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My baby is 9 weeks old and I'm pregnant again

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giraffewithalongneck · 22/02/2017 17:36

Oh hell. My baby is 9 weeks old. We've had sex twice since she was born. Past 3 days I've had every symptom of pregnancy but thought there is no chance. I had a preg test in my bathroom cupboard so thought I'd do it just to ease my mind. Low and behold I'm pregnant.

I am in complete shock. It took us 3 years and fertility treatment to get our baby so this is a huge huge huge surprise.

Please tell me it'll be ok.

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Vandree · 22/02/2017 18:13

Sorry my pc posted too soon. By common I mean we are in Ireland and there are lots of "irish twins" around.

I have pcos and in fact my gyno advised us to have 2 close together as I would be fertile and not need lots of medication to ovulate and conceive.

VacantExpression · 22/02/2017 18:13

My youngest two have a tiny gap, the baby years were a blur which is the only thing I sometimes pine for, I feel like I don't remember everything clearly as I should, but I'd probably have that anyway, I don't know any different.

The pluses vastly outweigh any negatives anyway! congratulations OP, its wonderful, exciting news. Just take it easy when you get chance x

Needastrongone · 22/02/2017 18:14

ps - only 18 months between mine, hard work but wouldn't have it any other way for us, looking back.

ShizerMinelli · 22/02/2017 18:14

Congratulations! As pp have said - the first year is such a blur anyway, and being pregnant whilst having a newborn will be your norm, same as people who have multiples as first babies.

You'll be wonderful - hope it's happy news once it sinks in. Ready made playmates.

Needastrongone · 22/02/2017 18:19

Oh and my friends twins were IVF, the pregnancy natural. She said even having 3 babies all at once was never as stressful as wanted a child and not being able to have one.x

NavyandWhite · 22/02/2017 18:20

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FearandLoathinginLasVegas · 22/02/2017 18:21

Embrace it. No fertility treatment again! It really is fabulous news. (and they will just about be in different school years) which is also a blessing! I'd go on all the twins websites and look at how you can get two babies into routines etc.. as although its not exactly the same there'll be loads of tips on there..

MimsyFluff · 22/02/2017 18:23

18 months between my eldest and middle child was so very easy with the age group. Surprise 5 year gap baby it was hellish with school runs, after school activities and naps for DC3!

MsHooliesCardigan · 22/02/2017 18:23

Congratulations. MIL had 5 DCs under 4 at one point-3,2,1 and newborn twins and then went on to have another three. DD was at nursery with twins whose mum had another one 11 months later. Of course it will be hard but, as they get older, it's much easier having a smaller gap. It seems really common for people who conceive after fertility treatment to then get pregnant naturally. Good luck.

RachelRagged · 22/02/2017 18:24

That's lovely OP

Congratulations to you and your DH , ,and your little one already here.

Flowers You will be fine .

BikeRunSki · 22/02/2017 18:24

It'll be fine. I gave a friend with girls 10 months apart. They are now both 5 (for a few weeks!). Her second pg was deliberate (something to do with professional exams) and, she says, easy. Basically the girls have been treated like twins from being about 12/22 months. The younger (although also taller) one just had to do stuff earlier. She was gutted when she couldn't start school at the same time, but she moved from nursery to the preschool attached to her sister's school.

PCDC · 22/02/2017 18:27

Oh how lovely! Irish twins! My DH and his brother are 11 months apart and very close; it will be fine I'm sure Flowers

Stopyourhavering · 22/02/2017 18:28

Congratulations....at least they won't be in the same school year which may be of some consolation

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 22/02/2017 18:33

Oh how lovely! Irish twins! My DH and his brother are 11 months apart and very close; it will be fine I'm sure

Wish people would RTFT before repeating things that has a few times been pointed out as offensive even by the OP!

Congratulations OP Flowers

Happyandhungry · 22/02/2017 18:34

I am Irish and not offended by "Irish twins" lighten up people. Don't ask on a public forum about your situation if you don't want to hear opinions such as abortion etc, if that offends you so greatly then you've made your decision you're keeping your baby and you'll be fine! Good luck.

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 22/02/2017 18:36

I am Irish and not offended by "Irish twins" lighten up people.

That's fine, however there have been a number of threads about this and there are Irish people who are.

Just because you aren't offended it doesn't mean it isn't offensive.

redrosered · 22/02/2017 18:37

I thought me being pregnant 4 months after my 1st was quick 😂 .. Don't worry you have 9 months ... And congratulations ! Xxxx

waterrat · 22/02/2017 18:38

In a way it seems quite convenient to get pregnancy over with while you have a newborn - you'll be exhausted anyway! newborn and 1 yr old also has its pluses - they both have naps, you know you need a double buggy, no toddler tantrums to deal with, the 1 yr old will never remember life before the newborm.

but as someone said are you sure it isn't just hormones from your first pregnancy?

Mamadothehump · 22/02/2017 18:38

Ah, congratulations! You are, of course, going to have a tough few years but you can do it and I'm sure your DC's will love being close in age!!

LundyFastnetIrishSea · 22/02/2017 18:38

(Irish) Irish twin here! And not offended.

Congratulations OP.

And, er, sometimes getting pregnant so quickly after the first can cause the 'second twin' to be born prematurely, so there is less than 9 months between the two... Yep. Awkward.

Lolimax · 22/02/2017 18:39

Op massive lovely congrats to you. Ignore all the bitchy nasty comments. I had 13 months between mine. We all survived. They are now 19 and 20 and I wouldn't change a thing. I agree the first couple of years are a knackered blur but they always have each other for company and I got my career back quite quickly. I have a lot less photos of the second one than I do of the first so don't make the same mistake? In fairness it was in the days before camera phones!
You'll be fine, some things are meant to happen.

NorksAkimbo72 · 22/02/2017 18:40

Congratulations OP! 🎊🎉 My two are 15 months apart...i won't lie, it was pretty hard when dc2 was a baby, but they are 9&10 now and are best friends. The first year will be tough, but it will get much easier as they get older....i obviously don't know otherwise, but I'm really glad I had them close together (and dc2 was a complete surprise for us, too!!).

bigbuttons · 22/02/2017 18:40

Just because you aren't offended it doesn't mean it isn't offensive.

people like to get offended by pretty much everything

morningrunner · 22/02/2017 18:40

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derxa · 22/02/2017 18:41

Why is Irish twins an offensive thing to say? We've had two massive threads recently explaining why.