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What's the rudest thing to happen to you?

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Stardust1901 · 10/03/2017 15:51

Inspired by another thread.

WIBU to ask what's the rudest/cheekiest thing that's ever happened to you e.g. In a supermarket, in the cinema etc.
How did you respond?

OP posts:
wineusuallyhelps · 10/03/2017 16:55

I'd like to share the rudest thing I ever did.

I think I am a nice person and am never rude to people if I can help it, ever.

Once, I was pregnant and clearly (in hindsight) extremely hormonal. I tutted at a woman in a supermarket for standing in front of me so I couldn't see the food in that fridge (she was doing nothing wrong). She challenged me, at which point I started shouting at her and called her a "fat cow".

I have felt ashamed ever since and that was 11 years ago. I still don't know why I behaved like that Blush if you're reading this, you poor lady, I'm sorry Confused

CigarsofthePharoahs · 10/03/2017 16:56

I had a weird experience in a shop about a year ago.
Was shopping with my Mum and my toddler in his buggy. We'd just gone into one shop and a couple followed us.
A few paces in and the female of the couple starts making duck noises at us. Don't ask me why.
We stopped to look at something and they stopped right behind us, still making duck noises. My mum decided to look round at them to see what the problem was.
The lady making the duck noises immediately went off on one. Accused my mum of shouting at her (she hadn't said anything!) and then started yelling that we all needed to calm down and then told me that I was a terrible parent for getting so angry in front of my own child.
I hadn't said anything either!
At this point I decided she was unhinged, so I simply stated that I thought she was very rude and asked her to get out of my way.
She carried on shouting at me, I pushed past and carried on browsing in the shop. We went round a corner and the duck noises started again.
The bloke she was with just had this massive grin on his face the whole time, like he was getting off on our discomfort.

Wonderflonium · 10/03/2017 16:56

At a music festival, the man next to me in the audience had a wee into his pint glass (for Kanye West, if I recall), and it splashed all over my arm. Then he rubbed the wee off with his bare hand when I complained, and looked confused that this wasn't good enough for me.

myusernamewastaken · 10/03/2017 16:56

Numerous comments on the size of my arse from my uncle and other members of the family.....thanks for that !!!

AbernathysFringe · 10/03/2017 16:58

On a train station me: 6ft dark hair, jeans and tee. Near me, short, blonde, girl with boobish top. Man walks up to me and says loudly, 'I bet you wish you looked like her, eh?' and starts to flirt with her.
She tells him she's gay and comes up to me and says what an idiot he is.

firawla · 10/03/2017 16:58

I've been spat on in the street and had stuff chucked at me from out of the window of a bus, but comments wise the worst one was probably one guy who looked at me and went "she looks like a nun but I bet she takes it up the arse" (I'm Muslim so had long black dress and white head scarf to explain the nun bit!) Angry

Soubriquet · 10/03/2017 16:58

Soubriquet Well, it's your own fault for forgetting to put your 'I'm deaf' placard on

that's right! I knew I forgot something

MrsDesireeCarthorse · 10/03/2017 16:59

Dentist telling me he needed to do X, Y and z to my teeth because I was ugly.

I spent the rest of the appointment in stony silence, then phoned afterwards to say he could fuck off if he'd ever see a penny of mine. Fucking prick.

Honeybee79 · 10/03/2017 16:59

SuperFlyHigh - your incident reminded me of another of mine. I was out running years ago, ran past a bloke stood outside pub having a fag and he yelled "wibble wobble, wibble wobble jelly on a plate" at me!

God, it's fucking offensive, all this men shouting at women!

wineusuallyhelps · 10/03/2017 17:00

Hang on, I've got one where I was the victim. Went for an interview. The two young women (I was younger) who interviewed me were smirking, looking down their noses at me and clearly very up on themselves.

Later that week I was at the temping agency and they called these women's company to check that I didn't have the job. The woman on the phone said something along the lines of "what, the one with the split ends? Ha ha!!! No we aren't giving her the job." Nice.

JonSnowsWhore · 10/03/2017 17:00

Dammit all of mine end up making me look worse than the person that started them so I can't say them 🙈

I did once wake up to a load of comments on my Instagram pics from my partners now ex friend telling me how fat I am, laughing, calling me names etc. I was fucking mortified that people had probably already seen these comments before I'd got to them. Still to this day no idea what I did, all we can put it down to is jealously because he was used to having my OH all to himself, & now he'd sort of settled down with me so stopped going out drinking as much etc Confused

HRHCocoa · 10/03/2017 17:01

To those of you who had people comment on you 'still being fat' just after birth...it reminds me of when the Duchess of Cambridge left the hospital after giving birth to George and Kay Burley asked a commentator;'Oh, she still looks pregnant! Why is that?'

FWIW, DS is 7 and I still look pg, but thank god no-one had to explain to the whole entire world on national tv that my uterus needs to contract back into shape and that it might take a while.

Gaaaah · 10/03/2017 17:02

Well let's just say she suffered a reduction of ego and hairline that day Blush

Wonderflonium · 10/03/2017 17:02

Once I was coming down the escalator of the tube after my last day at a job I knew I was going to miss (so a bit down in the dumps)
A guy on the up-escalator shouted "I like your dress" and I looked up and did a little brave smile "Not really, it makes you look fat."

Cry cry cry, all the way home.

Mynestisfullofempty · 10/03/2017 17:08

MrsDesireeCarthorse that's appalling, but how come you didn't have to pay before you left the surgery?

Kikikaakaa · 10/03/2017 17:08

This is shocking so many men and boys saying disgusting things to women about their bodies 😳

A1Sharon · 10/03/2017 17:10

Wonder that is the most horrible thing! Why, why why the fuck would you actually take the time to make someone feel so shit?
Flowers

Llamacorn · 10/03/2017 17:10

Soubriquet you should have responded with 'and you don't look ignorant!' Grin

I was unintentionally rude to somebody once. I was in the supermarket and saw my mum stretching to try and reach something from the top shelf in the fridges. I went up behind her and said 'you need help there short arse? Maybe you should have brought your step stool with you'. She turned around and it wasn't my mum Blush I was absolutely mortified and after much apologising she still didn't believe I thought she was my mum. She just told me to fuck off!

User543212345 · 10/03/2017 17:11

I got called a dyke just after I had my truly crap hair cropped short. By my father.

NoelHeadbands · 10/03/2017 17:11

Totally random and I can remember it like yesterday- I was in my first job, I was 21 and skinny as a bean.

I was wearing black opaque tights that must have stretched in the wash because by the time I got to work they were baggying around my ankles really badly. Feeling faintly ridiculous I kept hitching them up until lunchtime when I legged it across town to buy some more from M&S- this voice behind me said

'for FUCKS sake, sort your fucking tights out you silly cow'

I turned around half expecting to see someone I knew, as it was so rude I thought it must be a joke but no. It was a man in a Royal Mail uniform PROPER scowling at me like the sight of my baggy tights was offensive or something. I was gobsmacked. He went past on his way and I just stood there feeling about 3inches tall.

Mynestisfullofempty · 10/03/2017 17:14

SwearyGodmother I got called a dyke just after I had my truly crap hair cropped short. By my father.

Shock
LoriD · 10/03/2017 17:20

When I was pregnant I went to the doctors for my a check up (I must have been around 30 weeks), so he weighed me and then said 'well you'll struggle to get his weight off so I would advise you watch what your eating', I had only put on a stone and a half all in Hmm cheeky bugger.

Next time a locum doctor was checking my bump and he said ' these stretch marks are quite big but I wouldn't worry about them I son even go stretch marks growing up Confused

I think next time I'll tell the doctors beforehand I don't want your unsolicited advice

Misswiggy · 10/03/2017 17:22

The two that spring to mind although I'm sure there are many more are : being in hospital after having my first baby, I picked him out of the cot when he was crying to walk up and down the ward comforting him and was told by a particularly nasty midwife "they don't bounce if you drop them you know". I was young and a wimp at the time but her patronising tone really upset me. Nasty bitch.
Also I worked at a large, very male orientated company from the age of 16-19 and had to put up with so much pervy behaviour from the men (or thought I had to) but the worst was when one 50-odd year old man said "when you just bent over I nearly creamed my trousers". Puke.

NewPuppyMum · 10/03/2017 17:23

Not sure if I've got the point of the thread but my MIL told me not to have any more children as I couldn't cope with the ones I already had.

LoriD · 10/03/2017 17:25

I went running for the first time many years ago ( if any runners out there then you'll understand the first few times helps build your confidence), anyways I turned onto a long road and could see builders up ahead, and as I got close one decided to imitate my rubbings flinging his arms about and they all turned and laughed.

So I run past and turned and the last minute give hide the fingers and told them all the f**k off. He may have thought it was a bit of harmless fun but I cried for hours and never went running again

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