What's the rudest thing to happen to you?

[Stardust1901]

Inspired by another thread.

WIBU to ask what's the rudest/cheekiest thing that's ever happened to you e.g. In a supermarket, in the cinema etc.
How did you respond?

I have another on the opposite end of the spectrum to some of these. I have Crohn's disease and while waiting for an operation to have part of my bowel removed I had lost a lot of weight, 5'10 and not much over 7 stone. I know i looked dreadful, I bloody well felt it. A man in the waiting room as I went in for an ultrasound scan started asking my mother what it was like living with an anorexic, why didn't she make me eat more and how could she let me get like that. My mother tried to say I was seriously ill but he wasnt interested and when I came out from the scan started on at me, 'how can you live like that, no man will ever want you if you don't look after yourself'. We just walked out as he'd made his mind up about me and wasn't going to listen anyway, not that I should have to justify myself to him.

About 40 minutes after giving birth to son, my husband took a photo of me holding the baby in my hospital bed.
Later showed fil this photo who said "you're looking rather chubby, you need to watch that you know."
That was 31 years ago and I've never forgiven him.

Loads ... Mainly personal and insulting comments from men. In a bar an old man I had been chatting to while I waited to be served called me a "painted whore"! Which was ... Unexpected. Other insults relating to my supposed sexuality, music tastes, colour of my pubic hair (ginger!), ugliness, sluttiness have come from many and varied men I have encountered. That is over the course of 42 years of life so not unusual

On a bus once two some sitting opposite me and dh but close enough to be clearly heard were openly giggling about my resemblance to Sarah Ferguson as they were mainly talking in another language they were pretty shameless about it but it was obvious due to the repeated references to "Fergie!" And i don't look like the one from the black eyed peas!

Dh pulled them up from being "fucking rude" they were most put out and tried to make out it was a complement!

Rude people piss me off. I try to be considerate but I am sure I have pissed people off enough times as well. So I try to laugh at rudeness or make a light hearted passive aggressive response "no after you. Please!" When someone pushes past me for eg. Life is far too short to get all hulk, smash! About petty stuff.

One my DD told me about on a works night out. They were all young apart from a couple of older women in their group. They were in a packed pub when this bloke went up to one of the older ladies and asked her why she'd bothered coming out with all the young girls, told her she was far too ugly to be out with all the young ones and should be at home. What an absolute charmer.

Saucery That's far worse than my story, where the teacher made a huge blunder and (I'm sure) felt bad. I've been trying to remember what on earth that lesson was about that he came out with that question, but I can't...

He was a very weird teacher, LucklessMonster and I have found other causes for concern over the many years that have passed. I distinctly remember that feeling where you know as a teenager that an adult has crossed a line but you don't know quite what to do about it.

I feel wrong saying it as my mum is now deceased and wasn't at the wedding but trying on bridesmaid dresses with my friend (sisters wedding) my mum said "it's like a before and after photo!" We had the same dresses on and friend obvs looked much better than me- kinda spoiled the fun a bit!

I was about 15 and walking to the local shop. A group of younger boys, probably 12 or 13, around 5 of them were behind me. Started making grunting pig noises. I think I was about a size 14 which these days would be a size 12. But was incredibly ashamed of my body.

I sat down on the little wall in front of the shop because I wanted to collect myself before going in. As they passed me one of them shouted "Don't worry love you're not pretty enough to rape"

I already had been raped :(

It affected me for years. Even though I know rationally they were just stupid 12 year old boys all trying to be the most outrageous to their mates, I still want to go back in time and smack seven shades of shit out of them.

Oh yeah from a school 'friend' I had 'don't ever cut your hair short - it would look terrible'

Pocketsaviour

Worst thing I saw was at a hen party. The hen in front of everyone informed her new sil that her soon to be hubby (brother of sil Dh) loved her more than sil husband loved her.
She then dropped her pants and showed everyone the 'proof' on her bare arse. A tattoo of her husband to be's signature.
The poor sil was speechless having a bare arse stuck in her face. Hen had had a few drinks but not drunk.
What a bitch.

I have thought of loads (sadly). One of the worst was my dad's speech at my wedding. We've never been the closest so I want expecting emotional outpouring or compliments but I thought he'd be polite. It was all along the lines of how he didn't envy my H being stuck with me as "taking me on" wouldn't be an easy task. All in a jokey-jokey way but reiterated several times to make me quite certain that he actually really meant it. (Backstory is that my dad is a selfish chauvinist who didn't like being called out on it, which I did).

When I was 18 my boyfriend at the time kept saying he was going to get me slim fast for my birthday and sniggering. I was a size 8 with a slightly rounded (normal) tummy.

When I was 12 I was already tall with a teenager's figure. A gang of boys wolf whistled me from behind, then one rode ahead of me, looked round and said "don't bother with this one lads, IT'S ugly". Being called IT was the most upsetting thing.

Another time I was walking to work (early 20s) and a drunk bloke staggered over and said hello. I said hello politely but walked on briskly. He followed me all the way into town yelling that I was Lady Muck, how dare I not want to talk to him, he wouldn't fancy me if I was the last woman on earth, I was too thin, too ugly etc". In that occasion it was the relentlessness of it. I was completely intimidated and had no idea how to stop him following me or yelling at me, given that I'd been as polite as I could without encouraging him in the first place.

Btw I don't think I am ugly!

I used to be a size 16 and had a group of men loudly discussing how fat I was on the bus, had a randon youth call me a fat bitch ( just in passing), and a couple of male office workers (not my colleagues, just random men), call me "fat ass" in the street.

I was also making a coffee at work, I always use skimmed milk as I just prefer it. This woman I work with made some snide comment to someone else about "don't know why she bothers", and they both found it very amusing. She was always really nice otherwise but I never quite forgave that remark. I did actually manage to lose a lot ofweight and am now slimmer than her, it may be petty and childish, but I feel quite pleased about that.

Pocketsaviour

I shouldn't have had 4 kids close together if I couldn't cope with them.

I asked which of the twins (numbers 3&4) they would like to me to have got rid of.

That was from my sister who has just had her 4th child. Of course she's a perfect mum who didn't hide her first pregnancy at 16.

Went to work as a temp for a huge international TV company (the sun shines in it!) and sat opposite a complete waster. Two weeks later was asked to go again to cover him. When I was checking his emails (it was part of the job, I wasn't being nosy!) I saw an email he'd sent about me when I was there previously referring to me as a fat monster! I was so shocked I walked out and refused to go back. They didn't offer me a free box though, just an apology which was very half hearted...

My old flatmate (female) was trying to get me to go out for drinks one evening, - I'd recently been on a few crap dates and wasn't feeling overly confident in my appearance - she suggested I might have better luck that night cause " when men have had a few they have beer goggles on ". I was too stunned to respond, thankfully other flatmate (male) asked her to repeat what she'd just said, then berated her for being bloody rude! At that point I was in tears.

In my early twenties out with two friends - just shopping. A group of teenage boys walked towards us and I heard one say "OMG, look at those three ugly girls!" It made me laugh though and still does

My now ex thank fucking god MIL is boringly obsessed with weight mainly hers but also mine.

Looked me up and down first day on holiday and sniffed "I see you didn't bother getting in shape for the holiday!" In front of my young daughter. I managed to snarl back "well you can't improve on perfection can you?!" And drank all afternoon to numb the urge to drown the bitch. She's also got a lot of jibes in about me not losing the baby weight each time I've had babies. We're talking weeks after the birth. Ugh. I did lose it all. But the biggest relief was losing her loser cunt of a son and in turn, her. I don't miss that lot. At all.

While working in a shop years ago a man asked me politely how I old I was. I replied I was 22. He made a face and said "no love too old for me then!" He was over 70. Filthy old fucker. So many comebacks for that but alas I didn't think of them til after he'd buggered off.

My manager at work can forget to check herself before she speaks occasionally.
One time, I was suffering from the norovirus and because I carpool with a colleague I still went into work. It was a freezing day and I had the car window down trying to cool my fever the whole way to work. When I got there, I felt worse than ever, I was overheating with a fever but had a chill in my bones. I told my manager that I didn't think I could stay as I felt far too awful to which she replied "you do look awful and you also have b.o ". Thanks for that bitch, as if I didn't feel awful enough.

Another time, she commented on how i'd had 2 lunches (actually hadn't, the first was rice soup that had dried up in the microwave so wasn't even soup anymore therefore inedible) and that I should cut down on the fizzy juice.

Fast forward to me going into her drawers at the end of the night for the key to lock a cupboard and low and behold, a 4 pack of crunches and a can of coke.

Still note down what she says to me... HR will love it the day she pushes me over the edge.

At a student sports association dinner, was getting chatted up by a pissed rugby player " you'd make a good prop forward!" Apparently I am short and wide with no neck...

I was working as a support worker for people with learning difficulties, and was pushing my lady in her wheelchair through town. We were on the pavement (with quite a high kerb), when two elderly ladies came from the front and demanded I get out of their way. I was quite speechless at them expecting a wheelchair to get out of their way, but they then proceeded to push past us, and shoved the wheelchair off the kerb, causing it to overbalance. It was all I could to stop my lady going flying. They walked off muttering about how inconsiderate I am. Bloody bitches!

My friend took me to the funeral directors to view my deceased DH. The only parking space behind the building was a disabled spot, so we had no choice but to park there (I wasn't giving up the opportunity to see my DH for the last time ever). After the viewing, and me in an absolute state, we got into the car, and a couple started shouting and swearing at us about parking in a disabled bay. They refused to even listen to our reason and just kept shouting. My friend drove off and definitely didn't try to run them over.

An uncle by marriage who I hadn't seen (avoided as he's a twat) for a long time said 'my you've got fat'.
My response 'I can lose weight but you'll always be a cunt '. Shut him up, haven't seen him since! 🤗

I hate it when callers come to the house i.e builders touting for work and ask me "is the boss in". When I tell them I am the boss they just look at me stunned. What's that all about