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What's the rudest thing to happen to you?

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Stardust1901 · 10/03/2017 15:51

Inspired by another thread.

WIBU to ask what's the rudest/cheekiest thing that's ever happened to you e.g. In a supermarket, in the cinema etc.
How did you respond?

OP posts:
MyGastIsFlabbered · 10/03/2017 21:44

Once when I was discussing on line dating with my dad he told me 'well you're not the greatest catch are you?' Erm...thanks?

FirstSeemItThenBeIt · 10/03/2017 21:45

A 'friend' came round to my new house, walked in and gasped 'how dare you have a better place than me!'

ConfusedRight, because you automatically deserve better than me...for what reason!?

MOISTOWLETT · 10/03/2017 21:48

I had one today actually! It was nice/dig weather so I wore a dress with some leggings and I had a teenage lad (couple of years younger than me) shout at me "nice tits, shame about the face." I pretended I was fine but now it actually hurts.

DailyMaui · 10/03/2017 21:48

Man in a van once hit my bum and called me a fat bitch (I was tiny then) when I was cycling along. Except because we were both going at speed, his hit actually made me wobble so much I fell off into the path of the car right behind him. Broke my arm and it could have been so much worse. He got the sack though so that was good (car two behind chased after him, got the reg number and then came back)

A guy at work once said "what happened? You used to be one of the prettiest girls here...But you've got so fat and..." thd implication was ugly I think. ." I was then a size 12. Nice.

When I was younger I used to hate walking past builders. I'm invisible now, thank fuck. Although a man on the train shouted "you hideous whore" when I put some lipstick on. I was sat there with my children as well.

Once when driving my lovely old classic convertible car past a pub a whole group of nasty bastards chucked their drinks at me saying "sink the rich bitch." I was 19 years old and my car cost all of £750.

All men. Makes me furious.

MOISTOWLETT · 10/03/2017 21:48

Oops *nice-ish

PixiePlunge · 10/03/2017 21:50

Waiting for a taxi home after a night out. Man walks by me and starts shouting fatty at me.
A man who's stomach was hanging over his trousers.

Two men did overhear and did ask if I was ok.

I've been told to cheer up by many men who have been complete strangers to me. It's just my fucking face Hmm

crunched · 10/03/2017 21:51

My BILs mother was staying with him and DSis,when I popped in for a coffee. I was around 20 and spent a lot of time on my, what I hoped, was a rather edgy image (think Siouxsie Sioux). DSis MIL says "I don't blame you for not caring what you look like, I only wish I'd had the confidence to not give a damm when I was your age". Sad

ellamoromou · 10/03/2017 21:51

some of these are truly heartbreaking to read Sad, especially the ones about someone's looks!

I was an unattractive child - national health glasses, patch over one eye and not a picking on me - think cross eyed stick insect! An aunty, whilst I was in the room, said to my mam 'aww ella's such an ugly duckling bless her'. My mam replied the ugly duckling will turn into a swan - whereas you will always remain a nasty, bitter bitch Grin

Thankfully I did improve with age lol.

A couple of workmates renowned for being bitches commented in earshot 'she only got promotion because of her looks - she looks a right tart' Hmm Didn't affect me one bit as I knew what jealous, horrible people they were.

pepsiandshirley · 10/03/2017 21:54

I was on a train and I sat down at an empty double seat. The luggage racks were all full and I had a small suitcase with me so I sat in the aisle seat as opposed to the window so I could keep my suitcase at the edge of the table and stop it getting people's way.

A woman got on and barked at me for me to move across to the window seat. I politely said something along the lines of "oh, would you like to sit in the window seat so that I can stay here and make sure my suitcase doesn't get in the way?" and went to get up and she spat at me :

"NO I DON'T - MOVE OVER!!!"

So I moved over and left my suitcase in everyone's way. When it was time for me to leave the train I just said to her "can you get out of my way now please?" the people on the other side of the table looked up in shock as they had missed the original exchange.

pepsiandshirley · 10/03/2017 21:54

(it was only a little suitcase but it kept tipping over when I wasn't holding it, hence me wanting to hang onto it).

ByStarlight · 10/03/2017 21:55

I was 37 weeks pregnant and on my daily morning commute by train in to work during my last week before starting maternity leave. As usual, the carriage was full, all seats taken and standing room only in the aisles. Being very visibly heavily pregnant, I was kindly offered a seat as soon as I got on the train. When we reached the final destination station, everyone got up in the rows in front and behind and the aisle was full of passengers waiting for the doors to open before they could get off. Not wanting to get my bump squashed in the crush, and literally having nowhere to go if I stood up as the aisle was full, I was sensibly waiting, sitting in my aisle seat until there was a space for me to ease myself out. The middle-aged man sitting in the window seat next to me (who clearly was impatient to join the queue of non-moving people) said very rudely (and loudly) "Are you going to sit there all day you lazy cow? Some of us want to get off this train today" !!! Shock

Needless to say, with all the pregnancy hormones, I was in floods of tears by the time I arrived at my office!

Mynestisfullofempty · 10/03/2017 21:57

Our English teacher asked the class, "Who's the ugliest person in the room?"

That's an unbelievably stupid question for a teacher to ask.

Ineedmorelemonpledge · 10/03/2017 22:05

I had to come home from Uni to sign some legal papers for my parents divorce, I think it had something to do with the remortgage and me having to relinquish any inheritance.

House was hell as they were still living together in violent disharmony and keeping us (me and sibling) in the middle of their arguments.

I was so upset decided to jump on a bus and go see my nan.

Waiting at the bus stop, lost in thought this 40 year old dickhead comes right up in my face and shouts "crack a smile love, you look like you've pissed yourself"

Jesus wept when did random fucking men obtain the privilege to tell young women what emotions they should feel and show?

LucklessMonster · 10/03/2017 22:05

That's an unbelievably stupid question for a teacher to ask.

It really was. He knew he'd made a massive mistake; I could see it in his face.

Fintress · 10/03/2017 22:12

Driving along the road a drunk walked out right in front of me and I had to slam on the brakes, he threw the fish supper he was eating right at the windscreen and called me a fucking bitch. I kind of regretted stopping for him after that Grin

Hadenoughoftumble · 10/03/2017 22:37
  1. In the throes of labour with ds a few months ago and a dr comes in to examine me and says to the midwife 'she appears to be carrying a large amount of water in there' as he puts his hand on my bump. The midwife replies 'actually I think that's mostly mum' then plasters a huge fake smile on her face turns to me and says 'no offence' - I could have swung for her smug, bitchy face! And I had a little laugh when ds made his entrance followed by a MASSIVE gush of water which soaked her completely!! She was truly awful though.
  1. Really enjoying myself on a hen night when some prick thought it would be ok to run up to me and shout 'I want a dream boat not a fucking tug boat- fat bitch! Then went and high fived his mates Sad
  1. A white van man once shouted 'go and eat a fucking salad' at me, unprovoked. Some people are just arseholes and I feel sorry for any women who are with these men.
Ofalltheginjoints · 10/03/2017 22:46

Having read the thread it got me thinking about my experiences and I feel a bit sad now, especially as most are related to my disability.

I've been called Tiny Tim by a totally random woman on a night out (it was Christmas so at least it was fairly topical)

My partner heard a man shouting no cripples on the beach when we were waking together (thankfully I didn't hear that at the time)
But I think the worst one was my 2nd shift back working in a shop after I'd had major surgery was wearing a full leg brace and standing at self service tills a little girl of around 5 said mammy what's wrong with that lady which I didnt mind at all, as I smiled at the child and the mother turned round and said don't look at her she's a freak and shouldn't be allowed around normal people, quite how I held it together I'm not sure but I managed to get an early break and sat and cried in the staffroom.

None disability related the one that sticks with me was when I was 18 on a night out with friends and this guy told me that I looked pretty but shame about the body!

The disability ones are the ones that hurt the most and sadly they do happen fairly frequently

ellamoromou · 10/03/2017 22:56

ofalltheginjoints

I'm actually gobsmacked that some people could be so cruel - hold you head high that you're not an ignorant, vile person who would actually think anything like that let alone say it! How crap must their lives be they resort to that - horrendous Sad

GuiltyPleasure · 10/03/2017 22:57

Many years ago in my early 20's I went to visit a friend in a fairly well to do part of London. I'd just finished work so was dressed in very averagely conservative skirt & jacket office type wear & was just walking down the street when a man stopped me and asked "are you looking for business?". It took me a few seconds to realise he wasn't offering me an entrepreneurial job opportunity

TheUnicorns · 10/03/2017 22:58

Showing a friend the new dining table we had gotten from PIL.

Me: I'm really chuffed, this would have cost over £1k if we'd bought new!
Her: What, this piece of cheap tat? Doubt it.

Um, okay.

SabineUndine · 10/03/2017 23:01

A guy slapped me on the leg for 'ignoring' him. I am profoundly deaf and hadn't heard him speak because I wasn't looking his way.

Coastalcommand · 10/03/2017 23:08

I was browsing in a clothes shop. Fellow customer who was irritated that I was spoiling her view of the clothes said: "I don't know why you're bothering looking, nothing here in a big enough size for you"
I was 22 and a size 12 then!

SistersOfPercy · 10/03/2017 23:17

Standard response to fat comments is

'I may be overweight bit I can diet and you'll still be an ugly fucker'

ilovepixie · 10/03/2017 23:27

A car with a couple of young lads drove past me and one shouted out Hello Fatty, I shouted back Alright Ugly! His face was a picture!

JorahsMissus · 10/03/2017 23:41

Oohhh I have one or two that are embedded in my mind stung a little

Walking with MIL and her sister who are both size 6 at a push and I was a 16. A group of lads behind us shouted 'fucking hell, look at the size of her arse, it's twice the size of the other two's put together' then they all laughed and topped it off with 'should keep that thing indoors'

FIL upon meeting him for the first time 'fucking hell you're nowhere near as good looking as you've been made out to be' then proceeded to sit in my home and scoff every time he looked at me, as though he was having the same thought over again.

Stranger in town on a night out 'christ you look like katy brand and that is NOT a compliment' he was a fucking minger and had the cheek to say anything to anyone!