Does anyone remember the bride in Wales charging £££ for hotel rooms?

[cousinswedding]

I don't know of any of you will remember me. I posted months ago when my cousin was planning her wedding in a Welsh castle hundreds of miles away from where we all live. Her wedding is a three day event starting on a Thursday and she asked us to pay to stay in the rooms (£160 per night). When other pulled out she contacted us and said the rooms had gone up so were now £180 so at least £360 for accommodation but more likely three nights so £540. Just for accommodation. My mum is pressuring me to go and we have booked it and waved goodbye to the prospect of a family holiday.

Anyway- cousin and I (used to be close she's been a nightmare in all this) got together today as she wanted to come over and see my outfit for the wedding (in two weeks). She got really frosty with me as my dress is a nude colour- is this a thing?? She's asking me to change it and wear something else. The dress is new and was bought specifically for this occasion and I do have an old green one I could wear but I have worn it to another family wedding and I don't like it that much. The dress I've bought is not cream, more like a pale peach. The bride is wearing white.

I'm loathe to waste more money (can't take it back took the tags off) and resent being ordered around like this. Is nude ok for a wedding or AIBU?

We had a £20k wedding nearly a decade ago- but we spent so much because we were trying to minimise the costs for friends/family, a Friday wedding would have been cheaper, but aware that many of dh's friends were self employed so would lose a days wage compared to a Saturday wedding. We made sure we covered all the drinks in the evening so no one had to pay out. We wanted a nice country house wedding, but picked one that was more expensive than others we'd seen, but meant at least 50% of our guests could go home afterwards rather than having to book a hotel room...

We had a big budget, but it went on being good hosts, not trying to fake being the Beckhams.

Nah. £25k just for a castle for one day. Money well spent

A castle that is nothing in the castle stakes and is rather run down.

A castle that is nothing in the castle stakes and is rather run down.

Indeed!

I now remember that old email that went viral where a future MIL told the bride to be:

"No one gets married in a castle unless they own it. It is brash celebrity style behaviour."

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2011/jun/30/mother-in-law-email-viral

Astro I did say in my post that I would be happy to pay for my accommodation and food but NOT to be ripped off and I did refer more than once to friends. A friend would not criticise a dress or ask for it to be changed and certainly not criticise it on the grounds of cost so I think you and I are in agreement!

I think the wedding we are invited to maybe has the balance right - a chance to stay at the venue (lovely hotel) for slightly less than their normal nightly rate but suggestions also given for the nearby town. I have no problem with the fact that us staying at the venue may reduce the bill for the B&G as that does not seem to be their main objective and they are lovely people so I am happy to help them.

I wouldn't be at all offended to be offered the chance to stay at the venue for a cost chosen by the b&g who were obliged to pay for the lot. I would be offended if they inflated the cost to subsidise the day and/of if they tried to insist I had to stay rather than being free to drive home/get a premier inn.

Our friends booked an entire venue but it certainly wasn't a castle/stately home or anything like that. They offered for guests to stay at £30 per night per couple but also gave details of local hotels etc for those that didn't want to. Most people stayed 2 nights and it was an awesome wedding.

Has the wedding happened yet?

Shamelessly looking for an update!

Has the wedding happened yet op ?

Is OP still about?

I remember the original thread but must have missed this one.

What will happen if not enough guests turn up? If I was her and had been relying on guests to pay for the wedding then that thought would be keeping me up at night. I wouldnt have picked a fight if someone wanted to turn up wearing a onsie and nipple clamps as long as they paid! Not that I would have a fund raiser wedding but ykwim.

And someone above mentioned post wedding depression, yes it happens. My sister went total Gluezilla (I almost didnt go) for 2 years before her wedding, although the groom was just as bad, and when it was all over she just crashed.

Nothing changed, they already lived together, apart from her name. She and they were exactly the same as before, except that there wasnt this huge big event at the centre of everything. She was really quiet too as if she had forgotten to have a normal conversation, as all she had talked about was The Wedding.

Thank God they have stayed together because if she had got married a second time I really dont think that our relationship would have survived it.

Does anyone remember the bride in Wales? How could we ever forget? Hang on a bit, I thought that you'd eventually decided NOT to go. I know I advised this, along with many others and I was concerned that you'd get drawn in by mother or the Bridezilla.

Have I missed something?

The thread has been bumped up morning.
My bet is the wedding got called off.

I feel like we've been waiting forever for this wedding. Come on OP update us please!

Bump as dying to know the outcome too.

Oh I want to know how it all went too.

Looks like OP has disappeared

Oh I really hope she hasn't disappeared, I'll be so annoyed if we don't get a resolution to all this.

Any news?

Sadly fairytales and mysa I'm thinking we've been had...

Oh pants, I thought this was a post-wedding update!

Maybe the whole family was instructed to accompany the bride and groom on their month-long honeymoon to Maui at a cost of £15000 each, so no family members have been able to update OP on how the wedding went.

I really hope that's the reason inertia or that the bride has locked them in their rooms until they cough up the full amount EACH

MrsHandles - I really don't get why someone would do that. At least I discovered an old castle was used as a Sanitorium, which is something that interests me.

Hope you all have a great weekend.

OP please come back.