What's the rudest thing to happen to you?

[Stardust1901]

Inspired by another thread.

WIBU to ask what's the rudest/cheekiest thing that's ever happened to you e.g. In a supermarket, in the cinema etc.
How did you respond?

This is very outing but I don't really care! I was raped by a family member then my husband tried to kill me in my first marriage. This after I was in and out of care for physical and emotional abuse from my parents. My mums response? "Some people in life are meant to be victims and you are one of them so get used to your role'. I'm not a victim and I'm nc with them all now

I have so many. I modelled from the age of 15 and used to being judged a lot. I used to get weighed and measured as soon as I walked into my agency and screamed at if I ve put on any weight or my waist was bigger by an inch. I was told to loose weight as I am no good to them fat, baring in mind I was a uk size 4 at the time. I ve learned to grow a very thick skin and not base my self worth on my looks or opinion of others. I would always be too skinny, too fat, too short, too tall, too ugly. I once had a photographer give feedback to the agency after a job going yes she is beautiful but her toe is wonky. My bloody toe you know! You have to laugh. Or one time after I had my son by emergency c section I was flown to Budapest for a job. The photographer comes in looks me up and down, notices my scar, which is tiny and would have been covered by clothing anyway, and asks me if I have kids. I said yes and he goes congratulations now get off my set. Looking back I don't know how I am not a mess right now but I ve learned to value myself on what I am as a whole and I have a lot more to give than my looks or body so my confidence is just fine.

I was unintentionally rude to someone a few years back and I still feel so bad about it! I was on a tube with my brother and there was this young woman standing by us so I look at her and I think she has a bump so I go to my brother, get up she is pregnant and just at this moment the girl turns and I go no it's just her don't worry. The poor girl heard everything, she looked so upset. I felt so bad, I didn't mean it how it came out, just opened my mouth without thinking. I still remember the look on her face and still feel like an absolute dick.

My SIL is a pretty rude arsehole all the time. One time she said to me 'I didn't like you when I first met you, but now I think you're okay. I bet you get that a lot though'.

We went to a concert as a family, really enjoyed the supporting band, and found that they were appearing at a local club a couple of days later, so I bought tickets for me and DCs (DH couldn't go). Ok, I was significantly older than most of the audience, but since when has there been a rule about what you can like at what age?? When we arrived at the gig the bloke on the door tried to deny me entry, smirking and saying he thought I was just dropping DCs off, and on the way into the club we had to walk past loads of young people (mostly girls) smirking and with plenty to say about me.

The lead singer was just inside (they weren't a hugely well known band), recognised me from the gig a couple of days before, heard what was going on, pushed past all these females, gave me the biggest hug and said it was lovely to see me again! That shut 'em up, and the DC were well chuffed!

Baggy, blimey what a result? Ageism at work ( when are the government going to make ageism as bad as racism, discrimination and any other kind of 'ism'- just as bad?) well done to the singer though.

Baggy
Love to see a happy ending and some pratts getting their comeuppance. Bet their minds were working overtime wondering how to get into the singers good books after their humiliation.

That singer sounds like a proper gent. We need loads more like him about

Sammysilver I went out for a walk one lunch time and as I passed a man who was clearly intoxicated, he looked at me and shouted, 'You fat nigger!'

You just reminded me of something, from when I used to live in a shithole "challenging" block of flats which housed several council tenants amongst the rest of the private owners. A couple of those residents would daily congregate on a nearby bench with their mates to get hammered, and abuse anyone who had the nerve to use the public footpath to get past.

After one time too many of "you fat slag" and associated pleasantries, I reported the council tenants amongst them to their landlord for anti social behaviour. I was immediately rebuffed as the council had no way of proving I was being truthful; or of identifying the responsible persons.

That they could have simply parked up nearby for an hour one day to witness it was well beyond their interest. Never mind the fact of who in their right mind would randomly go round making accusations like that up in the first place?

I still get very edgy when I visit a friend who lives near there

Thanks, The80s and Willow!

It was really empowering - I felt great, because my confidence had initially taken a knock (I have a habit of worrying what other people think of me, although I try not to). Lovely bunch of lads. I've just Googled them, and they're still going, although I don't think they tour in the UK any more.

We are having some work done to put in a driveway, the next door neighbour is a builder doing the work, He knocked on the door early one morning to discuss the work with my hubby said hubby was in the loo, i answered the door told him hubby was busy at the moment and would see him later all this is being said whilst i'm in my dressing gown. i had just got up and looked a minger later on after i had sorted out myself out and got dressed i took him a cup of tea he shouts out thank god you put your slap on i was frightened of you this morning, Nearly chucked the tea over him.

LRDtheFeministDragon That's awful. Really messed up. < For you.

Thanks!

It was very odd - she seemed like a completely normal, professional person up to the final bit!

When I was thirteen a boy was leaving school as his family were moving away. He organised a big leaving party and invited the whole form- except for me. I had known him since primary school, we had played together as kids, even round each other's houses. We never fell out, But I was a very shy awkward teen and really struggled with secondary school. People asked if I was going to the party and I answered honestly that I hadn't been invited- hoping someone would call him out on it, but they didn't and I was far too embarrassed to say anything to him. So that was that. It still hurts when I think about it and I'm 35 now.

Years ago I was a section manager in large supermarket. A snobby lady was trying to tell me that cashier has squashed her bread. I was dealing with another customer at the time and asked her to please wait one moment. She then dragged me by the arm down the length of checkouts to the lady on the till that had upset her. I apologised and said we would replace her bread etc. She then sreamed at me that I was a nobody and she wanted to speak to store manager. When he arrived she complained that I had dared to ask her to let go of my arm. She then asked the manager what he was going to do about it. He looked at me and said " see this very important lady, will you remember her again?" When I said yes, he looked from me to her and said " Good, because I am banning her from the store" ( he actually said " withdrawing her invitation to shop here again" ) I could have kissed him!

Years ago when the kids were small we were on holidays in Majorca we went into a supermarket and I let the loudest fart I ever let ever
We still laugh about it to this day
The supermarket closed down after that

You know, I think this thread should go in classics or something so that next time we all hear about how women have it easy and we already have equality, we just want it all, etc we can all point to it. What a horrendous collection, mostly of male insults to women.

Aside from actually being sexually assaulted I guess the rudest people have been was when I was walking down the road minding my own business and the local bunch of feral kids started throwing stones at me from across the road. No particular reason.

I was laughed at by a group of young men once over the size of my breasts (32B) -I was wearing a tee shirt with a sports bra underneath -

My response was 'I've got about as much breast as you have penis and I've not got much' or words to that affect. I was met with stony silence as they worked out what I'd said.

Many years ago I was on a field trip with people from several different study disciplines. On the coach to our destination, some of the younger lads (aged about 17-18) were being silly and egging each other on to do stupid stuff.
They'd already mooned the bus behind us and one of them decided it would be "hilarious" to walk past my friends and I (who were mature students aged 35+) with his nob out.
My friend gave him a frosty look, turned to me and said, "Oh look, it's like a penis, but REALLY TINY."
We had no bother for the rest of the week from him.
Every time we saw him we laughed at him too, which probably didn't help

About 2 years ago after work one Friday, the whole office had arranged to go to the local cricket ground to watch a 20/20 match but first we were going to get some food and drinks.

A group of us were walking to the pub but I was walking a bit further behind with one other colleague. At this point I should mention that I am a very westernised Asian female.

As we were walking, I suddenly heard somebody say in the most aggressive tone "fuck off home you stupid paki". I thought I was hearing things so shot a confused look at my friend, she obviously heard it too and said "what did he just say?". I turned round expecting/hoping that there was no one there and I had imagined it all, but instead there was a guy stood there probably in his 50s, dressed in cycling gear standing next to his bike at the bus stop looking at me with a face full of hate, like actual grimacing. He then started again but this time stuck his finger up at me while shouting "oh get lost you fucking paki, go on, fuck off home". I turned back around quickly and carried on walking, I was in complete shock. I am in my 30s and have never received such upfront racism to my face, what's even worse is that I was dressed in a skirt (it was summer), I was on my way to a pub, and then going to watch a cricket match; I couldn't be more English!!

I really regret not saying anything but I was so shocked and intimidated. It was just completely nasty and unprovoked.

When we caught up with the rest of my colleagues, the majority were really angry on my behalf and a few were visibly upset and wanted to go back to knock his lights out, but I asked them not to.

Worried that's vile. I would have called the police. I think people that spew out hatred for no reason are really projecting their own misery. What sad pathetic losers they are.

Went to wedding shortly after birth of DC. Friend said to an acquaintance whilst pointing at my tummy "bet your wondering what happened their" and laughing at me. Acquaintance replied "thought she's either gotten fat or had a baby". My response "I can lose weight but unfortunately, you can't change your face."
Later on, dinner bell rings, and friend pipes up with "oi chubby, you'll be wanting to get in the hall where they are serving up food."
I promptly assassinated him by asking him about his receding hairline, his acne that could form the basis of dot to dot picture and the fact that he hadn't had a girlfriend for ages and that maybe he should get in the hall and find someone to get laid with instead of bothering me.
We are no longer friends. :)

Boys at school talking about me while I was walking behind them my name then said pretty face shame about the rest

To be this day it haunts me maybe because it's true I am a bit fat with a pretty face

Some incredibly rude woman cut me up in a car park once with DS1 and DS2 in the car (about 6 at the time) and then later on she had a proper go at me whilst I was paying for the parking. JUST PUTTING THIS HERE IN CASE IT ENDS UP ON THE FASCIST DAILY MAIL SITE DS2 replied to her "well at least mummy's boobs aren't droopy!" and I had to struggle to hold in my laughter! Her face was a picture! I've still no idea where he got it from...

He really was vile Lottie, and what I find puzzling is that he just looked like a normal respectable bloke. i wish I had the balls to confront him and take his picture to show to the police

Oh and as a teacher, some of the things parents have said about me are awful. But that comes with the job I suppose!

Unfortunately I look quite young for my age (i'm 33 and look maybe 24/25.) Great you think! Why would anyone hate looking young for their age? Well...

I have an 11 year old dd and a 9 year old ds. I was young when I had them but I was still in my early/mid 20s so not massively young ie teenage. I get rude comments (not said in a complimentary way like you would to someone who looks 40 when they are 55, more like a patronising tone kind of way as though i'm still a kid) such as "SHE don't look old enough to have an 11 year old" Or "Do you get funny looks when you walk down the street with your dc"

I've had "You don't look old enough to be married." I was 27 and considering you can marry at 16 I didn't quite know how to take that one.

People usually say it to their friend too as though i'm not there, referring to me as "she" - "she don't look old enough...." etc.

You definitely have to be 40 plus to appreciate looking young for your age. Below that it sucks as most of the time some people don't see you as an adult or make rude comments because they think it's a good thing to look younger or that somehow they can patronise you.

I'm management in my job too as I have 16 years experience in my field and have worked my way up. It makes it extra tough being taken seriously when people think you're fresh out of Uni or something.

I have gotten better as brushing it off over the years and I imagine when I am 40 plus I will love it, but for now it's still annoying, especially as people try and cover their rudeness with "I'm paying you a compliment..." What by saying I don't look old enough to have given birth to my children