What's the rudest thing to happen to you?

[Stardust1901]

Inspired by another thread.

WIBU to ask what's the rudest/cheekiest thing that's ever happened to you e.g. In a supermarket, in the cinema etc.
How did you respond?

These stories are fucking vile.

The last person who was horrible to me was ex-mil, I've told the story before but it's to do with my son that I lost and I'm not up for going into details on the anniversary week. Plus it's not exactly nice reading.

I punched her, my only regret is not doing it harder (I was 2 weeks post c-section)

People are just arseholes, I can't imagine being that unhappy with my life that I would feel the need to say horrible stuff to strangers.

Friend of DH poked me in the stomach at a party, about a few weeks after 2nd child 20 months after 1st, and said loudly to the entire room. "If my wife looks like that (poke poke) after having children I'm going to divorce her." still makes me grind my teeth years later!!!!! They still send self congratulatory Christmas Round Robins. Gaaaaah!

When I was in my teens, a group of lads in a bar were eyeing me up and down for ages. Eventually one approached, and asked "Excuse me, me and my mates are arguing about this, are you a boy or a girl?" Shocked and embarrassed I said nothing, just blushed furiously. My feistier sister said "Hey! That's my SISTER!" really loudly but she and the others we were with were smiling. He went back to his group, and I was mortified to see money actually change hands!!!

To quote Morrissey "oh I can laugh about it now but at the time it was terrible"…

I was once in a night club with friends (back in my uni days). Some bloke pointed at my stomach and said "look at the state of that." I was a bit overweight but looking back at photos of me then I was so attractive but comments like that meant I spent my teens and early twenties coving myself up and hiding away because I thought I was fat and ugly.

When dd5 was born there was a flurry of reports to the school welfare officer.

1. I looked ill, pale and shouldn't be out. Yes 3 days post c-section, I probably shouldn't of been but I had to get 4 kids to school, care for my dad (badly disabled), plus my son's last day of "graduation" from junior school and I had to be there for him.

2. the baby was being pushed around in a filthy buggy. I had a filthy buggy, but I used it for shopping. My nan would sit with dd while I went to the shops pushing the manky buggy. I would use the buggy to push the shopping back in so I didn't damage myself.

3. the buggy I pushed dd in was flimsy and unsuitable. It was a present from DD's sister (who has kids herself). The buggy was suitable from birth and I could fold it if needed for bus journeys. (cost over 100 pounds)

4. my 11 year old was seen holding her which was dangerous. He held her just fine. Supported her head. She was asleep!

5. I didn't make eye contact, didn't react as a normal person and my body language was off when discussing an incident with the office (basically I was a lying caaah). I have aspergers. My eye contact is hit and miss and this has made me paranoid about being scrutinised.

6. I have wine/booze in my tea mug on the morning school run. I think this may of stemmed from me drinking herbal tea, Yogi Rose tea. I may have pronounced it in the same way as the wine... but you could see the steam and the teabag string from the side. I don't take a portable tea mug with me on the school run anymore.

I think the reporting has stopped now. I haven't been pulled up on anything else. But everytime, i'm stopped taken into an office for a "chat" I think "what now"

Cycling whilst 7 months pregnant, I got told "out the way you lazy bitch" by a cyclist coming the other way (I wasn't in his fucking way, the obstacle was on his side of the path).

Mil was never very nice to me either. She used to tell me to go and eat a salad, and go for a run again when ds was 4 months old. I was only a small size 12 too if anything she was a size bigger than I was!!

Wow, I'm really cross for all of you on this thread. I can't believe how rude random people can be...

Anyway, I have 2 which weren't people being deliberately rude, just a bit "lost in translation". I once went into work having had a haircut over the weekend. One colleague looked at me, said brightly, "oh, you cut your hair! Much better!" And when we were buying a bed, the sales lady looked at me and DH, and said he'd need a firm mattress for his side of the bed, but that I'd need an "extra sturdy one, given the weight difference between us".... all part of the joys of living abroad!

I remembered another one... I was interviewed for a promotion within my existing team. Afterwards my manager "complimented" me by saying I looked really nice with makeup up on I should wear it all the time. As if that wasn't bad enough she then proceeded to tell me if I just lost a bit of weight I'd be really attractive. I was 6 months pregnant at the time. I didn't know whay to say and just put it down to being lost in translation as English wasn't her first language.

Hugs to all who have been on the receiving end of rudeness. Makes me angry that one throwaway comment from worthless scum can have such an effect, I've been there as a teenager and I know how hard the barbs can sting.

A few questions though.

Do you think they ever have any insight into the hurt they cause?
Do you find, like I do, that they tend be the most over sensitive people around, i.e they can dish it out but can't take it.They are usually very brittle people, if you can counter it with a smart comeback, they shut up. Sadly I never think of a clever comeback, until I'm filling my car with petrol 1 hour later.
What happens when their "rude, aggressive ignorant" personality meets a mirror image version of themselves when they are out and about in everyday life. I'm presuming there is a punch up and the police are involved?

On the way to one of my university classes, I used to walk through a rough, grotty area where rough types hung out, druggies mostly. Every day I would have them catcalling me, you know the sort of thing. I'm quite thick skinned and laid back, so although it annoyed me and I thought it was disgusting, I put my headphones in and carried on

Until one day, one of the scumbags took it too far. He came up behind me and pulled my head phones out, informing me that "I was an ugly bitch but he'd still eat my pussy". Did the tongue waggle and everything. Then preceeded to get his dick out and wave it at me.

I lost the plot and headbutted him. Then punched him in the knob. Oops.

Oh, an ex boyfriend's mum called me a whore. Her son was an abusive, nasty, lazy waste of space who essentially raped me, so being a cunt was clearly a family hobby

Vaginarama Well done!

An ex boyfriend once told me what a cute little double chin I had.

At the time I was in the grip of an eating disorder and weighed 7 stone 6.

Once went on a date with a man who told me during the night that I had a smile like the Joker from batman.

Another ex once told me I was getting a bit curvy at the vast weight of 8 stone 7. I dropped 7 pounds only to be told I now looked too thin in my summer dresses

There were about 20 teenagers could congregating in our street last Summer after the Summer holidays started. Clearly pissed and stoned. They were fighting around 10pm and I went out into the street to tell them to piss off and shut up and some disgusting little prick spat at me. Eww

Some truly shocking and depressing stuff on here. Despite all the nonsense we hear about "the 'PC brigade" and "you can't say that nowadays", there are clearly still an awful lot of people of feel it's their right to make offensive remarks.

I'm still stunned and depressed by the number of men of seem to think it's appropriate to make sleazy sexist comments to women they don't even know. Do some of them actually believe this is going to win said women over?

As an overweight bloke, I've had a fair few unpleasant shouts in the street, although nothing really of the magnitude of some of the stuff that's been posted on here.

If I think back to school and sixth-form, though, there was a bit more nastiness. On my last day of sixth-form, I asked various people to sign a ring binder (bit odd, but there you go!). Some comments were nice, but others weren't , with one alluding to my 'distinctive odours' and another (referring to several disastrous crushes on girls which resulted in a fair bit of public humiliation) "it's always best to love 'em and leave 'em, but you're just leaving 'em!". However, the worst by far was an anonymous one, purporting to be on behalf of the rest of the class, which simply said "See you fat git".

I remember on the bus years back some drunk teenager from the local college started catcalling and making lewd remarks to a middle aged women. She was always on the same bus as me and seemed really shy always walked with her head down avoiding eye contact.

Bus was packed I remember as it was snowing so the previous bus hadn't shown up. Out of the entire bus there was only me who pulled him up on it, I was 17, tiny (although evidently a gobshite) and pregnant at the time.

Looking back probably a daft thing to do incase of violence but there was so many people on that bus, fully grown men including the bus driver. Made me so sad and angry no one else stuck up for her.

Sad thing is I wouldn't do it now, you hear all the time about people who have tried to intervene being hurt, there was a man killed in my area for trying to stop a lass getting attacked a few years back.

Seen at bus stop, end of school day

Mid-teens boy [towering over younger girl, doing her best to be polite]
MTB: 'You've always got a face like a smacked arse. You look like a lesbian'
YG : (ignores above but continues to participate in conversation in stilted polite fashion).
Unfortunately, they get off at the same stop. Even more so, I don't think he was her brother..

When on receiving end myself, worst stuff has come from 'men' showing off to their girlfriends. Or, men with their chums. Almost never from someone on his/her own.

Vaginarama
Sorry that happened to you.
Oh I would have loved to be a fly on the wall after he said it though serves the creep right bet he didn't do that again in a hurry. Well done.

A little background: DS huge, over 12 pounds, and my stomach muscles literally parted company down the middle. Because DD2 followed a little too quickly on his heels and was no mean weight herself (a fraction under 11 pounds) I had no chance to work on repairing the damage. Result, permanently damaged abs; if I try to do sit ups I still get a massive bulge where my innards poke through some 20 odd years later. So, when DD2 was around 8 months old I was waiting at the school gate for DD1 when another mother approached me and said, "congratulations!" I asked why she was congratulating me and she said, "I see you're pregnant again" with a huge grin. (I had lost weight but still had a noticeably rounded belly). I replied that she was mistaken and I was not, in fact pregnant, just fat. She replied, "Are you sure? The rest of you isn't fat!"

I won't tell you what happened after but it was very undignified of me and it ended in security being called over.

I hope it was just to shovel her battered corpse into a bin bag Gaaah

I am not attractive at all and have always had social anxiety and been painfully insecure and I think people pick up on it and single me out because I have had so many nasty comments about my appearance over the years. Mostly from men which doesn't bother me as much but I have had a few from women that have really stuck with me and still hurts me ten years later.

I was about 18 (size 10/12) and in a pub with a friend. I had a top on that showed my cleavage. Two older women probably in their 50's/60's were in the smoking area and we were chatting to them. One of them said 'look at your boobs, they're beaut! I wish mine were like that' and I tried to laugh it off but was really embarrassed. The other one then said 'yeah but look at the rest of her, she's a right fat cunt' and the whole smoking area burst out laughing including my friend. All these women were old enough to be my mum or grandma and I was upset.

Another time I was out in the same town and it was when maxi dresses first came out and I had bought a lovely patterned one and got loads of compliments on it. I was in the toilets waiting for my friend and I touched up my lipstick whilst I waited. I could feel someone staring at me and looked around to see this woman just staring at me like she absolutely hated me. Her look was so menacing but I smiled at her anyway. She said to me 'you are one ugly fat bitch. You might be big but your aren't beautiful' and I just said 'okay' and hoped she would leave it but she grabbed my dress and said 'your dress is fucking ugly like your face'. My friends came out of the cubicle and told her to go away and she did. Then all night she kept staring at me and barging into me and eventually told me she was going to kick the shit out of me outside. I ended up going home early and never ever went out in that area again.

Another time a woman walked past me and said to her boyfriend 'she wouldn't be half as attractive without those extensions in' (it was my natural hair) and then about ten minutes later her boyfriend had to hold her back as she wanted to come over an fight me! I was just sat waiting for a taxi minding my own business.

Perhaps I just have a punchable face

Name change as I'm still filled with self disgust and have never told anyone before.

When I was 19 and worked behind I bar from a man I had never met before.
Him: I know your name and where you live"
Me: (I'd never laid eyes on this bloke before) I haven't a clue who you are
Him: Your name is XX and you live at XX (this is my correct name and address.
Me: Stunned silence....
Him: Do you know how I know? You went out with my mate. He told me when he had sex with you he ripped you cxxx and you bled everywhere.
Cue silence from everyone in pub and me bursting into tears. His 'mate' had raped me a few weeks earlier. Still makes me cry now 20 years later.

Melon That's just terrible, you must ooze loveliness, must really rile the their hatred for themselves up, you're the cross, they are the vampire.