Does anyone remember the bride in Wales charging £££ for hotel rooms?

[cousinswedding]

I don't know of any of you will remember me. I posted months ago when my cousin was planning her wedding in a Welsh castle hundreds of miles away from where we all live. Her wedding is a three day event starting on a Thursday and she asked us to pay to stay in the rooms (£160 per night). When other pulled out she contacted us and said the rooms had gone up so were now £180 so at least £360 for accommodation but more likely three nights so £540. Just for accommodation. My mum is pressuring me to go and we have booked it and waved goodbye to the prospect of a family holiday.

Anyway- cousin and I (used to be close she's been a nightmare in all this) got together today as she wanted to come over and see my outfit for the wedding (in two weeks). She got really frosty with me as my dress is a nude colour- is this a thing?? She's asking me to change it and wear something else. The dress is new and was bought specifically for this occasion and I do have an old green one I could wear but I have worn it to another family wedding and I don't like it that much. The dress I've bought is not cream, more like a pale peach. The bride is wearing white.

I'm loathe to waste more money (can't take it back took the tags off) and resent being ordered around like this. Is nude ok for a wedding or AIBU?

My MIL wore white to our wedding without even telling me. To say I was pissed about it would be an understatement. Is it one of thise things were it's "called" peach but actually if you don't know what colour it's meant to be you'd think it was something else? Tbh it would probably be closer to cream or an ivory than a white. I might have missed it, is she wearing ivory? No she shouldn't tell you what to wear but it is her day(s), and it's probably been hell to organise from the sound of it (her fault or not) so maybe she made a bigger deal of it than she meant to? I'd keep it if you're sure it's definitely peach and say no more about it.

Sorry you did say she's wearing white...keep it. Nude/peach and white are entirely different things.

Here is the dress I bought the bride is wearing a long white dress and the bridesmaids are wearing knee length pale pink dresses.

Oh that's lovely!!! You HAVE to wear it.

Gorgeous dress and not bridal at all. If the bridesmaids had been wearing long nude dresses, I could just about understand the issue: it's still not up to her to dictate what you wear but personally I would want to be warned if I was going to look like a subs bench bridesmaid . But, as they are wearing short pink, there is no problem.

OP you are going to look knockout in that dress. Perhaps that's what's getting up her nose? Jus sayin'

She has asked for money as a gift,

At £180 a night, your gift is your PRESENCE AT HER WEDDING!

Greedy cow!

I love that dress 😍

Wow, cant believe you've gone along with it all.... i'd have told her to stick it a long time ago!

Cancel the accommodation and wear the lovely dress on your family holiday?

finding fault with your outfit

Does your outfit particularly suit you Wedding?

I'll bet se is jealous that you look so good. (Probably wants to be surrounded by trolls so she looks even better on her Big Day)

My cousin looked more like a bride than I did on my wedding day.
I wore a knee length champagne off white dress with just a sparkly head band in my hair.
She wore a turquoise full length prom dress with sparkly bits on the bodice anda matching fascination.

She had a wonderful time. She was recently bereaved and had met a new man and was going for it.

I was over the moon for her.
That's what weddings are about aren't they? Celebrating your happiness with the people you love.

if you've not paid, I would honestly be thinking of finding some air bnb accommodation or similar & saying to her that circumstances have changed (expensive unforeseen house/car repairs?)

Or perhaps she has to buy another dress Foxy?
And I like your idea of using it as a base for a family getaway.

Can someone link me to the original thread please, as I am a nosey cow interested.

500 to stay for a wedding

er no-my dsis had a reception in a hotel but noone was forced to stay there she got a discount for those who did

shes being ridiculous

I can't see the dress :(

Honestly, she sounds like a right sassy wanker. If it were me, I'd be turning up in a wedding dress just to piss on her bonfire

...If you want to borrow a wedding dress for bonfire pissing purposes - I can lend you mine

I wonder how cousin will react to your text?
If you get flak from your mum just say cousin has gone too far so you've given up on trying not to rock the boat.
Beautiful dress btw I wish I could carry it off absolutely wear this and don't wear the green one.

Dowser Thu 02-Mar-17 11:06:29
My cousin looked more like a bride than I did on my wedding day.
I wore a knee length champagne off white dress with just a sparkly head band in my hair.
She wore a turquoise full length prom dress with sparkly bits on the bodice anda matching fascination.

She had a wonderful time. She was recently bereaved and had met a new man and was going for it.

I was over the moon for her.
That's what weddings are about aren't they? Celebrating your happiness with the people you love.

I love this ❤️ 💛 💚 💙 💜

I/We got married in the gardens of the Nursing home we both worked in, So the lovely residents could see and share their blessing with us.
It was Wonderful

OP, I adore that dress. it's Lovely. ❤️ 💛 💚

That dress is not remotely white or remotely bridal.your cousin is a lunatic.

.If you want to borrow a wedding dress for bonfire pissing purposes - I can lend you mine

Give us the date time and place - then we can all come for 'bonfire posing purposes' LOL

dowser that's a wonderful attitude. I don't get this vetting outfits. If I ever got married it would never occur to me. Someone else looking lovely wouldn't make me any less the bride. Even if someone wore white/ivory it wouldn't bother me. I'd rather that than people not make any effort & rock up in ripped jeans. OP now you're paying to subsidise empty rooms you should invite some friends to use the additional room(s), get your money's worth! I hope at least there's a free bar wonders who'll be first to get drunk & tell bridezilla what they think of her

I wouldn't be going. The price of the rooms is outrageous as it is and a peach/nude dress is no issue at all imho. I wouldn't have given a hoot it someone wore white to my wedding let alone a different colour.

She sounds like a difficult woman and that you won't have a good time. Why are some people so bloody daft when it comes to weddings?

I'm a firm believe that you have the wedding you can afford. She clearly can't afford this and it will be to her detriment when people decide not to attend.

I can't believe she had the cheek to ask for an presents after asking people to pay so much for the rooms.

Totally agree with sonyaya you're not enabling, you were just trying not to cause a rift. It's just a shame her more immediate family didn't point out how unaffordable her plans were. It's difficult when everyone else is sucking it up to be the one to take a stand. But your text was assertive so I don't think you'll find yourself in a similar situation again.

Is it Craig Y Nos Castle? If it is I have a story to tell you.