AIBU to think this wedding condition is a bit off?

[Ginge85]

Maybe I am BU- I've never planned a wedding myself so I'm not sure what the done thing is these days in regards to this. Just after some opinions!
DP and have been invited to a wedding of a close friend of DP, they have a small child of their own. Their wedding is several hours away from our home (and theirs) and is on a weekday in the middle of the summer school holidays.
Their invite states that no children other than their own are invited. AIBU to think that's a lot to ask considering the time of their wedding? Surely it's hard for lots of people to get overnight sitters on a weekday in the summer hols?
Or is this the norm? Ofc it's their wedding, their rules- but should they be expecting a lot of people to not go? It's looking like dp will have to go on his own!

Just an idea, and I'm sorry I haven't rtft so if someone has already suggested it, forgive me. Is the wedding in a part of the country where you would like to have a mini summer vacation with your DC's? If so could you take them with you and use someone like Sitters to arrange local childcare for while you're at the wedding itself, and then you get to have a holiday with the kids before and/or afterwards? We've done this when we had to attend a wedding on the other side of the country many years ago.

Also, another one guilty of having a child-free wedding as we had a limit on numbers. Fortunately very few of our friends & family had small children at that point, so it was easier to just say no kids rather than cull the adults that we wanted to have celebrate our day with us.

It's always been a funny one with me, I had the church wedding etc, people were invited with their children, the ushers said if your child gets upset or really noisy and you can't control it, there's a play area, obviously you'll have to make arrangements for supervision.

I was worried about pointing it out, but the feedback was parents wouldn't let their young ones create havoc. If still upset or whatever after a few minutes it wouldn't occur to them to keep a screaming child there hoping that they'd calm down.

I know it's a big fear, img what if children play up, but most parents are responsible. They're not going to let their child take centre stage so to speak.

So it is an individual thing, but it's a shame.

Archery, a lot of indian wedding venues won't be listened for booze, which might not work for a non-indian wedding...

sparechange I can promise you I've never been to a shindig in an Indian banqueting hall which didn't have booze. (I think you are thinking of Muslims, many of whom don't drink, not Indians - or people of Indian heritage, at least - who are more likely to be Hindu or Sikh, and plenty of whom do drink.)

The booziest wedding I've ever been to was a Indian wedding. There was a bottle of whisky, Vodka and Gin in every table as well as wine and soft drinks.

The bride was gorgeous, the groom was handsome (and arrived on a horse!) and the food was awesome)

India is a vast country. I have been to mainly Muslim weddings which do not have alcohol.

Archery
I'm half Indian so have been to lots of Indian weddings!
Many have been boozy, many haven't...

The boozy ones have usually been in hotels, because lots of the Banqueting halls can't get licences

I know there are exceptions, but a lot of the big halls don't do booze

There's no end to the children/no children issue.

They've given you and the other guests plenty of notice of the date ..... time to plan and book travel, child care, and annual leave, I don't know what more people expect.

No matter which day of the week, there are always those who can't make it - at least midweek hotels are cheaper.

sparechange I'm amazed by this, genuinely! Maybe my extended family is always careful to pick the ones that can do booze... I have never come across one that doesn't.