To ask for the rest of the chicken?

[startwig1982]

I recently went over to a friend's house after dinner and she and her DH had had roast chicken plus the trimmings.

While she was making cups of tea, she started to bag up the rest of the chicken and the carcass to go in the bin! There was at least half a chicken left and so I expressed my astonishment at her throwing it away.

Apparently she never keeps leftovers and always bins whatever is left, even if it's half a roast!
So I asked her if I could have it instead. She said yes but was a bit about it, but I couldn't bear all that going to waste when you could get another 2 meals out of it. So WIBU?

I actually don't know if YANBU!

I wouldn't have asked for fear of looking like I'm begging for food

Gosh, I'd think to.myself "what a waste" but don't think I'd have the nerve to ask for it. But good for you OP.

On the whole I would just say that was an awkward situation all round.

Yeah, I'm not sure either, I don't think I could have asked for the left overs either. If offered maybe I'd have accepted, but not sure I'd have asked for what she was about to bin.

She's quite a close friend so used to my oddness. I guess it's a bit weird to ask for it but was just shocked by how much she was going to bin. We mainly DH try not to waste food as much as possible.

I'd probably have pretended it was for the dog...

Could be worse. I was once peeling veg for a friend and, rather than chuck the peelings in the bin wrapped them in newspaper to take home for my compost.
I've no idea what I was thinking

I do think I'd be a bit if a friend I'd invited to my house for dinner wanted the left overs to take home.
I wouldn't dream of asking a friend if I could take leftovers home, I find it quite cringe really.

If your offered them fair enough to accept but to ask for them no just no!

If you are close enough to go around for dinner, your close enough to ask for it imo. I hate food waste and would have done the same!

I think it's fine if she's a good friend and you're not bothered about 'etiquette'!

Op - I would have done the same!!! I hate seeing food go to waste.

I'd find a friend rude tbh, it's fine if your asked if you want them and if we've had friends over for picky lunch/tea I normally offer them any stuff left to take home but to ask for them I find rude.

I certainly wouldn't dream of asking for leftovers.

I agree with pp awkward situation really and a bit cringe

I don't think I would be able to stop myself from saving the chicken one way or the other

Why would anyone throw out half a chicken! I'm genuinely shocked. A chicken died for that...and the money.

I'd have said, ooh I'll take it for sandwiches and stock, if it was a good friend. But I don't think I'd be friends with the kind of weirdo who didn't love a cold chicken sandwich.

I think the fact it was the remnants of their dinner, you went round after they had finished and were not invited for the meal kind of makes it a bit worse if you know what I mean.

Going round after someone's dinner and asking for the left overs just as they are about to bin them is a bit, well, awkward. If you're good friends though it doesn't matter.

You get what three meals out of a chicken? Feeding how many people in total? Is this another one of those i make a small chicken last a family of six for a week threads? 😂

If I were your friend, I would assume you are starving and send you away with half a cupboard's worth of non perishables.

All I can think of is you asking for the carcass back and her yelling 'YOU ARE THE CARCASS!'

Oh, I don't waste food but I wouldn't have asked. .

The dog would have been a good excuse

All I can think of is you asking for the carcass back and her yelling 'YOU ARE THE CARCASS!'

An oldie but a goodie...

Bluntness a chicken will do me, DH and the two dc(5 and 2) Sunday lunch, Tuesday curry and then stock for soup later on in the week.

Why would anyone throw out half a chicken! I'm genuinely shocked. A chicken died for that

This ^

I think that's the main issue rather than me taking leftovers!!

Really don't get why some people would find it cringeworthy. Makes me wonder what kind of relationships pass as "good friends" in some people lives, arn't you meant to be able to be yourself with close friends?
The weirdness is throwing away that much food.

I understand why you'd be amazed she bins that much food. A really, really good friend might even be ok asking if she always bins that much, but it is borderline.

Asking to fish a carcass I had no part in eating out of somebody else's bin would make me cringe for the rest of the year. In her place and in yours.