What's the rudest thing to happen to you?

[Stardust1901]

Inspired by another thread.

WIBU to ask what's the rudest/cheekiest thing that's ever happened to you e.g. In a supermarket, in the cinema etc.
How did you respond?

A woman in my office told me I was "helluva stout" when about 6 months pregnant

hearing all theses stories I really think that these people do it because it's not challenged and generally most people are so shocked they're too stunned to respond.

I'm going to make sure that each and every time somebody is rude to me or a friend/family member I will pull them up on it. Yes I'll probably get a pile of abuse but at least I won't have sat back and said nothing :)

The usual, getting called fat and ugly. I still struggle with my weight and I gave birth to my first child in November and went from a 12 before being to pregnant to a 14 now and I feel huge. Even though the 14s are actually too big.

Again it was always men/boys that have told me that. Arseholes.

Stunned and upset by all these hideous comments to people about how they look.

It's irrelevant to how this thread has gone, but all I could think when I saw the OP was "up the arse". Sorry! And no disrespect to the truly hideous experiences of people on this thread!

So many of these hit close to home. I don't know why some people feel they have the right to say these things to people! It must be some kind of mental illness.

It must be some kind of mental illness.

That's doing people with a genuine mental illness a disservice. I think these people do it because they're rude, judgemental, entitled and often sexist fuckers with a misplaced and completely unwarranted idea of their own superiority. And they probably price themselves on "calling a spade a spade"

pride themselves. Fecking autocorrect.

I work in a pub. A customer once asked me very seriously, "when are you going to find a proper job then? This isn't going anywhere you know"... I was just so shocked someone thought they could comment on my life like that. I replied, "this is a proper job, it pays my mortgage and my bills" but it still bothers me to this day.

I will never forget a time in secondary school. One of the English teachers was covering PE and we had a range of activities to do. I never usually made the effort in PE but was enjoying the lesson and put my all into the activities.

I was doing step ups on the bench and decided to push myself. I would get very red and sweaty easily. This English teacher sashayed in front of me while I was doing step ups, sneered at me and said "oh you've gone so red. Is it because you're not fit? Look at you trying like that. Not much point is there?"
I tried to laugh it off and say I liked doing it, she laughed in my face and said "Look at the other girls, they don't go as red as you do." The look of pure disgust on her face was unmistakeable.

Later in life found out I'd got an undiagnosed congenital heart condition, which is why I'd find things more strenuous.

So I'd just like to say, Mrs Wildboar, if you're reading this, I hope it felt good crushing a 14 year olds self esteem. You absolute prick!

I went to get my hair done when DC4 was 3 weeks old. I had 4 kids, 3 under 3. It took forever, I was starving and I grabbed a bar of chocolate from the newsagents next door to eat as I walked to the car.

A guy walked past (who was about 5'8, not remotely good looking with massive glasses) and said, "You don't look like you need that chocolate, love! You're chubby!"

There I was, having squeezed into my jeans (and you feel like Kate Moss the day you get back in your jeans!) with my lovely swishy new hair and I sat in the car and cried. When I told DH, he was so annoyed on my behalf, he would have cheerfully hunted him down. And then all was well in my world again.

My own mother said that to me, that my pregnancies scared the whole family for my and potential babies safety, plus I'm not maternal.

Like wtf when the babies came along I'd be just about finished a feed and the DC would be near on ripped off my boob so 'they could experience winding DC!'

It's not like they even thought I was going to say, 'Hey, actually a/he isn't done yet' or 'What you doing' It would be you've fed long enough, we read in a book that by now they're just sucking for comfort, which we can give. Considering Mum did get her tits out for any of us, bearing in mind their size, I doubt she was due to spring milk to pacify them. (Somehow I ended up with huge boobs when my female relatives barely could fill a b cup together!) Somewhat passive aggressive but we don't get on.

My husband has these moments of pure vitriol, my favourite comment that makes me laugh is, I wouldn't f*^k you if you paid me! If I wasn't such a wimp and wanted to keep the peace I'd retort, well I've been faking for 15 years so wouldnt waste my money! (The relevant noises furthers things along, enhances the male ego etc!)

I sound like such a lovely person!

I got a nice comment, I was quite big at one stage but lost the weight really quick. This guy was talking to me, I said oh are you 'x' he said yes looking confused. I said who I was, he said you're ever more gorgeous than you were without the weight. It was a compliment or I took it as one. He kept saying bloody hell I can't believe its you.

I've had loads of comments about my boobs which I just smile and ignore as I don't do confrontation. Usually along the lines of motor boating which I used to thing was an invitation on a yacht or something. How naive I was.

There's a really shocking one but it would out me potentially. But it was bad. Actually got a few that would out me, that would possibly get people to see me in a different light and explain things more in a bloody hell how did you cope kinda way.

When I was 18ish I got my nose pierce. Friend on the outskirts of my group saw it and went on and on in front of everyone about how I used to be 'quite pretty' but I'd now 'really spoilt my face'. He was male, of course.

At a gig with dh years ago and in the usual crush of people trying to move around the room, one man put his arm around my hips to sort of guide me out the way. Except he lingered there for ages, a total stranger with his hand around me. I made a face to dh, at which point the man said 'don't fucking flatter yourself love'. I KNEW what he was bloody doing and the sudden spite of a man being called out on it has always stayed with me.

Anaesthetist (male) giving me epidural when in labour with first baby. Simultaneously bollocking me for contracting and bollocking me for how much money I was costing the NHS in having an epidural like if it was coming out of his vagina he would be more resilient The only reason I did not spin and kick his smug face off was the whacking great needle he was embedding in my spine. Prick.

Am also horrified by the number of appalling remarks made by men to women about their appearance.

But not surprised though. I remember at secondary school, a friend of mine inserted a ruler into his tie. When a girl he thought pretty walked past, up went his tie with a "phwoarr!". If he didn't find the girl pretty, the tie went down. I was embarrassed, but of course didn't have the balls to tell him to pack it or walk away.

I still remember how few of the girls gave the appropriate response, ie, tell him to fuck off. They either giggled, rolled their eyes or looked hurt.

Always remember my friend being shouted at about being ginger she looked at them blankly and said "what are you talking about" they looked slightly confused and said "your hair" she then proceeded to look at her ponytail and go " omg how the hell did that happen? Get it off!" They never bothered her again.

Also I'm my last year of school after being pretty much mute for most of it and called fat and ugly a lot. I was walking down the corridor when some yr7s said "hey fatty the burger bars that way!" To which I replied "oh thanks I've been looking for that for ages" turned round and walked the way they had pointed. According to my friend they just stood there in stunned silence.

When I was about 18 I was in a very packed pub with my friends when I felt something sharp on my bum, I spun around and a bloke a bit older than me licked his lips and said "mmm, good enough to eat" all his friends were in stitches, I was mortified he'd actually bitten me. Luckily my gobby friend shouted "do that again and I'll make sure you won't have any teeth left to bite you creep".

This is the first time I've thought of this instance in 15 years and now I feel sad at the mentality of some people, how dare he bite me!

Not me, but exdp went into the doctors for depression after a suicide attempt. The doctor said to him "you're a bit on the porky side aren't you?" Completely destroyed his self esteem and wasn't helpful considering he'd just tried to kill himself. He isn't fat at all either, tall and fairly muscular.
Also he'd called me a fat bitch a week before and started wailing saying he knew what it felt like now

Just remembered, not long after I'd moved to London, I was attempting to cross a road. I'd come from a village, so wasn't used to busy roads. A guy in a van came round the corner as I tentatively stepped into the road. He yelled "Get out the road, you four-eyed prick!"

Still makes me laugh to this day.

While I was pregnant with dc1 husband worked abroad. At a wedding guest beside me at dinner asked was hubbie in the country when i got pregnant.

Seemed like a rude question from a stranger!

SIL
'Men with red hair don't marry women with dark hair because they can't prove any children are his'
SIL on the deaths of my DM second husband(also proved she never listens to me)
'Second husband? How many has she had?'
Thick and insensitive .

Cripes. Meant death not 'deaths' makes DSF sound like a vampire. Or some such.

At a nightclub when I was about 18, standing at the bar talking to a (female) friend.

Man comes up and asks if we want to dance. We say no thanks, we're just chatting.

He asked if we were lesbians

We just thought he was an arse and fell about laughing!

FourKids I was going to mention the time someone threw an egg at me! It does bloody hurt! This was out of a darkened University halls so I didn't even know which window to shout at. It was very unpleasant.

My worst ones are from family and mostly relate to my appearance. All time winner from DM when DH and I had just started dating: "how can he possibly find you sexually attractive?" (I was a size 16)

Runner up from DF, when I was showing him round the little house DH and I had scrimped and saved to afford and were so proud of: "yes, yes, when do you think you will move into something nice?"