Would bunk beds for a parent and child be absolutely ridiculous?

[Woulditbesilly]

Trying to work out logistics of having a baby/child in a flat with only one bedroom. There's a lounge, bathroom, TINY kitchen and bedroom. None of the rooms are large.

I was thinking of maybe having bunk beds in the bedroom but is this just stupid ... ?

If it's just going to be you and baby, then just co-sleep in a double bed. Most babies/toddlers sleep much better with a parent in the bed, and hopefully you'll be in a position to move before they start wanting their own room.

They do need 'things' when they are older, hence why I would give the child the bedroom and sleep in the living room full time. They need a place of their own imo by that age but I'm sure someone will say they slept in the same room as their kid til 18 and they both loved it.

I'm not worrying, I'm planning!

Good ideas, thanks :)

No, I know Ryan - ideally I would have at least a 2 bed place but it's just so difficult paying for nursery AND a bigger place. I can do one or the other but not both.

I was also going to saying go on Youtube and look for tiny houses - I know you are not in this situation but it will probably give you lots of ideas.

My daughter and her two kids have just moved in with me - standard 3 bed terrace so room but still a major change especially as I work from home. This videos gave us lots of great storage ideas and also inspired us to throw tons and tons of pointless stuff away.

We do it with a 3 and 5 years old. We have our double bed and a set of bunk beds for the kids. Really trying to minimize and save money for the next few years while DH finishes school. It's not ideal, but it works for us.

How about a loft bed for you with a single for little un underneath?

Like this...

www.ikea.com/gb/en/products/beds/loft-beds-bunk-beds/storå-loft-bed-frame-white-stain-art-70242086/

Is it a possibility to save for longer? Enough to subsidise the nursery fees slightly each month. Are you under time pressures to conceive? (Don't answer if you don't want to, I just don't want to be making assumptions!)

My 4yo and I share a kingsized bed in my bedroom. Not out of necessity as he actually has his own really cool, big bedroom. But because it works better for us. We both prefer the company at night and sleep better together. Bunk beds could be an option for you but tbh, co-sleeping is easier.

My friend used to share a bunk bed with her mum.

Why are you planning for this hypothetical baby as if you won't have a partner to share the baby with? Surely it is at least equally likely that you will have a baby with a supportive partner, in which case you may well be able to afford to move to a larger home? I appreciate the idea of planning ahead but this seems to be taking it a bit too far!

I am lucky as I own the flat outright. It's just nursery fees are still around £800 a month!

Unfortunate - you misunderstand me; i'd need to have the child as a single parent! Left it a bit late to find the aforementioned supportive partner!

Future DC gets the room.
You get a comfy sofa bed for the living room.
I know several single parents who do this.
DC will still sleep with you a lot though, esp in the early years.

Can you co-sleep in a double bed?

My sister shared a room with her daughter in a house-share until the daughter was 12. Cot, then cot with sides off, then toddler bed, then bunks. The room was not particularly big either!

I don't really fancy that ... I have a double now and the cat wakes me up as it is!

Yeah no probs, go for it. Get bunks (you on top.) I am sorry if I missed it, but the bairn is a toddler yeah? If it works out well financially, then do it. And I hope you will both be warm and cosy and happy in there.

For the first five years of my son's life we were in a one bedroom flat - he had the bedroom and I had a sofa bed. Kept both our clothes in the bedroom. In a two bedroom now but he still (age 7) prefers to get in with me most nights even though he always had his own room so I'm sure itll be fine.

Hermione have you ever shared a double bed with a toddler? They are like an octopus! 2 beds are much better.

You cannot bank on no fees once they start school - in my case breakfast and after school club is still around £20 a day. And the. Holiday club a bit more. And you don't get the 15 hours to set against it.

Our neighbours have 2 adults and 2 kids in a 1-bedroom flat. The kids have bunk beds in the bedroom, and the parents have a mattress that lives behind the sofa during the day. The children are happy and well-adjusted, the parents are pretty happy too!

My family spent a bit of time in one bed flats, once when I was 9 and my brother 2, and once again when I was 13 and my brother 6, for 6 months each time.

First time around, I had a single bed in the living room which my mum covered with a throw and pillows to use as a sofa during the day, while by brother co slept with parents in the bedroom.

Second time round, the house was actually unfurnished except for one double bed. my brother, mother and I shared the bed and my dad had a mattress on the floor next to us.

My parents were always fan of saving on rent, and only finally bought a 3 bed flat 2 years ago. So I essentially shared with my brother until I moved out at 18, and continued to share when I came to visit till I was about 24 !!