School rewarding 8 yr olds for bad behaviour

[Pugwash2005]

My ds and his friends have been complaining because the 4 'naughty' children in their class have a tea party every Friday afternoon if they get over 12 'smileys' in a week, 2 'good' children are also picked to go along. There was an incident in school with one of the challenging pupils but he was still allowed to the party. Ds & I along with other mums think this party is making other children feel they are not rewarded for their good behaviour along with the fact that even when naughty these 4 kids get rewarded. Your opinions on this would be great

granny,

Rockpebblestone, so I have to understand your point of view but you don't have to understand my point of view? Sounds familiar...............

I never said that. But it is my responsibility to put forward my own point of view and your responsibility to put forward your own. I repeatedly did acknowledge how awful bullying is and how important I think it is tackled successfully.

Where we may differ is how we deal with our own and loved ones suffering, at the hands of others. I actually find it easier to deal with my own suffering, at the hands of others, if I can on some level empathise with them. It is easier for me to reconcile their actions if I know it is down to their own difficulties in life. I don't like to even think for a minute that they chose, completely willingly and with full knowledge of what they were doing to hurt me. So I actively look for ways to empathise.I feel similarly concerning treatment of my DC, although I am ferociously vigilant on making sure they are safe and protected. I do actually feel sorry for the perpetrators in some instances because I know they will not have reckoned on dealing with me (let me say one teacher somewhat tactically left my DC's school)! Although I always am completely above board and believe in playing by the rules.

I see that you have not reconciled all that has happened to you and your family. Injustice is an awful thing to deal with. I'm just past a lot of the anger myself, so I'm aware I can sometimes sound unemotional, but I know everyone takes their own time in order to get to this stage.