What's the rudest thing to happen to you?

[Stardust1901]

Inspired by another thread.

WIBU to ask what's the rudest/cheekiest thing that's ever happened to you e.g. In a supermarket, in the cinema etc.
How did you respond?

Most of these stories are just shocking. Some people are absolute ignorant A-holes. X

Walking to pick my daughter up a couple of years ago, two women pull their car over, open the window and shout, 'oi, ya fat bitch'. Just why??

I regularly get abuse when out running.
"Fat cow", "who let the dogs out" and barking are the most common insults.

This week I went running past the local high school at chucking-out time (usually avoid because of intimidating groups of teenagers). A boy in a group was shouting, "Oy! Ev" at me. I ignored it as didn't know what he meant but heard another boy in the group ask him what he was saying. He said, "I'm calling her Ev. She looks like Heather from Eastenders".
Fuck me! I am very self-critical and torment myself about the extra bit of weight I carry but even I don't think I look anything like fucking Heather! I'm 5'7, size 14 with long blonde hair. I do like George Michael though.

Ex boyfriend - lead singer in a (pub) band and v. self obsessed.
After one of his gigs we were going home together, so my friends left.

We went to the bar together and he saw someone he'd hadn't seen for ages - and completely ignored me, no introduction/ acknowledgement etc . I was stood there not knowing what to do - completely humiliated. I thought he must be ashamed of being seen with me. Didn't have any cash for a taxi etc. Didn't know anyone else there. This went on for a good 15-20 mins with me wishing the ground would open up and swallow me. His friend kept looking at me etc - obviously wondering what I was doing standing there. Then BF noticed he was looking at me and said oh this is my girlfriend 'unlucky' - friend said oh sorry - I didn't realise you were together. And then to me 'He obviously doesn't think much about you -does he? '
Don't think he meant to be so rude and hurtful - more thoughtless - and then he tried to make it into a joke...but still....
(Had massive argument with BF later - he apologised for getting carried away and being thoughtless etc. I know it was BF who was a selfish arse really - but it really knocked my self esteem - I felt I was slightly in the wrong - I should have said something, introduced myself etc and to my shame instead of seeing the light I stayed with BF for another 6 months until he dumped me....)
But I'm more confident with strangers - and I used to work in environments with a lot of banter so usually can hold my own quite well.
About 10 yrs ago, I had gone out for drinks after work, celebrating something. I had piled weight on - a stone or so in a month - probably cos I had been working so hard I'd been eating junk and not moving much. I would have been size 16-18. And I was smartly dressed (in a suit) in a town centre on a Friday night -lots of pissed up people milling about, dressed for clubbing -so I guess I stood out a bit.
As I was walking to the taxis to go home on my own, two pissed looking 20ish yr old blokes came right up in front of me - it was a tiny bit unnerving - one looked me up and down and said really loudly something like 'wow - you look really gr..... FAT' ( ha ha ha ...).
I said 'listen mate - I might be fat but I could do something about that - like lose weight....not much you can do about being an arsehole is there? '

(His mate thought that was even funnier.... I hope the arsehole thought twice before doing that to another woman... )

My x once said to me that the last time he saw an ass like mine it had a saddle on it. And that if he ever won the lottery the first thing he would do was book me in for Lypo and breast implants.

Well listen to this one for a shocker 😬,
About 10 years ago before I found my OH and had my little girl, I went out with this guy for about 3 months .He told me as we were in bed that he didn't like the look of my "vagina, lips"so he wouldn't be going down there.I was absolutely mortified to say the least and got so paranoid that I had my best friend have a look and tell me her honest opinion and I went to my GP .Yes, I'm very normal nothing wrong there, just not as neat as a "porn star".Yes he had been watching porn and looking at all the fannies.
Any thoughts.?😀

some men need electric shock treatment to their brains.
I'll never forget what that weirdo said to me.

Worked for a charming woman who clearly had some problems. She used to ask if I wanted a cup of tea then as we drank the tea would make nasty comments about me to my face. She once told me that 'everyone' thought I was standoffish and that she couldn't understand why I didn't get more involved with the people she knew. I replied that yes, I am standoffish and that's because I'm really picky about the people I want to be friends with. Another time I was late to the office by 5 minutes as I'd had to arrange for my DP to be home with my DS after he'd had a seizure. She said I should have left him on the floor as he'd have been fine!

Working in the same place one of her 'friends', 40 yr old man, walked past me and whispered in my ear 'I'd like to do things to you that I don't even want to do with my wife'. I'd say that's a bit rude! That awful woman gave him my mobile number and he sent me a photo of his....yep, he sure did. Funny thing was the file was too big to open on my phone so I forwarded the message to her much better mobile. Does that count as karma . I think it's funny now but he made my skin crawl.

I was in Year 7, early 1990s and I was waiting at a bus stop with my sister. I was wearing leggings and t shirt. There were some adult traveller hippyish types sat on a bench a few yards away. Me and my sister walked past and one of them bellowed 'Thunder Thighs' at me in an Irish accent and the whole street looked. I was maybe a stone overweight aged 11/12 and being abused and embarrassed in public by an adult.

Wibbly,
That's shocking.
You were a child and they were verbally abusing you.
I hope you don't think about those idiots too much .
I'm sorry that happened to you.

avamiah he obviously didn't have a clue what to do and needed to make an excuse so the nasty little weirdo tried to blame you. On the plus side you have a fabulous best friend. My best friend would die laughing if I asked her to do that!!!

Muchado,
Yes your right he was a weirdo.
I remember my friend thinking I'd lost the plot when I asked her but we are still mates today.
I had already had the mirror out but needed a second opinion. Haha

Not really rude I guess but upsetting: post an unexpectedly traumatic delivery after explaining about my tears and episiotomy and being unable to sit I was in so much pain, cue a wink about hoping I'd been given an extra couple of stitches for my dh. Said dh looked like he was about to punch her and told her how proud he was of me and how there was no way he'd have been able to handle pregnancy let alone labour or tearing.

I was called a minger at school many times.

Told I had a fit body once but shame about the face.

My friend was call a skinny bitch who looked like a skeleton by two older women, she was going through chemo at the time.

I was buying a blouse in a charity shop. I got to the till and the woman behind the counter said 'I'm not being rude dear, but are you sure this will fit you?' I was so shocked I just said yes. She said 'Hmmm. Well keep the receipt and you can bring it back when it's too tight' I honestly have no idea why I carried on with buying it, I should have walked out.

And it did fit.

Nuclear,
I've had similar said to me in a shop and these rude people shouldn't be working in shops dealing with the public, they maybe should work in a call centre where they don't see anybody to be rude to .

I was 14 or 15 and wearing a skirt to school one day. A guy came over and pulled up his trouser leg and said "yep, your legs are definitely hairy-er than mine" I laughed it off, went home and cried. My mum taught me how to shave my legs that night but I didn't wear a skirt again until I was early 20's :( The same guy also told me weeks later that i had a mustache and i needed to shave. I've been paranoid about it ever since. This was 15 years ago now and I still want to cry when i think about it
(I want to point out I have very very blonde hair, so looking back logically it really was very spiteful and not at all accurate)

I've had many over the years.

The latest was Wednesday last week when some white van driver shouted "fat bitch" at me as he drove past.

In all fairness I am overweight and need to lose a considerable amount, but comments like that make me want go home and cry myself stupid before stuffing my face with chocolate to feel better (I didn't do either thankfully).

On my wedding day my mam told my ds (bridesmaid) she looked beautiful. I asked what she thought I looked like, she looked me up and down and said 'ok!'

My dad told me I had a huge backside. I was a size 10.

Talking about clearing out a deceased relatives house dad, again, looked me up and down and said I wouldn't be able to get in the loft cos I was too big to fit through the hole. Fair enough I wouldn't as I'm not a size 10 anymore but really!

He also called me a terrible mother cos I wouldn't let my dd take two days off college to go Christmas shopping with some of the family.

Wasn't asked to go with family to scatter mams ashes. When I questioned this the reply was 'oh we didn't think you'd want to go'!!!

DH discussing with his mam and dad what would happen to their house if they ever went into a home. DH suggested putting the house into his name so if anything happened they wouldn't have to sell it. My mil, 'no, we're not doing that because if anything happens to dh then she'll (pointing at me) throw us out and sell the house'.

Another sister saying it's debatable how many siblings she has (i.e. me, cos she doesn't speak to me), then having a rant because I had the nerve to call her out about it.

Families are lovely aren't they.

The woman on the till at my local co-op. Youngest DS had recently been diagnosed as Autistic (he was 3). He was being a pain & very screechy, but hadn't gone into complete meltdown mode. Till lady said "how do you tolerate that noise? I wouldn't. Can't you do anything to control him?". I'm not one for confrontation, so I'm ashamed to say I just quickly packed my shopping, paid & walked out

I was at the hairdressers and the stylist doing my hair brushed her hand against me awkwardly and dropped her scissors. (Not my fault in any way!) She went on alarming about how they cost over £150 or some such and intimating I was somehow to blame. But I hadn't moved at all.
She calmed down a little and we were talking about the cold weather and I said I hated it and she replied, "I thought fat people didn't feel the cold."
Perhaps she was trying to get back at me for my imagined misdemeanor but I was stunned at her rudeness (and stupidity.)
Because I left without giving her a tip and have never been back.

I tell you what, sadly I am not surprised at all by the sexism displayed by many of these incidents but i am truly horrified by how many seem to be around childbirth. As if it wasn't traumatic enough :( so sorry for anyone who has been hurt.

Ex boyfriend came out with "you've got the right idea jet, put on weight then you don't need to use the heating over winter"

Mine was from a so called friend. Hadn't seen her for a while and I had moved jobs in the meantime. Just before I was to go in to a big meeting I received a text from her. I expected the usual hi, how are you text. Instead she wrote ' I heard a rumour from someone who says they saw you that you have got big again, is this true?' There was more written but I didn't see it. I just about managed to stay composed for my meeting but I felt so upset mainly because obviously they had been discussing and fat shaming me. I've had years of it. I used to dread visiting family relatives in Ireland to hear their chorus of 'you have got hefty, stout , you are carrying too much weight. Twats. All off them.

This absolutely isn't the rudest, but it's recent and so it's on my mind.

I went to a work thing in a city that's a long way from where I live, and I had to get the last bus home (which takes 3/4 hours). I asked a woman who was also attending this how long the walk from where we were to the bus station was, and she said (calmly) that it was ten minutes and not to worry, she'd point me in the right direction when I needed to leave.

25 minutes before my bus leaves I stood up to go, and she burst out laughing and told me it was about 40 minutes' walk, then carried on laughing and joking with her partner about it and refusing to tell me which way to run. I was actually standing there, with my phone out trying to call a taxi, while she kept shrieking with laughter about how far it was.

I still have no clue what she thought she was up to. Obviously I missed the bus despite running all the way.

I was once told on a date that my nose is big, big enough to fit a 2p coin in?!

I don't actually have a big nose, it's small and button! I said 'imagine what you could fit up yours then and while you're at it you can stick this up your arse' flashed him the middle finger and walked off.

I then had to wait awkwardly outside the cinema for my dad to pick me up