Does anyone remember the bride in Wales charging £££ for hotel rooms?

[cousinswedding]

I don't know of any of you will remember me. I posted months ago when my cousin was planning her wedding in a Welsh castle hundreds of miles away from where we all live. Her wedding is a three day event starting on a Thursday and she asked us to pay to stay in the rooms (£160 per night). When other pulled out she contacted us and said the rooms had gone up so were now £180 so at least £360 for accommodation but more likely three nights so £540. Just for accommodation. My mum is pressuring me to go and we have booked it and waved goodbye to the prospect of a family holiday.

Anyway- cousin and I (used to be close she's been a nightmare in all this) got together today as she wanted to come over and see my outfit for the wedding (in two weeks). She got really frosty with me as my dress is a nude colour- is this a thing?? She's asking me to change it and wear something else. The dress is new and was bought specifically for this occasion and I do have an old green one I could wear but I have worn it to another family wedding and I don't like it that much. The dress I've bought is not cream, more like a pale peach. The bride is wearing white.

I'm loathe to waste more money (can't take it back took the tags off) and resent being ordered around like this. Is nude ok for a wedding or AIBU?

Never mind, just read your latest post!

Just wear colourful accessories so its clear you are not part of the rest of it. I would explain that too her and also that you don't have the spare to be purchasing two outfits. If she is still pushy I would just say well I suppose I could go to the charity shops I suspect that might bring an about turn!!! It all just sounds like one big ballache - I hate these sorts of events

Get the tummy bug that's going around. Don't go. She's a bridezilla.

It isn't Craig y nos castle is it?

I remember now. She wanted the dream wedding in the beautiful castle but couldn't afford it so she is getting everyone else to sub it.

My personal opinion is that if go to a wedding it is because I care about one or both of the people getting married. I want to be there because I want to see them take an important step in their lives. I don't see the point in getting all dressed up a spending the cost of a decent holiday on watching someone I can't tolerate getting themselves lined up for a divorce.

Can't you pay for the rooms directly to the hotel?

I think you're ridiculous for pandering to her insanity.

You must be so fed up by now. Fancy finding fault with your outfit and having the brass neck to ask for money for their gift on top of expecting guests to shell out for so much. You did well keeping your temper! I am sorry she has got power hungry and would stop indulging her.

Fuck me she's the gift that keeps on taking giving, isn't she?

She's going to look back in a few years and be absolutely cringing at her behaviour, surely?

Wear your lovely dress, OP.

Re the dress. I'd just say.. 'yeah, okay, I've got an old green one I can dig out for your do'. And then shrug like you don't give a shit and change the subject.

That tactic from hotels of saying 'you have to pay for the whole venue and then make it back from your guests' is deeply unpleasant and it's just as unpleasant when couples go along with it. Have you paid or put a deposit down yet? I'd be very tempted to switch to the nearest Travelodge if you could. And all this is completely OTT from the bride.

If you cancel now will you lose the money on the room?

She sounds like a nightmare.

But if you must go, or rather, feel like you must go (as you do not have to go, and I'd be tempted not to in your shoes), you can get a nice new non-nude outfit at everything5pounds.com

To be honest if you are silly enough to pay to attend this wedding show.... then I wouldn't be surprised if you changed your outfit also.
Just do exactly as she asks like you have up to now.

I can't believe she's doing that with regards to the room, so she should getting her venue for free by pressurising her friends and family to stay at it???

Nude is a a lovely colour for a dress, I just don't get why some brides get so precious get so pathetic about things like this every single guest knows you're the bride and who your bridesmaid is, don't worry, you aren't going to fade into the background on your own flipping wedding day!!

You're close to telling her to stuff it??

Sorry, I don't believe that.

She's a complete drama queen and you know it, but still you go along with all the crap she throws your way.

This will probably end up in the Daily Mail anyway and she'll recognise her bridezilla self

I very much like PageStillNotFound404's suggestion - tell her that if you have to get a new dress, she'll have to pay for it!

I hope it's a bloody amazing day!

Wear what you like.

This bride deserves to be in the daily mail!

Don't go. I'm feeling cross just reading this. She's being controlling and greedy.

Wow! I remember your thread -

I'd make a list

Room cost
Travelcost
Clothes
Spends
Present

Tell her you've paid enough for HER day already and can not change your outfit and how bloody rude!

Hope you critique her dress on the day

Wow she's awful, absolutely stick to your original outfit. I can't believe you're going under these circumstances, I would've declined a long time ago. If your DM is insisting you go why isn't she paying for your room?

How about a mahoosive big red hat and shoes to tone down the pale dress?

I also remember your last thread but have NCed since.

IIRC, you were keeping schtum at your mum's request to keep the peace. Presumably nobody has called her out on her ridiculous behaviour and it has consequently escalated to this ludicrous point.

Of course you should wear your new dress, and I'm sure it will look lovely. Is anyone in your family going to give her head a wobble before tomorrow?

FUCK THAT for a game of soldiers - tell her to stick her wedding up her ARSE. What an absolute entitled bridezilla cuntface