AIBU to be so upset and think they shouldn't have led me on

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I was going through the process of adopting a romanian dog rescue. I have been putting off getting a dog for ages but finally decided after like two years when I saw this little puppy they posted.

I applied and was told I have been successful and they need to do a homecheck, I didn't get my hopes up too much as I have heard of people being unsuccessful from little things.

Just before the homecheck I was on their private secret fb group and commented that I was waiting for a homecheck, a volunteer replied that she was with the puppy that I applied for straight away, she sent me photos and said things like "you will fall in love with her when you see her" "she can't wait to come home to you". "Your puppy can't wait to see you" it was really nice of the lady and not going to lie got my hopes up.

Then the homecheck: the lady chatted away to me and at the end said 'I don't think there will be any problems, I will send off forms but I would prepare for puppy's name' if I were you '
We were still kind of holding our breaths at the this point but getting excited.

That night got a facebook message from homecheck lady who said thats the forms sent off, she said she can't wait to see my photos of the puppy and that she can puppy sit whenever I need.

Then yesterday got a phone call who said they won't let me have a puppy as I have stairs in my flat building and they don't think it would be a good idea for training. I explained that there will always be someone with her and we are dedicated to her training and my flat building is very small ( a terraced house converted into 6 flats on three floors ) there is probably more stairs in my mother's house than my flat building. She said she will discuss it with team and homecheck lady and get back to me as she think it would be a great home for the puppy we would be a great match and her heart is telling her yes.

Another phone call again today, it is definitely a no. She said since our check was overall good we can start the process for another dog but I feel disheartened by the whole thing. I would have never gotten my.hopes like this if it wasn't for everyone else sounding so sure.

AIBU to be so upset?? maybe I shouldn't have been so naive. Has this happened to anyone else ?

'Ideal' not 'deal' sorry.

Booboostwo well thank you for your very wise pearls of wisdom on owning a dog which you make sound like performing brain surgery, As I have stated, I have always owned dogs my whole life so thanks but no thanks on your "realities". What a very bleak life you lead.
Think that's enough trumpet blowing from you.

booboo I'm sorry but your initial post written in such tragic, misery lit type tones really made me snort. I wasn't actually sure you were serious and had to re-read a couple of times to check. You make owning a puppy sound on par with trekking the Hindu Kush wearing only a pair of flip flops 😆

We rescued a 6 month old puppy from Romania 4 months ago. We tried so many local rescues and sadly the dogs there were either not great with cats, needed another dog companion, had separation anxiety or could not be homed with children younger than teenagers (we have a 10 year old, 2 rescue cats and wanted a dog that we could eventually leave for a couple of hours to get food shopping etc).

Our beautiful Romanian dog was already in a foster home in the UK so we knew a lot about her temperament. She has made such a wonderful addition to our family. There is absolutely not an ounce of resource guarding, fear or aggression in her - she is a truly joyful soul.

Feel free to pm me and I can let you know which rescue we used.

If money has changed hands,sounds like a scam to me.

There was one just like this on the TV the other night. They sent the wrong papers and the dog hadn't had the correct quarantine.

OP I wonder how many rescues need to tell you that owning a dog can be hard work before you accept the possibility?

MsGame I assume you mean my second post? The one after the first dispassionate post that wasignored? Such a shame people are passionate about animals, I will try harder to be disinterested in future, thanks for the advice.

Another organisation worth trying are GAGAH.

They rehomed two fantastic greyhounds with me when I lived in a flat in Northern Scotland.

My greys were fantastic dogs and I'd have more (if DS wasn't allergic).

I'm from the North of Scotland too and there are plenty of rescue centres. We adopted a cat from one and a collie from another, both within 15 miles of city I'm guessing you're from.
I'm guessing you've already contacted the one beginning with M? Don't want to out where you actually are to everyone!

Booboostwo I have never once said they aren't hard work ??? Again, I have always owned dogs and I know what it takes. You are coming across like you think you are the only one worthy to own an animal 😂 i'm convinced your just trolling at this point

comelywenchlywoo a lady at work just told me about these, have made contact thanks so much x

My friend just adopted a dog from Romania. She had the dog 1 week and then asked for advice to help the dog settle more as he seemed really frightened. No help was offered but within 2 days the company came and took her dog back. She didn't want to lose the dog but had no choice. It was a fight to get her money back. You had a lucky escape.

donkir that is awful . Your poor friend and the poor DDog.

Glad I didn't pursue the little one I noted online now .

You're more than welcome booboo . And as the owner of a dog who passed on aged 15 and currently a high maintenance 8 month old Terrier I can assure I am extremely passionate about my dogs. Perhaps it's just the pragmatism and making a massive meal out of things that is the difference between us?