My baby is 9 weeks old and I'm pregnant again

[giraffewithalongneck]

Oh hell. My baby is 9 weeks old. We've had sex twice since she was born. Past 3 days I've had every symptom of pregnancy but thought there is no chance. I had a preg test in my bathroom cupboard so thought I'd do it just to ease my mind. Low and behold I'm pregnant.

I am in complete shock. It took us 3 years and fertility treatment to get our baby so this is a huge huge huge surprise.

Please tell me it'll be ok.

[measles64]

Giraffe, brilliant news after the hard road you have trod. Now get every, grandparent, relation and friend on board to help you to cope with this after baby is born.

[glueandstick]

The first year with a baby is a complete blur so you're getting it done in one fell swoop.

Congrats!!

[Obsessedalready]

FontainaGrimbot Twins seems to cope ok

Congratulations OP, you will manage, I bet it's such a welcome surprise after infertility!

[PurpleDaisies]

It's my opinion you can't offer two babies this close together the time and attention they require.

It's a good thing nobody needs your permission. I'm interested how you know anyone else's capacity for raising children without ever having met them.

[FontainaGrimbot]

I agree with batteries

Tbh I wish someone had given me an alternative perspective instead of telling me how wonderful it was having a baby, how it was all worth it etc etc

But they didn't so when he was born and I didn't have that experience I felt like there was something terribly wrong with me.

I should rephrase anyway: I couldn't give two babies that close together enough time and attention. I just know I couldn't.

Fair play to anyone that has managed and enjoyed it but I know that I couldn't.

[Blueskyrain]

It's my opinion you can't offer two babies this close together the time and attention they require

Thank goodness humans never have twins then...

[Panicmode1]

Congratulations - my first two are 15 months apart, a friend of mine had 12 months - it's hard, very hard at times, I won't lie, but in other ways it's a bit easier because you are still in the 'baby' zone and haven't got used to the luxury of sleep filled nights again.

My older two are very close - spar verbally all the time, but adore each other really and miss each other terribly when they aren't together!!

[OllyBJolly]

Congratulations!

My nephews are 11 months apart - there's a month when they are the same age. They have always been really close, and DSis says that she thinks in some ways it was easier because they kept each other amused whereas one took all her attention. (She is a glass half full person!). They also liked the same things so same football practice, same drama group.

Can you post a picture of your DH's face when you break the news?!

[DianaMemorialJam]

Fon no one is dressing it up as a bed of roses. But the op has gone through the hell of infertility treatment, just had a baby and is going to have another. So people that have experienced similar are offering how it felt for them. It isn't easy, I can assure you. I have an 8 week old and a 1 year old and some days I want to tear my hair out. But when I see them together and they're both so happy it makes it worth it.

[Hotfuzzed]

If baby is 9 weeks then I'm assuming it wasn't born in 2016 anyway so Irish twins comments aren't just offensive but inaccurate.

[StrangeLookingParasite]

OMG! Wow, But I think it will be amazing. Hard, absolutely, but amazing.

[Soubriquet]

I think I would have an abortion too tbh

I was in a similar situation. Just found out I was pregnant when Ds was 9 weeks.

I had a misscarriage before i could look into an abortion and as horrible as it sounds I was relieved. Even though it was my third misscarriage

It's entirely up to you what you want to do. Abortion is a valid option. Don't feel you HAVE to have another baby

But if you want to carry on with the pregnancy, congratulations

[Allatseainthemidlands]

OP congratulations! You will be fine- very tired probably - but fine. Just be sure to rest up as much as you can now- being pregnant with a tiny baby will be hard work.

[DianaMemorialJam]

I still stand by the fact that mentioning abortion to a new mother is in such poor taste, no matter what you say.

[archersfan22]

Our second one happened straight away before we'd really started trying despite our first only happening after four years of unsuccessful trying. It's weird how things can change isn't it? I know a few other people who have had problems with the first but not the second. There is much more of a gap than you so I now have the problem of a tall sturdy 3 year old kicking me in the belly, having to wrestle with all 15kg plus of him when he has a tantrum etc - at least you won't have to worry about that too much during pregnancy.

[Fossie]

I found having my first two 12 months apart much easier than any other gap with my other children. They are both in nappies together, both may nap together. You have fewer things to drag yourself out the house for such as toddler groups. Will they be in the same school year group? Mine weren't so that helped with having their own group of friends. Up to school age we just had common friends for both.

[Hatemylifenow]

I could never do it. One of my worst fears was twins as they're in DH's family.

My 11 mo hares round the place like a rocket on speed, no way could I be sitting cluster feeding a newborn at the same time as watching him.

I'm in awe of everyone who has them this close together, you are far superior parents to me!!!!

[TheABC]

Congratulations! I am also slightly envious that you got your mojo back early - I am still prodding mine into action (too bloody many) months on. There are lots of pluses to having two babies close together, not least that you get the nappies and the teething out of the way that bit quicker. And the companionship will be lovely.

[nameenvy]

Congratulations I know a few people who once their body figured it out after if got pregnant really fast. Several of them have small gas between them and it's great. Hard when they are tiny but hest buds after a while.what fantastic news for you both. Be brave and it will be super!!

[nameenvy]

Gaps and best obvs

[Vandree]

Congratulations! I have 14 months between my older two and its lovely, they are the very best of friends (also means I can be lazy about playdates because they have a built in playmate lol) . I wont lie, it was bloody tough and the first year was a bit of a blur. But as they have gotten older its been easier with them close in age. They can go to after school activities together so less running around. Its very common.

[Vandree]

Congratulations! I have 14 months between my older two and its lovely, they are the very best of friends (also means I can be lazy about playdates because they have a built in playmate lol) . I wont lie, it was bloody tough and the first year was a bit of a blur. But as they have gotten older its been easier with them close in age. They can go to after school activities together so less running around. Its very common.

[Julia001]

Its going to be so much fun, knackering, but brilliant ! Congratulations !! and as for "irish twins" I am of irish heritage and have never heard that comment before, and I cannot be arsed to be offended because it wasnt mean't in "that " way. Some people need to wind their necks in and stop being offended by everything, Just because you are offended, doesn't make you right.

[Hatemylifenow]

It was the op who was offended julia

[Needastrongone]

OP my friend was pregnant just a couple months after having twins, just giving some food for thought.

They are 15/16 now and lovely. And she coped just fine.