Husbands ex has stolen baby name

[Deedee3311]

his ex who he already has a son with who has just had a baby has actually stolen the name we were going to use. We are on amicable terms and she knew what name we had chosen, now she has robbed it. We call the baby by this name and it is THE name we want, but his son can't have two sisters called the same thing can he?! Livid.

[Chickendipper12]

amusedbush

What if the ex had that name picked already and had her heart set on it?

[DaisyQueen]

I don't understand why you shouldn't tell anyone. It's perfectly normal to discuss baby names without expecting that person to use the same name after you've told them your choice. Nowt as queen as folk.

[NerrSnerr]

If the name is something like Isabelle or Evie I'm guessing the chances are they were going to call her that anyway as they're really popular names.

I don't know anyone who has announced their baby's name before birth. Maybe discussed possibilities with friends, but not their partner's ex!

[SuperBeagle]

You can't "steal" a name. You don't own it, and you haven't used it yet.

Find a different name. There are thousands of them. Or suck it up and accept that the two of them will have the same name.

[Isthisusernamefree]

This almost happened to my DM! My DF and his new DW and my DM and DSF both got pregnant at the same time, both having girls. My DM said to my DF we've picked this name for our DD (to avoid any accidental siblings with the same name for me) good job she said something cos DF replied 'oh no, we're using that name, you'll have to change it'. So rude.

If I were you OP I'd be livid, especially as you said you guys are amicable so it's a shitty, underhand thing for her to do. If she did have her heart set on that name, she should have said something during the original conversation and then you would have known she was likely to use it first.

[Sweets101]

I have a relative that shares her name with her half sister. They survived, as did their siblings.
Have you considered the idea she hasn't stolen it as such but just chosen it too?

[FellOutOfBed2wice]

You can still use it, honestly. My name is one of those popular 80s ones like Emma where every third girl born between 1978 and 1992 was called it. Between me and my cousins/cousins kids there are easily six of us, could be more. And now I've married a man of a similar age who also has another few. Three of us have the same first name and married name and two of them have the exact same name down to middle name as well.

No one bats an eyelid.

[TheOnlyLivingDeadBoyInNewYork]

You can't make a young boy have 2 sisters the same age with the same name.
There is something seriously wrong with you if you can't see the problem with that.

[BadToTheBone]

My stepdd has a half brother and a step brother with the same name, happened by chance though. I probably wouldn't do it by design though.

[GinAndTunic]

YABU.

[PurpleDaisies]

Is "you can't steal a name" the new "cancel the cheque?"

[theothercatpurred]

OP.

I sympathies. Of course you feel she's stolen the name. Many would in this situation. I know I would.

Unfortunately this is AIBU however, and people posting that someone has stolen a baby name is always open season for people who have nothing better to do than have a go at strangers on the internet to pile on, it seems. I'm sorry you've been on the receiving end of it, it sucks.

Maybe head over to baby names, they're nicer (mostly) over there!

[RedastheRose]

It might be that she had already chosen that name and didn't want to say anything after you blabbed it was your chosen name! It didn't belong to you so pick another.

[theothercatpurred]

sympathise not sympathies! Stupid phone!

[theothercatpurred]

And that should say "Many would feel the same in this situation"

Gah!

My stupid phone is making me even more unintelligible!

[lorelairoryemily]

I know 3 sisters who each have a daughter with the same name, so 3 first cousins with the same name, no one bats an eyelid at it

[Littleballerina]

Maybe you 'stole' her name?

[fuzzywuzzy]

Use it anyway if you still love it.

Ex who is utterly evil, used my favourite boys name for his dc with ow.

I was really upset at the time and found it bizarre that ow would agree to name her dc a name I had wanted as each time she calls him by name she'll think of me! Lol

I've now got a different name which I love and I just think twatface and ow are sad, don't think of them at all just when things like this pop up.

Use the name you love. And don't tell her things that are important to you in future.

[MulderitsmeX]

Just keep the name you like. If people ask then point out you chose it first. They probably wont be meeting much so it wont matter anyway.

[TheOnlyLivingDeadBoyInNewYork]

Cousins are not sisters

[PyongyangKipperbang]

She cant steal something you dont own.

If it means that much to you then use it anyway and if anyone asks why they have the same name then tell the truth.

Tbh it doesnt seem that amicable given your reaction to this.

[TinselTwins]

I have 2 aunties with the same name and DDs have 2 cousins with the same name, its no big deal, so long as you don't mind yours being sometimes called "little "

[ageingrunner]

I would still use the name if only to piss her off

[EvilTwins]

DH has three uncles. They all have the same name.

I teach half sisters called Ellie & Eloise (nn Ellie)

It'll be fine.

[lorelairoryemily]

No * newyork cousins are not sister, neither are the two babies in question, they are not related to each other at all