Does anyone remember the bride in Wales charging £££ for hotel rooms?

[cousinswedding]

I don't know of any of you will remember me. I posted months ago when my cousin was planning her wedding in a Welsh castle hundreds of miles away from where we all live. Her wedding is a three day event starting on a Thursday and she asked us to pay to stay in the rooms (£160 per night). When other pulled out she contacted us and said the rooms had gone up so were now £180 so at least £360 for accommodation but more likely three nights so £540. Just for accommodation. My mum is pressuring me to go and we have booked it and waved goodbye to the prospect of a family holiday.

Anyway- cousin and I (used to be close she's been a nightmare in all this) got together today as she wanted to come over and see my outfit for the wedding (in two weeks). She got really frosty with me as my dress is a nude colour- is this a thing?? She's asking me to change it and wear something else. The dress is new and was bought specifically for this occasion and I do have an old green one I could wear but I have worn it to another family wedding and I don't like it that much. The dress I've bought is not cream, more like a pale peach. The bride is wearing white.

I'm loathe to waste more money (can't take it back took the tags off) and resent being ordered around like this. Is nude ok for a wedding or AIBU?

you'd be well within your rights to wear the dress you bought, of course. and if you're going to cancel, cancel now.

Not to be rude but why the heck are you entertaining all of this bollocks OP?

I didn't want to be rude either but this sums it up nicely. Judging from your previous reactions you will just roll over and do what she says so why ask?

If you absolutely must go (no way would I even think of going if asked to cough up that amount of money) then find a nearby B&B, camp site or something. To pay that much money to attend a wedding is simply unacceptable. Or as others have said, go ill with a highly contagious bug. Your relative sounds a complete nightmare and an entitled brat and if she behaves like this when married will be heading for a quickie divorce.

What I would do is see the dresszilla thing as the final straw, get a refund on the room and never have anything to do with her as a result for the rest of my days. The older you, will thank the younger you for this gift freely given of being wanker free your whole life.

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Have u already paid for the accommodation? If not don't go.

Can you talk to your parents / aunt and uncle? Surely they are also thinking this is bat shit bonkers?

Tell her no
She's your cousin not your boss
I wouldn't be going with such cost and expectation any way
Is she usually such a grabby nightmare?

I would say that thinking about paying out for a new dress made me realise that I just can't afford all the costs involved with her wedding and it is actually costing as much as a break away for me and family, so unfortunately I think it's best to pull out of the wedding and save the costs. I hope she has a lovely day and would love to meet her for a coffee when she has the photographs back

Turns it round on her, especially because the dress was just one push too far, and the coffee thing at the end hints at this being final and not something she can change your mind about

Three days?
I'm organising my wedding and I'm thinking 10hrs of wedding wedding will be too much.

I remember your original post, OP. I just have one message for you:

You can say no to the crazy!

Like other PPs, totally confused about why you are indulging this nonsense. That's a lot of money - not to mention the loss of a family holiday and the inconvenience - just to keep the peace. Her demands are beyond cheeky but you were not forced to go along with them and it is frustrating to know that she is being enabled to frankly take the p*ss! Just tell her no.

You cannot complain about your cousin's behaviour when you are actively enabling it. What is the point of your thread other than to bitch about her?

No is a complete sentence

Fuck off is an acceptable alternative to no

Learn to say both of these things OP

So this wedding will cost you more than £1000??? You kidding me? You could use that for a lovely holiday with your family, or just buy clothes, whatever.

Cancel and screw them. So ridiculous m!

Your mum needs a good hard shake too. I was brought up with a mother who would twist herself (and us)into bloody knots to keep the peace for her ghastly family. There are some things she did / made us do that I will never forgive her for.

She would have pulled this shit about a wedding too.

I wouldn't go.

Agree with others, she's only like this because people like you and your mum are allowing it.

I think you need to tell your Mum to butt out too, she has caused many of the problems you are facing with her desire to appease Bridezilla. Why is she so scared of your cousin?

I didn't want to be rude either but this sums it up nicely. Judging from your previous reactions you will just roll over and do what she says so why ask?

My thoughts exactly. I lost all sympathy when OP said "we have booked it and waved goodbye to the prospect of a family holiday."

What a mug.

Can't you attend the ceremony but stay in a chap hotel somewhere close? I can't fathom giving up a family holiday for anyone's wedding.

I totally understand why you have to go along with this because of your mum. My mum is exactly the same and we cannot refuse any family invite without, what she would consider, a good enough reason. She is all about show and putting on a front and woe betide us if we refuse to play along.

It is easier to do what she wants for a day or two than face weeks or even months of her sulking.

I really feel for you OP and understand why you are going along with this. We have a family event coming up for a reason I can't say because it would be too identifying. I'm so unhappy about it that I really don't know how I will get through the day. When I told my mum that we probably wouldn't be going she immediately started with the histrionics and emotional blackmail. I'm still praying for a legitimate reason to come up, like I contract dengue fever or something, so that we don't have to go

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REALLY think you should cancel your booking if you can get a refund.
Her attitude stinks and she doesn't deserve any guests/friends.
Please stand up to her and your Mum, use the massive, crazy amount of money you would have spent on something you and your family will enjoy.
And if you do decide to go, wear the nude dress you paid good money for and let us all know how it went! If you don't go, let us know too! xx

There's no bloody way I'd be giving her money as a gift. Cheeky mare.