Ndn 2 has parking for. 4 2. Down the side and 2 at the front

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Emster58 · 19/03/2017 16:50

Now?

Oh fucking hell its a parking one..
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CotswoldStrife · 19/03/2017 16:50

I can't see it either.

ExitPursuedByUser54321 · 19/03/2017 16:54

Where is your parking?

Emster58 · 19/03/2017 16:57

My parking goes in front of ndn1 and down the side..I can get about 4 but I tend to ask my visitors to park on the car park less than 1 minute walk away. I try to be considerate to ndn1 and not block her light....also I need to leave space for all people to reverse and turn etc

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LooksBetterWithAFilter · 19/03/2017 16:58

Your parking is partly in front of ndn1 house is that right. Hers goes down the right hand side of her house and knobby neighbour two has the bit at the front of his house and they bit at the side. You all enter from the same point?

Emster58 · 19/03/2017 16:59

Yes looks!

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notapizzaeater · 19/03/2017 17:00

I'd get a solicitors letter sent outlining the plans so they are in no doubt about boundaries

ThreeFish · 19/03/2017 17:02

The Orange line is the boundary? I can see why the house in the middle thought your parking was theirs.
I'd get the police involved tbh.

Emster58 · 19/03/2017 17:03

But now nobby (and quite scarey) neighbor has stopped using his drive and both he And his wife are. Parking at the entrance not enough to block us in but Enough to make entering and exiting difficult

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Emster58 · 19/03/2017 17:06

Sorry about all the typos my pad is. Being very temp premenopausal (excellent. Spellcheck)
Yes the orange. Is there boundary.

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