Would bunk beds for a parent and child be absolutely ridiculous?

[Woulditbesilly]

Trying to work out logistics of having a baby/child in a flat with only one bedroom. There's a lounge, bathroom, TINY kitchen and bedroom. None of the rooms are large.

I was thinking of maybe having bunk beds in the bedroom but is this just stupid ... ?

Unless you work term time school hours near your child's school you will be paying for childcare until nearly secondary school aged.

Exactly what Toomanycats said: childcare costs do not disappear when your child goes to school. Depending on how you earn your living you're likely to need before and after school child care, plus holiday camp. I actually think the sleeping arrangements are the least of your worries!

I'm a bit confused... are you even pregnant?

I'm guessing OP is pregnant through a sperm donor or is considering it?

How do you know you will be able to afford a bigger place for when the child definitely needs their own bedroom

Why would they definitely need their own bedroom? I never knew any child with their own bedroom when I was at school

We had a tiny flat in Paris (about 60m2) and managed very well for a couple of years with bedroom for son (lovely big cupboards, so all the clothes, toys, games, assorted child crap could go behind easily) and left enough floor space for play, including putting up a tent for sleepovers with mates. The sitting room had enough space for me to add a sofabed to the sofa already there. I bought a really good one that was easy to operate, sturdy without being heavy, and was a nice piece of furniture in its own right, and the aforementioned big cupboards had space to tuck pillows and duvet away every day. Headphones for radio/tv after bedtime. It can work well with children under 10, after which everyone needs a bit more space. And it keeps you honest about what you really need, which after years of a big space filled with excess stuff, I found very liberating.

A toddler bed is fine up to age five so you wouldn't need a bunk.

2 bed flat and rent out a room? At least that way you wouldn't have to move again.

Or a one bed and you sleep in the living room (but keep your clothes etc in the bedroom?

So, in the interests of everyone having their own space, (this will help with good sleeping patterns for all parties, and means you can decorate child's room to please them rather than you) I'd go for child in bedroom, adult on sofa bed and invest in good built-in storage and furniture. Declutter and enjoy it! As people are living in smaller spaces, there's a greater choice of furniture around now.

Oh, and good luck with conceiving and baby, OP. Sounds like you are
planning everything very well.

If its just you and the child get a double bunk bed. You can both share the bottom double whilst child is little, then when they are old enough they can go on the top single part and you get the double to yourself. I would rather keep the lounge as living space and not clutter it up with sleeping stuff.

We lived on a narrowboat with a baby and a toddler, co-sleeping. Small spaces are fine, you just manage the space to what works for you. A baby can just be in your bed, with a moses basket for daytime naps, babies need far less than you think.

I can sleep very comfortably in my DC's bunk beds.
Advice - make sure they are full size beds - so 2m length and the full single bed width.
Also consider the gap between the bunks - I made sure an adult (I'm 5'8") could comfortably sit on the bottom bunk without banging head - it makes the bunks more versatile and usable IYKWIM.

I'd also look at the ladder to make sure the rungs are wide and flat so don't hurt bare feet.

I did loads of research and ended up buying these (but I paid under £300). Very solid, I assembled them with a friend, wearing very well (had them 3 years now). They also convert to 2 single beds for when we move.

www.wayfair.co.uk/Homestead-Living-Tot-to-Teen-Single-Standard-Bunk-Bed-HES1057-L1074-K~HES1057.html?refid=GX83252208743-HES1057&device=c&ptid=182329465223&targetid=pla-182329465223&device=c&gclid=Cj0KEQiAot_FBRCqt8jVsoDKoZABEiQAqFL76JKobWcm5SM-nYiMZaXNt3XMRSAlQT4YSktnl1PwnFYaAhma8P8HAQ

oh you haven't had baby yet? A child can't go into top bunk until about age 5.

I'd stick with your bed and co-sleep. You can do this for quite a while. Use moses basket on bed while the baby is young if you prefer. google co-sleeping for guidance.

How high are your ceilings?
If you got a double high-sleeper like this one then there is plenty of space under for a cot initially, then later a child's bed, and because they aren't part of the same structure you don't risk waking your child by rocking the bed as you climb up

do get a ladder blanking plate to stop your child climbing up during the toddler years though!

Sofa bed in living room for you, then the bedroom is the child's with an extra large wardrobe for both of your stuff. That works better than having all the toys in the living room!

if you havr no partner and you dont have any children then what is it you are worring about??

I recommend cosleeping for a young (

bunk beds with the double bed on the bottom and single bed at the top are very common here in compact apartments here in Asia. no-one would bat an eyelid. bedrooms are small here. they are for sleeping in not hanging out in for most of the day.

do what works for you.
good luck.

Yeah I know there are still some costs when they start school but fairly minimal compared to full time nursery places. Thanks :)

All those aghast that OP doesn't have a partner, its 2017. The 1950s are that way.

Why on earth would you even consider having a baby in these living conditions, and under your current financial circumstances? How is this fair to the child? Having children is not a right and those who do it without having enough to give to them / whilst reliant on benefits are just selfish. Of course people's circumstamces change and I sympathise with that, but whilst you are child free, consider improving your life chances and living conditions before you even think about having children. Give them the best chance possible!

Before anyone says it... Whilst sleeping in bunk beds is not a direct measure of success, the question on how to address the issue of having a child in a smalp flat indicates a certain lack of expectation for the child before it is even conceived. I would go so far as to say that this attitude is what is wrong with our society.

What are you on about Where? She owns her home outright (even if it's a bit small) and clearly has a job.
She is putting a lot of thought and planning into have a child.
Essentially, we're talking about two people (one of them pretty tiny) sharing a one bedroom flat.
There have been lots of really good ideas and I honestly can't see a problem.

WhereDoesThisRoadGo may I be the first to say "do fuck off dear" and take your shitty judgmental attitude with you.

I would go so far as to say that YOUR attitude is what is wrong with our society.

YY to this!