I've moved in with my partner and he won't put me on his tenancy agreement.

[Bosschopsbitch]

We would have over in together eventually but circumstances kind of pushed it to happen now. And because of that there have been things that we hadnt really ironed out. I'm on universal credit (aforementioned circumstances) and he works full time but in order for me to still claim and get CTC for my son it's had to be changed to a joint claim (I dont understand tbh) but the advisor said if I wanted to claim the housing element thend I would have to be added to the tenancy. With a resolute 'no she isn't going on the tenancy' that was the end of that. He won't disuss it. He won't reconsider. Absolutely steadfast and will not budge. AIBU to be pissed off/angry/shocked/uoset/all of the above?

How very Christian

Pretty sure god doesn't live at the job centre....

What's stopping OP getting her own tenancy somewhere?

Her child is not his to support but I bet she had a child by someone who makes minimum wage at best or refuses to pay.

He's making sound choices - maybe you should have.

If you've been together 3 1/2 years and
You've been resisting moving in together as you say I don't blame him for saying no. It seems like this move is due to you suddenly having no other option. It doesn't exactly scream I really love you and can't wait to
Live with you does it?

As long as you are registered as living there, paying council tax etc you can claim housing benefit. However depending how much your partner earns you may not be entitled to it on those grounds.

He is correct that could loose his secure tenancy if it was joint and you split. He has a son to Think about as well. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you it means you were so unsure about living together he wants to
Make Sure it's right before he risks his house on it.

AnotherEmma

Technically, he's also on benefits AnotherEmma. Just imagine he has a vagina and you'll be able to work up some compassion for him and his child.

Some people seem to have conveniently ignored the fact that although I've been defending the OP, I haven't been attacking her partner. It's not a Disney film FFS, there's no good guy and bad guy.

Ironic that people with zero compassion whatsoever for the OP are accusing me of lacking it!

Oh, you've attacked him. Anyway, it doesn't matter. He's not stupid enough to put the OP over his own child (which of course makes him a good father but I know you don't believe those exist) so I'm sure she won't stick around for very long.

Lucky escape I think.

Where and how did I attack him? Which post exactly? Which words?

Please do enlighten me...

"which of course makes him a good father but I know you don't believe those exist"

Say what now?! To quote a popular phrase on here: are you on glue?!

Attacking him by insisting that his refusal to prioritize the OP over his own child means he's not committed to the relationship (even though he's in the exact same position as the OP).

Implying that he doesn't deserve the tenancy.

The "on glue" thing is so cringy. You're the one attacking the guy with no information and for no reason. I'm not the one with issues.

Saying he doesn't seem to be committed to the relationship isn't a criticism, just an observation.

I wasn't implying that he didn't deserve the tenancy, I was just wondering how he got it.

You're putting words in my mouth that I didn't say - there's reading between the lines and there's making shit up!

I've read a lot of posts from people who are clearly attacking the OP. Why on earth you would single me out for imagined attacks of her partner I don't know. And accusing me of having "issues".. it's all very unpleasant and unnecessary

How could it be an "observation" when you didn't even know how he got the tenancy or about his child? Just call it what it is: a nasty assumption.

How am I "singling you out" by bringing up your own posts and your own words? Other posters tried to even ask questions or give balanced views but you started attacking the guy on the first page. Isn't that "unpleasant and unnecessary"?

Have I missed something? Upthread PPs are talking about OP not being able to claim HB because she's not on the tenancy. Are we now in a parallel universe where two people living together are not assessed for benefits on their joint household income?

Clearly OP cannot claim for HB for any contribution she makes to the rent. It must be a joint claim.

"you started attacking the guy on the first page"

Are you getting me confused with someone else? You must be.

I don't think so but since this is obviously going nowhere, maybe we should just accept that the OP is going to do whatever she likes, and hope that whatever decisions they end up making are good for the OP and her child AND her DP and his child.