To make the boys share a cabin

[MrsWatt]

We have booked our holiday and have decided to go on a cruise around the med. I have booked two staterooms for our family of six and it is causing a lot of problems among my kids.

In the first cabin.
We have me and dh + DS(aged 4) and DS (aged 15). We booked a large room with a balcony since we all need the space,

The second cabin is going to be my stepson and my son both aged 17. I booked an interior since balconies were sold out and ocean view was only available on the lower decks and what I've read is that it can be very noisy. So me and dh upgraded the room to a luxury cabin. It isn't the biggest room but fine for two people to have enough space. The problem we have is that when i upgraded the room two singles became a double (i thought it would be a choice it wasn't).

My son doesn't want to share with Dss and instead wants to sleep on the sofa in our room. Aibu to think he is being a massive brat or should i let him. We have spent a lot on this holiday and changing arrangements at this point isn't an option ainu

Shoot.

Yeah. Idk.

That's a difficult situation.

What about family therapy?

What about family therapy?

Well I don't think we are that bad. I just think we are like most blended families.

If you can afford to then just book an extra cabin. That'll make life much easier.

If you can afford to then just book an extra cabin. That'll make life much easier.

I have booked an extra cabin.

I'm not saying you are bad off.

I am saying that your DSS has been an abusive twat.

And really totally and extremely out of order.
Step sibling abuse is a thing. It happens. And treating a little child lik this way is imo worrying. Does your DS feel safe around him?

However, therapy can be incredibly beneficial. It's not just for these super messed up families. It's much easier to fix something that hasn't been totally messed up yet.

Does your DS feel safe around him?

He avoids him so I suppose no then

I hate to pee on what is already a rather damp parade, but did you ever stop to consider how miserable a cruise around the med is going to be for a typical 17 year old even without the family drama?

At 17, you're too old for the teens' clubs. The entertainment on board is aimed at U-16s or over-65s and is spectacularly naff for an older teen, and the only other alternative is there purely to separate them from their money such as the bars and the casinos… which they're too young for anyway. Internet access - it'll cripple your/their finances.

What do you plan to do on days in port? Will they be allowed to go on organised excursions without you? If not, they are going to be miserable having to do things which appeal to a four year old, I promise.

I imagine they both feel slightly infantilised by the whole thing long before the accommodation issues.

other have you been on NCL? There'll be hundreds of teens on there!

That is why we choose Norwegian rather than say P and o.

other I've taken older teen boys on a med cruise and they loved it. We went for a post GCSE / A level holiday so out of school holidays and it was great. They don't particularly need the company of other teens and enjoy the non stop cheesy entertainment.

Does that mean you got an extra single cabin for DSS?

Yes dss got an extra single cabin.

Well it's a double bed still.

So you have 3 cabins now - is that right?

I think I would have given the 17 year olds some money not to come on holiday, tbh. Are any of their friends going away?

Yes three cabins I got dss his own cabin.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2877047-Dss-abusive-to-his-four-year-old-half-brother

I posted a thread about dss and his half brother I think it needs its own thread because reading back over it I've realised how bad it actually is.

I posted a thread about dss and his half brother I think it needs its own thread because reading back over it I've realised how bad it actually is.

I know it's not my business. But I'm so happy you realised it. Good luck

Expensive solution but probably the only feasible one under the circumstances. So will your two DSs now be sharing the double cabin ?

Yes and me dh and four year old in balcony room.

Blimey, my sons are 'full' siblings and I'd never get them to sleep in the same bed together. I'm lucky if I can get them in bunk beds!