What's the rudest thing to happen to you?

[Stardust1901]

Inspired by another thread.

WIBU to ask what's the rudest/cheekiest thing that's ever happened to you e.g. In a supermarket, in the cinema etc.
How did you respond?

It's fucking offensive. All this, Men shouting at women.

Well of course they shout things at women. You don't honestly think they'd shout obscenities at a 6ft tall ,6ft wide bloke do you.

My OH surprised me with a trip to Paris and proposed. When we got back all MIL wanted to do was tell me how excited then-SIL was about it! And how SIL was so much more romantically minded than me! Also found out SIL, MIL and all the other females in the family had tried on the ring before he proprosed!

my fathers sister, Likes to ring my poor mother up every night and discuss all sorts of things. My father died recently and so far the things she's said to my mother is..

at Xmas when he was in hospital "this will be his last Xmas then I suppose"

When he died "did he look like our father did when he died?"

"Have you sorted through his clothes yet?"

The list goes on, I can't decide if she's just plain nasty or just doesn't have a filter?

I was out with some friends in a club once and the fiancé of one of them was with us. I had been saying that I wanted to meet someone, and his advice to me was "join a gym... guys like it when you look good." I was about a 16 at the time and really self conscious about it, I was so humiliated when he said that but I just shrugged it off and muttered something like, "yeah, I probably should..." His girlfriend was slim and gorgeous, but have to point out that he was neither of those things! I really wish I'd been then like I am now, I regret not telling him to get fucked!

About 3 months after I'd had my first baby my mother in law bounced in and gave me some of her old clothes because they didn't fit her anymore and they would fit me now. She didn't mean it at all but I was devastated!

I was told that I looked like the 1970's Spastic Society little girl shaped collecting box that used to be outside shops. She then gave a high tinkly laugh and made a comment about not being able to take a joke.
I'd had a bad leg injury and was in a chair, on crutches, had a Zimmer frame plus a whole variety of leg splints, caliphers and air boots for a number of years.
I think that people like this have no moral compass and although my leg was bad, her problems were much greater than mine.

I'm depressed, but at all surprised, by how many peoples' rudest experiences were unsought derogatory male comments on their appearance.

Vagabond's story about the nacho-throwing Emirati at Cirque du Soleil is, unfortunately, not wildly uncommon, in my experience. There seems to be a fairly widespread culture of Emirati collective bad behaviour (by western standards) at public events, where loud talking, taking phone calls, getting up and going in and out seem standard enough. A friend who was stage manager for some opera/classical music performances held at the Emirates Palace in Abu Dhabi had one singer and a conductor refuse to continue the performance, and I remember Tsonga getting visibly irritated and distracted by all the coming and going mid-point in the royal box at the Dubai tennis.

Training for a 10k last year in the park when a cocky lad of about 18 shouted after me that I had a huge ass, much to the amusement of his mates. They were abusing other female runners too.

I was doing circuits and by the time I reached them again I was FURIOUS. I told him I was reducing the size of my ass but he would always have a tiny penis, then I took a photo of him and said I was putting him on Twitter to see if anyone could ID him, in the hope I could tell his mum he likes to harass women. By my fourth lap they were all pointedly looking the other way...

A dreadful aunt of DH's, upon meeting one of our babies for the first time, "not another boy, oh dear we don't want any more boys".

My brother once sang out of the car window at a young woman the ZZ Top hit "She's Got Legs" and ended the line by shouting "and they're fat". He's not in my life any more....

At a kids ball pool bday party sitting with about 6 other mums at the table having a coffee.

One of the mums said "oh I have a funny story to tell you OneDay, last night my little boy said - I wish you were fat like OneDay because she gives her little girl better cuddles than you give me because she is squishy and you are all boney Mummy"

I'm not sure if it was a made up story and she was just being a bitch, yes I was a size 16 at the time and yes she was about a size 6 - but just rude and really embarrassing for me in front of the other mums.

O wow. Some people are just dicks. I feel awful for you all. I have had to ensue decades of fat comments from people my Great Aunt and Grandmother. I always quip back but it's just so bloody rude. At my heaviest I was a size 18 after DC and 5"6. But for most of my life I have been at 14/16. Still too fat to sit on certain chairs at my grannies house though apparently!

Oven had all sorts but usually variations of the same thing.

Most recently on the tube I was shouted at in French, he said fuck, you're beautiful but my god you're fat. I was too taken aback to respond but I was angry for days

Why do men feel that we are here to please them?

I don't get why random people think it's okay to call out abuse?

Attractive, not overweight women too being called fat and ugly when they are not? Not that anyone deserves it even if they are overweight.

I worked for an airline as cabin crew. One passenger said she felt sorry for me having to wear such a ugly uniform and that I could be quite pretty really...

Another said in my earshot that "air hostesses used to have to be slim and now they let anybody in." Yes I'm curvy but 5'7 and my uniform size was a 10.

Waiting for a train in my uniform and suit case and a group of teenagers staring at me and saying "who does she think she is dressed like that, she looks so stuck up." Errrr wearing my uniform to go to work? Was I expected to be all smiles and entertaining them or something? Bizarre.

A passenger laying her hand on me pityingly and said it was such a shame I had to fly right back now and how awful my job must be and that I should get a real job. I smiled and said we got 24 hours downroute in a 5 star hotel and I couldn't wait to lie on the beach. So she glared at me and walked off.

I hopoed my scooter to offer help to an old bag lady who had fallen over on the footpath in Chiswick. She spat at me full on in the face ( thankfully it hit my visor ) used dreadful language and tried to batter me with a stick. She was I later learnt a notorious old witch who terrorized children and residents .
Turns out she was run over by a lorry a few years later.
Karma

http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/car-lady-chiswick-dead-tragic-5151543

I served behind the bar of a Working Mens' Club in my late teens and dressed smartly but hippyishly. One night my contact lenses were hurting me so I put my glasses on. The crappy 'turn' said halfway through his act "Eh look, we've got Nana Mouskouri behind the bar - might get White Rose Of Athens later". Fucking prick, picking on a young female barmaid to make himself look funny.

My grandma, 14 hours after I had given birth to DC1: "Blimey, you look like you've got another one in there."

Karma - really?

In the spirit of Lent, yes people can be shits, but you know hating people isn't the way to go. It hurts you usually more than them, so being the better person forgiveness helps you mentally, you don't have to forget. Being pleased at their death is a bit the woman could have had mental health issues.

LucklessMonster similar happened when I was at school, but it was General Studies taught by a Music teacher. The first two lessons were 'games' where you picked a question out of a hat and then chose a pupil to answer. Questions like "Who is the ugliest girl /boy in the class?" and "Who do you think will leave Year 5 pregnant?"
It was horrendous. Told my Mum and she went into school and removed me from the lessons (they were last thing on a Friday.). I have no idea what the senior management were thinking of as afaik the lessons continued, with that teacher.

itsnice that's exactly it. I remember a bloke trying to come onto me in a restaurant with my friends then when I rebuffed him saying I had a bf, his comment was something about being surprised as I was ugly....I was so embarrassed. They sense when you are not confident which I never was.

I got cut up by a chap on a busy road, leading to a roundabout. Traffic came to a standstill as I beeped my horn at him, after he'd squeezed his car in front of mine.
He got out his car and stormed over to me in mine, shouting "wind your window down" as well as other intimidating things about being a woman driver, stupid woman etc.
I'm afraid I burst out laughing, which made him worse. He was pushed up against the window screaming at me.
When he stopped for a breath I asked him if he was finished and said "traffic's moving, off you go" making move way hand motions.
What a rude intolerable pig, but glad I responded to him.

My FIL has some gems, like how amazing SIL was for being a SAHM, being quite vocal about me working with 2 young DC's. If you have children you should look after them. I quite happily advised FIL how both were looked after till relatives and flexi working, going to Montessori when they were 18 months, something I'd put a lot of thought into.

I've never honestly been bothered about weight comments, even locals at my Dads asking if I was pregnant. To which I happily replied, no just fat.

Omg men are so nasty to women aren't they. I have plenty as well. It's true that when you are young even a stranger can make you feel terrible. Now I'm in my 30s I like myself much more. Often I've had men trying to put me down because they feel threatened and jealous that I'm attractive, I think.

Some of the ones I've had;

An ex of mine kept on saying my body isn't toned - it actually is because I go to the gym. Not that that should even matter....He also liked to keep telling me things about other women to make me feel insecure. I stuck up for myself and said that I should be good enough for him not to do this and he became angry 'Who do you think you are? There are millions of women better looking than you. Shakira for example A few people had said at various times that he was lucky to have me and he did NOT like that. Twat.

Another guy used to say lots of nice things then throw in a rude remark like 'you have cellulite'

If anyone says anything rude to me now I just block them. It's a reflection of how shit someone feels about themselves if they need to attack the looks of others.

A school friend saying I look so much prettier with my hair down, even now I resist putting my hair up in a pony tail.

Many things, but I always remember being asked by another child when I was in secondary school if I used to be a boy. I've terrible self esteem anyway and I've always hated my face, and even now I'm 35 I can't look in the mirror without cringing.