What's the rudest thing to happen to you?

[Stardust1901]

Inspired by another thread.

WIBU to ask what's the rudest/cheekiest thing that's ever happened to you e.g. In a supermarket, in the cinema etc.
How did you respond?

Not a thing as such but something that somebody said to me that really stuck with me.
A guy that I was good friends with said to me "nobody will take you seriously, you just look like a mistress and not a wife"
He really didn't mean that as any sort of a compliment, I think he meant I looked like a bit of a hussy!
It made me feel a bit conscious for a while as a 19 year old. Looking back now I should've just told him to eff off, I was a very normal 19 year old and nothing about my looks suggested I wasn't wife. It just always stuck in my head, probably becaue it was such an unusual thing to say!

Was at work and dispensing an elderly gentleman his glasses, he was sat right in front of me, but talking about me to his wife. Almost as if I wasn't there was so angry I stormed off and refused to deal with him

my mum replied well you are a w####r but you dont wear a sign saying so do you?

Noisey - your mam is FAB!

weird and rude.
Just had child number 1, two days prior- was much longed for IVF child. Midwife in hospital asked how I was. I was struggling- milk not coming in, infected c-section . She said ' well you should not have had IVF if you can't cope with a child. I am going through IVF and I would not be complaining if I was lucky enough to have a child'
Wrong job for her to be in.

Now one of my kids is 8. She has dark hair. Apparently quite a few kids at school comment on her moustache (one started and the others followed) and tell her it looks awful. I have reassured her that everyone has a moustache, but will do something if SHE wants. She is happy to know that all girls have one.
Who would have though body shaming started so early?

I'm usually quite low maintenance but I had decided to take the time do my hair, makeup and dress up for a casual meal out with family. I've always had low self esteem when it comes to my appearance so never saw the point in dressing up but I remember feeling more confident for once. However, it was short lived because later on a guy gestured to me and said to his friends "is that a boy or a girl" they all laughed at me.
There have been many other instances where strangers have mocked my appearance but I think this instance stuck with me as I had almost felt good about myself for once but then a stranger had to ruin that

Mums oncology consultant weighed her at a follow up appointment and said "Are you wearing concrete boots?" She was mortified.

My DH and I went to a breastfeeding consultant when our DD was about 3weeks old...

she looked at my DH and said "assuming you are the father"... when he was asking questions about latching & tongue ties. She then proceeded to man handle my engorged breasts.

We are a mixed race family.

As Young girl went around local town getting sponsorship. Went to Salvation Army bloke and ask him to sign sheet. Nice bloke had a great chat. Went back the next week to collect the money. "It carn't be you" he said I argued 'of course it was me." But the child I sponsored was a boy!" Bloody cheek!

BananaInPyjama introduce your child to threading. Its a really good technique. Will help her confidence.

Moyesp - hair removal is a personal thing. It's not for someone else to say 'your daughter needs hair removal' especially at 8! I'm a beauty therapist and I have threading done regularly on myself but I'd be very reluctant to do it on an 8 year old. It's quite painful for starters.

Moysp, bananas daughter is 8. EIGHT YEARS OLD. She is perfect the way she is and does not need to be introduced to threading. ffs, she's 8.

I agree - 8 year olds shouldn't be thinking about their looks full stop. A parent saying an 8 year old needs threading would do nothing for self esteem.

My dd (11 though so maybe different?) would come home saying she was being picked on because of her "moustache". It's just fine hair that's more obvious in sunlight and I explained this to her. However she said she wanted it sorting so I bought her some Nair for sensitive skin and showed her how to use it. She is a lot happier now. I don't care what some idiots think (I spoke to her teacher quietly) but it made her feel better.

I think the thing that really gives me a rage about this all is that it's all things about women's appearance that would NEVER be directed at a guy. angry

I do so agree. No one wants their opinions. Who are they to tell us what they think of us.

@ourkid you are amazing! The drugs in the car is even better.
Despite the fact I'm fat I think most of mine happened as a child - I have strong RBF so that may be why
One that's stayed with me is when I was 10 I came second in the exAms and the boy that beat me said "you work really hard but it never really gets you anywhere". Despite an oxbridge degree I've seen peers race ahead and earn far more and I sometimes wonder whether that's why.
Ex bf told me I was incapable of being happy
Mil always tries to find fault - said it took me so long to get pg because I was het up, when ds was sick asked what I'd done and whether I always cleaned my hands after changing him

ds was sick (MIL) asked what I'd done and whether I always cleaned my hands after changing him

I hope you told her - "No - I make him eat his pokey nappies as a punishment for not being potty-trained"

What a stupid woman!

*pooey, not pokey

I've had two that stick out: The first was when I was waiting at traffic lights in my car with my mum after visiting my sister in Salford. A van with three guys in pulled up beside and it was summer so the windows were open. The one nearest me said "Oi, love do you have a tampon, I think I'm leaking". I've always wondered why the hell anyone would say that, bizarre.

The other one was when i was jogging, it was getting dark and three young teenagers on bikes were watching me, then when i got closer one said "you shouldn't be out on your own at this time (It was 7pm!), something might happen to you". It really creeped me out and I ran home at double the speed after in case the BMX bandits came after me.

Oh, and just after I had my son a toddler in a trolley in the checkout queue pointed at me and yelled "look, fat the lady is". But I'll let him off as he was a baby! His parents did nothing about it though, I'm pretty sure I'd give my kid a stern talking to if they said that.

Depressing that this thread is mostly about men making women feel uncomfortable though, what possesses them?

@happyflappy I told her I always washed my hands. But the next twice he was ill she wanted to know "why" and "what did they say it was?" "Gastroenteritis" "but how did they say he got it, what had you done?"

Not really rude but cuntish behaviour:

When I was about 13 I was walking home from school. Up ahead of me on the same side of the pavement were 2 boys who I recognised from our school, stood talking. They were older, about 16.

As I walked past, one of them thought it would be funny to grab me by the arm, try to pull me into the bushes and say to his friend while laughing "quick, let's rape her". It happened really fast but I remember trying to set myself free, even though in hindsight I know he wouldn't have raped me as it was a busy main road but my natural reaction at the time was to assume the worst and panic. His mate said "come on xx let her go". He eventually let me go while still laughing his head off. I walked off but did an awkward laugh as I didn't want to show how I scared I was, but in truth I was petrified

I came across his open Facebook profile a few years back and saw that he has a daughter now. Would love to see him again and ask him how he would react if someone made his daughter feel like how he made me feel.

Stupid prick.

SuperTrumper I'd message him and say exactly that - at least then he might remember how much of a dick he was