My baby is 9 weeks old and I'm pregnant again

[giraffewithalongneck]

Oh hell. My baby is 9 weeks old. We've had sex twice since she was born. Past 3 days I've had every symptom of pregnancy but thought there is no chance. I had a preg test in my bathroom cupboard so thought I'd do it just to ease my mind. Low and behold I'm pregnant.

I am in complete shock. It took us 3 years and fertility treatment to get our baby so this is a huge huge huge surprise.

Please tell me it'll be ok.

[Maverick66]

Congratulations.
Everything will be just fine.
Hard work but you'll survive.
One day you will be glad things worked out this way.

[Areyoufree]

It's just like buses, isn't it? Congrats!

[mygorgeousmilo]

This happened to me!! First baby felt like an impossible feat of nature, we had so much trauma trying to conceive. Second baby, conceived 12 weeks after I had the first and the FIRST time we tried having sex. FWIW it was so painful we then held off for a while, so I know it was that time. It's the most perfect accident that has ever happened to me, it wasn't too hard when they were little, although fairly intense and busy. Now that they're at school, we can do tonnes together as there's not one active kid and a tiny baby that can't do much. It's fortunate you can do it in this way, it really is, plus your career break/babying etc is done in one chunk. Once they're at school at basically the same time, you can start to think of yourself again. My eldest didn't go to the school nursery, but when he went to reception the younger one went to nursery so they effectively started school together. Happy days

[Grenoble124]

Congratulations. Fantastic news. I had donor ivf and have an 8mo. Would have loved that. Will be hard but a miracle and will be so close in age. x

[Peanut14]

Congratulations OP, you'll be fine. It'll be tough going at times but worth it.

This Irish twins thing is driving me mad. I do not find it offensive and I'm Irish. And just because some people do, does not mean I have to. And what the OP posted about Irish twins is referring to the 1800's.......

[Ericaequites]

Congrats, giraffe! Siblings born close together stay close throughout their lives. My brother and sister were born 15 months apart, and are still quite close at 57 and 56. It is very hard when they are tiny, but can start entertaining each other at four or five.

[SanitysSake]

I think it's wonderful!

The absolute best of luck to you xx

[septembersunshine]

It will be awesome! We had 3 in 3 years so at one point we had a 3 year old, a 16 month old and a newborn. Man it was crazy but they were the best days. My third baby was rhe the surprise but she is utterly amazing and the world wouldn't be the same withour her. My advice to you would be get a good double pram! We had a phil and teds but in hindsight i wish i had chosen a side by side has my number 3 hated being on the bottom. Congrats op!

[Hatemylifenow]

Siblings born close together stay close throughout their lives

This really isn't necessarily true, I'm super close to my sister who is five years younger than me and not close at all to the one who is 11 months younger.

It depends on personality.

[Trainspotting1984]

Wow OP! I could've easily chucked in the thought of another at 9 weeks- we were both massively broody straight after having her, it was pretty easy and c section so we started having sex quite soon after she was born. I reckon you'll smash it

[Olympiathequeen]

Congratulations. It will all be ok. Just try to rest as much as you can while the baby is small as the first months of pregnancy is so tiring

[passmethewineplease]

Ah congratulations! I found out we were expecting DC3 when DS2 was 8 weeks!

Yes it's hard. And given the chance I would wait longer but it hasn't it's pros as well!

trying to name a few

[ThatsPlenty]

Why is Irish twins an offensive thing to say?.... it isn't in Ireland. Seems other people get offended on our behalf. I don't know anyone here who is offended by it.

[PeppaPigTastesLikeBacon]

It'll be fine. Congratulations!
They do say that pregnancy happens when things relax for people who struggled before (e.g. Previous pregnancy so not stressing about getting pregnant or deciding to adopt etc)

Irish twins was discussed in another threat the other day. Never heard it before and this is the 2nd time in the space of a week on MN

[Gobbolinothewitchscat]

It will be fine. I have 13 months between my 3 and 4 year olds and it was so fine we had another baby when they were 1 and 2!

[Serin]

Congratulations.
I can understand why some would find that hard work but I personally didn't. If you are tied down with one DC, you might as well be tied down with 2!!
You will be fine.

[deluxetruffles]

Oh God, I would not have coped at all. Sorry, probably deeply unhelpful, but the thought of having a tiny baby and being pregnant is horrific to me. That is no doubt because I had a really awful pregnancy and birth though and felt pretty crap throughout.

Hope it all goes well for you and hope you have lots of family to rely on!
Just goes to show everyone, it only takes one shag to get pregnant. We tell our children and young people this, so why do we not listen to the same advice?

[ssssm]

Huge congrats Giraffe - I know it's sooner than you expected but also better than - how lovely for you and yours

[shinynewusername]

I still stand by the fact that mentioning abortion to a new mother is in such poor taste

How ridiculous. New mothers aren't the Borg; they have varied views on abortion, just like everyone else. Just because you have pushed a baby out of your fanjo, doesn't mean that you need to be shielded from honest discussion like a Victorian maiden.

As a GP, I know that an accidental pregnancy very soon after a baby is one of the commonest reasons for seeking an abortion. It is a hard enough decision without trying to shut down or stigmatise women for even mentioning it as an option.

No one on this thread has said that the OP should have an abortion, only that it an option they might themselves have chosen. There is enough censorship of women talking about their reproductive rights at the moment, without MN joining in.

[StopShoutingAtYourBrother]

Congrats OP. You'll be fine even if you're reeling right now!

[marvelmummy13]

They say that once you stop trying the ease of stress can make it easy to conceive. Like when people adopt after years of trying and then become pregnant. It's fate. Congratulations everything will be fine you will be a fantastic mother I'm sure. Ignore the abortion comments some people don't realise how much someone wishes for a child and sometimes they use their own circumstances to make judgemental comments just because they would have an abortion and couldn't cope doesn't mean you can't/ don't want to . It sounds like you really want this but of course you're a little bit worried about having two babies so close in ages and how much work thats going to take. But you know what they say. Twice the work but twice the love, happiness and proud moments =] Congratulations!!!!!

[HighwayDragon1]

Well I never knew it was offensive, maybe I should tell my Irish relatives this? Given this is a phrase bandied about a lot where they live...

[ChrisYoungFuckingRocks]

There is one minute between my DTs! It really annoys me when people tell me: Oh, I have two children very close in age, so I know exactly what you're going through. No, you don't. I think two babies almost a year apart would be much much easier than twins. If all us mums with twins (or more) can do it, then you'll be just fine .

[UnbornMortificado]

Massive congratulations

I'm massively in awe of parents who cope with two close together.

I left it 9 years before having DD2.

[Namesarehard]

Congratulations. My oldest two are 12&13. We also have a 1 year old. I feel sad for the little one that she won't have a sibling so close (can't afford another). I love our small age gap. You'll be absolutely fine. And it'd even more wonderful you won't have to go through treatment again. X